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This past weekend I caught my sixteen year old son having sex. How should I go about this touchy subject? ↓
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| Name: roseywosey | Date: May 2nd, 2007 3:25 AM |
| just hand him a box of condoms and talk to him about the risks hes taking.. then let him go for it.. you can lock him in the house i guess? what thats not really gunna achieve anything.. if hes already sexually active.. chances are he will keep having sex and you wont be able to stop him really.. ↑ |
| Name: momo | Date: May 2nd, 2007 6:19 AM |
| agree with rosey...just make sure he is aware of every consequence and knows all about protection..Just talk with him...and be there for him. don't express you dissapointment, then he won't talk to you about things ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: May 2nd, 2007 6:05 PM |
| what else can you do???? force him to get a vasectomy? ↑ |
| Name: CutsBruises | Date: May 2nd, 2007 7:03 PM |
| i agree throw him some comdoms, nd tell him to be careful ↑ |
| Name: tattudemom | Date: May 2nd, 2007 11:54 PM |
| I agree that once they start, nothing you say will change whether or not they decide to keep on. Having said that, I told my son to take responsibility for condom use whether or not his girlfriend is "on the pill" or whatever. He's been with his girlfriend for several years now, but I tell him better safe than sorry. Also, no sex in my house, period! LOL Lastly, I talked to him about how if he loves his girlfriend (or even if he didn't), it's cruel, disgusting, and just being a jerk for guys to discuss their sexual relationship with anyone. Because of the emotional effects of having sex both immediately and later on, I remind him that it can be a horrible memory for a girl and/or guy if things get discussed around school, etc. or it can be special and sweet. Of course, I'd rather he'd stayed a virgin, but then I'd have had to lock him away. There's only so much we can do as parents. ↑ |
| Name: MyTwoBabies | Date: May 2nd, 2007 11:55 PM |
| Make sure he has condoms!!!! ↑ |
| Name: jjj64 | Date: May 8th, 2007 6:35 PM |
| I know that buying condoms is the simple, obvious course of action, but I am having trouble accepting this fix as the right answer. I do not want to condone the fact that he has had sex. Does anyone have any other ideas? I have twins, one is the sixteen year old boy that is having sex, but the other is a girl. If this issue arises with her, do I also just give her a box of condoms or put her on the pill? ↑ |
| Name: tattudemom | Date: May 8th, 2007 11:01 PM |
Here's my response to another mom's thread, who caught her daughter recently:
You don't have to condone her behavior, but if you want her to be safe (knowing she'll probably keep on), you're going to have to get her on some form of birth control and strongly recommend condom use despite their lengthy relationship. You never know who he's slept with or if he's faithful. Let her know how you feel about it from every angle, religiously, emotionally, physically, as her mom, as her advocate/friend, and make her sit and listen, but also give her a chance to respond. Once you've done that, there really is nothing you can do except trust her. I'd let the boyfriend know full well that you know too. I told my son's girlfriend to her face that I knew what they were up to, but I'd known this girl for five years beforehand, so it wasn't as awkward talking to her. There is no easy solution. Do what you can and don't make it easy for them by leaving them at home alone, etc. Encourage her to be busy away from him by working, doing activities you know he won't be at, school, sports, stuff with you, church, whatever keeps her busy. She IS old enough to move out as soon as she turns 17 (in GA anyway), so there isn't much you can do to forbid her seeing him though. ↑ |
| Name: DAD | Date: May 15th, 2007 3:00 PM |
| My son will soon to be 16 his friends are 16 and I have a daughter who is 14. I have sat down with them and gave them the talk on sex / std and pregnancy I know my son will have fun like all boys do but with this fun comes responsablity. I did not tell him not to just that if and when you do BE a man about it. The talk i had with my daughter was a bit difrent. ↑ |
| Name: DefendUs | Date: May 29th, 2007 12:10 AM |
| Name: screamo_emo | Date: Feb 2nd, 2008 2:44 AM |
just throw condoms at him and say be safe at least and then go away
if he wants to talk then he'll talk ↑ |
| Name: nicodemus | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 5:28 AM |
| make his dad approach him with the embarrasing parts of taking responsibility for the actions he has made and will do. and yes, of course the condoms. we do not need more babies, neither do we like aids. ↑ |
| Name: oilybabyman | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 3:07 PM |
| i caught my 12 year old havin sex with a 20 year old man. i punished my daughter and told ehr not to have sex with the 20 year old man again. ↑ |
| Name: oilybabyman | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 7:49 PM |
| turns out that the 20 year old man was one of her fathers friends.... ↑ |
| Name: softoilybaby | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 7:53 PM |
| why is that a big deal... seriously. i know a 16 year old kid, a junior in high school, whos had sex with twelve different partners. hes turning out fine ↑ |
| Name: oilybabyman | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 9:00 PM |
| yeah soft oily baby i know a guy like that and he sucks a lot ↑ |
| Name: smoothbabytouch | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 9:55 PM |
| This past weekend I caught my sixteen year old daughter having sex with your sixteen year old son. I video taped it if you wanna see it with me. ↑ |
| Name: melrose08 | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 11:15 PM |
| Im 16 and Im not going to lie. Everybody is a whore/ man whore in highschools. Hook ups crazy. Its fine he is having sex but just disturbing you had to see it. I feel for you... ↑ |
| Name: Seranis | Date: Dec 17th, 2008 1:04 AM |
Speaking as a 14-year-old gay male, I'm not sure I'm qualified to answer this question, but I'd say condoms are the best way to go. If you try to ban him from sex, you'll get what I like to call the Prohibition effect: he'll go to extreme lengths to have it.
Oh, but don't buy him condoms. The least he can do is walk his ass to the store to get them. Let him get embarassed about it. ↑ |
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