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I used to be really close with my son, but recently he doesn't have the time of day for me. He is thirteen years old, and I guess that's part of it, but I really miss our time together. I want him to have a good relationship with me, and I want him to know that I am there for him. What can I do to bond with him again? ↓
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| Name: key mom | Date: Jul 26th, 2005 12:56 AM |
| I know i have a 13 year old too, all thouw he is my step son i have had him sence he was 5 and we i thought were really close, now he is pushing me away. it's i dont want to go, ill stay home etc.. i make him go at leastonce every two weeks t=with me to the store when i explained myself to him hes cool with it and its a little better i just make sure he knows im here and come to me at any time. i think in his heart he knows it. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne | Date: Aug 2nd, 2005 5:30 AM |
| I feel the same way about my 14 year old daughter. I find that sometimes what we can't say out loud to each other...we say in writing..either letters or email...I still try very hard to keep conversations going...but sometimes she just shut me out...I send her little notes to keep connected. ↑ |
| Name: elizabeth | Date: Aug 26th, 2005 7:48 AM |
| you know your son best, spend time with him doing things that he likes to do. Give him space but in the same token let him know you are not that far off if he needs you. ↑ |
| Name: Tina | Date: Oct 6th, 2005 10:24 PM |
| Thats just the teenage years starting.. Make a date like every other wednesday night for a movie together or take him to a place you like to go together for fun and catch up on each others week. ↑ |
| Name: Margo | Date: Jan 10th, 2006 7:52 PM |
| My youngest son is a tall, quiet guy kind of guy but we still did some things together until several months ago. We would go to dinner or lunch, or he would just stop by for a few minutes. He even would go to a movie with his Mom every few months, which I thought was really special. Several months ago, he suddenly stopped calling, stopped coming by, rarely goes to dinner with me. I think his best friend might have gotten to him with jokes about liking his mom, you know, being a Momma's boy, which he certainly was not. I miss him. I feel a chronic sadness, since I have little family left and little contact with the older ones. I know it is time but I miss occasional times with my son. ↑ |
| Name: Diamond | Date: Jan 11th, 2006 4:11 AM |
| Hi I am a teenager and i think i have a suggestion, just one sorry! Try to find a time when your son is around the house for a couple hours and take him out to eat just him and you. Since it might be hard to find a time together, don't ask him to make time like: "What day do you want to go out to eat?" I mean you could try but in a young persons mind when your parents ask to hang out with you it kind of annoying and when you say 'no' or cop an attitude you feel quilty about it later so just find a moment or so out of the weekend or when you pick him up from school and say 'Hey lets go to Chili's or Baskin-Robbins, or -where ever- say it is your treat cuz we young people love free anything! don't mention that you want to talk or want to get to know eachother again, those are words we roll our eyes to, just make it simple "hey lets go to..." and more likely then not while you're waiting in line or sitting and eating things will just naturally happen whether it's talking or just enjoying eachother's company. Hope it works! come back and tell me if you tried! ↑ |
| Name: Andy | Date: Jan 13th, 2006 8:41 PM |
I seperated from my partner 3 years ago and was always close to my daughter, but she is now 15 and over the last year I have tried to talk to her but she never seems to have the time .It seems from what she says I only have something to say when she has done something wrong,which on occasions that is true ,but now it seems as soon as I ask to talk to her she becomes defensive.
I miss her very much and hope it is a phase. ↑ |
| Name: Connie | Date: Jan 24th, 2006 12:59 AM |
I am a single Mom with a 16 year old boy. I know being seen out with his mother would not be cool. (Am I dating myself using cool?) My solution, on holidays we do guy things, eg. white water rafting, hummer rides, this year, zip line accross a gorge. Am I scared of these things? Yes I am. Do I let it show? No I do not. I'm hoping he'll have memories of these vacations, instead of remembering how boring his growing up years were with his Mom.
P.S. I have growen to like (a great deal actually) The Simpsons. We watch it together, and laugh a lot. I am thankful for any time I spend with him. ↑ |
| Name: davon | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 1:00 AM |
| Name: susie | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 4:49 AM |
| I have a son that is almost 13......and a son that is 8...right now...i am missing my 21 yr old son....he and I were togethere alone... since he was 5.....i remarried....I probablly didn't handle things the best i could.....I am now trying to mend things...... ↑ |
| Name: suzie | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 5:00 AM |
| you feel like I do...never give up....my sons are 21, 12 and 8.....l love my boys but they can be so mean....keep pushing,...never ever stop ↑ |
| Name: emma | Date: Mar 9th, 2006 7:30 PM |
| you know i always had rapor, with my son hes now moved out and i miss him so, we talk on the phone but there is something missing in him, ↑ |
| Name: Maybee | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 5:44 PM |
| well if you know what he likes to do then i think you could set like a family vacation or something for a thirteen year old already being so busy must mean that he has more important things i guess.try doing something that he really likes and that wont hurt you or anyone in any way. ↑ |
| Name: sue | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 12:23 AM |
| Give him freedom to grow. Be there. He will return to be close as he grows as long as he knows he can trust your love is waiting for him without strings. ↑ |
| Name: dana finsley | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 3:13 AM |
| i miss my son a lot i need to see him so bad i will get to see him this summer so i will all aways see now..!! ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 1:56 AM |
| Is he blowing you off or not talking to you as he used to?It could just be he feels more independent and doesnt need mom as much anymore,(but he does of course).Or it could be hes hanging with the wrong group of so called (friends) and if thats the case you better be finding out and doing something about it before your son gets drug down to a place where you dont want him to be. ↑ |
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