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I have a 16 year old daughter that really does not like having girls for friends. She prefers guys as friends. Why? She says girls her age are vicious, vindictive, sex-crazed, druggies etc.. I really want her to have a close friend but not if that's how a lot of teens act now a days. Is it? She says guys are easier to talk to and don't play the games girls do. She just doesn't want to be bothered. There has got to be some nice girls out there. ↓
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| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 1:14 AM |
| hello im 17 about to have a baby. i know exactly what your daughter means im the same all of my friends through highschool were boys i could talk to them easier than anyone else. i still havent got any close "girl" friends. the reason i got along with boys to much more than girls is because there is no competition on who looks the best, who has the best make-up, who has the hottest boyfriend etc. boys just take you for who you are and they arent bitchy and they dont talk behind your back most of them if they have a problem they will tell ya.. so Andy dont panic if she wants to have all her friends boys let her oneday she might get into a really good crowd of girls but then again she might not i think all that really matters is that shes happy :) she will be fine ↑ |
| Name: Suzi | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 2:21 AM |
| Honestly, don't worry about it. I'm 19 and have always preferred to hang out with guys- manyof the people who know the most about me happen to be my guy friends. Sadly, your daughter is right. Especially in high school, girls can be vicious. Boys will yell and holler and maybe swing a punch to get their aggression out while girls are hardly ever this straightforward. They start rumors, tell lies, talk behind each other's backs, etc. Only problem I'd look out for is bullying. Many girls I know who prefer guys do so because of negative experiences. Your daughter more than likely just likes the straightforward-ness of guys, but I'd be on the lookout (or ask her) for bullying from other girls just in case. ↑ |
| Name: Andy | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 3:17 AM |
| Thanks Sarah and Suzi. I really appreciate your responses. Good luck with the baby Sarah and I agree with you that as long as she is happy it's not a big deal. Sometimes though she looks pretty sad.. Suzi, I think your right. Unfortunately, she probably does get bullied because she is a really pretty little blonde. People automatically think since you are cute you must be stuck up. She is just the opposite. It's a shame people, not just kids are so cruel. Wow, you two are very wise for such a young age. Thanks again. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 7:44 AM |
| if your daughter is pretty, blonde etc. they wouldnt be bullying her because of her hanging out with all boy. its because they are jelous of her.. my mum told me the same thing i didnt understand back then but i do now.. she looks stuck up to them because she is so pretty. and they dont realise that you can be pretty and a have a good heart as well. at the same time. ↑ |
| Name: terri | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 5:05 AM |
| omg let her be happy! she is so right about teenage girls there so competitive and self absorbed. I would be rapt if my daughter turned out like yours! You should be happy for her ↑ |
| Name: ??? | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 3:51 PM |
| Name: Aaron | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 6:08 PM |
| OMG !!! Most girls can be all them things tho so dont be horrible to her for what she likes. ↑ |
| Name: steph | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 2:51 PM |
| To a citain extent i think she is right, girls are bitchy and they spend most of their time obsessing about boys, she will have friends that are girls when shes ready but for now she might just like to stick to having boys as friands. its not unnatural, some of the best friends your can have are male. there may be qualities in boys that she won't find in girls. its not really that bigger deal. she may find there are more important things and this is just a small issue, as long as she is happy there is no need to worry. ↑ |
| Name: amanda | Date: Mar 22nd, 2006 6:58 PM |
| i am like that we just get along better with guys ↑ |
| Name: Violet | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 5:20 AM |
| lol, I didnt have any girlfriends until my first year of university. I found it easier to relate to males in highschool. all of the girls my age were vapid morons who only cared for boys and makup. the guys i hung around with played sports and were good friends. if one of them pissed you off, you would tell them, have a little tif and me knocking shoulders ten minutes later. Not like girls who would tell anyone but me if they were pissed at me. I have found my girl best friend who thinks most girls are annoying as well. We have a great friendship, sometimes it just takes time to find the right girl.I wouldnt worry about it though. Girls that hang out with guys are less likely to go out and have random sex or develop eating disorders. Its a good thing!!! ↑ |
| Name: Maura | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 3:25 PM |
I know how she feels... I'm 16 and I don't have any close female friends. A couple of years ago I was badly bullied by a group of girls, and spent a couple of years trying to prove to self that I can get along with some girls... but to be honest, it seems that either they hurt me, or eventually I hurt them because I'm sick of their ways. However, this generally doesn't happen when I'm friends with guys and I tend to be much happier.
The point I am rambling on to make is that it's really not a problem if she prefers guys as friends, some people are just like that. Whether she's been through a lot of hurt due to female friends or if she just really dislikes the way she behaves, she prefers guys as friends and it doesn't really matter. Be happy that she has friends and that she doesn't simply despise the whole human race.
Really. It's nothing to worry about.
She's saving herself a lot of aggravation.
Clever girl. ↑ |
| Name: Monique | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 3:45 PM |
| Give her a break. I'm 17 and I can proudly say I have been the same way since I was 12. It's not who your friends are that will take you far in life but they can help you get though it. The only girl that I can stand to talk to to this day is the same way. We both would rather be friends with guys because we feel more at ease that way. Just be glad she is friends with those she can rely on. If that is the only way she is comfortable leave-it-be, or she could be a possible hermit and not talk to anyone. And another thing if you push to make her change she will resent you, I know me and my mother still aren't on good terms because the of the friends I choose. ↑ |
| Name: Carrie | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 7:56 PM |
| im 18 and all my life i hate chillen with girls they are too..... girly? u know i mean yea im a gir and love to wear make up dress sexy and cute like all girls do but when i chill with guys i fell more.... like my self. they are easer to get along with and just cuz shes chillen with them dont mean she's doing any thing else!!! i also hate chillen with girls because they are all having sex with different people ( id b more worried with a couple girls chilling to gather go out then i would with her and a couple close guy friends)..get to know them u will probley like the sence of "big brother" they will start to fell with here. they will start to look out 4 here and keep her safe.. and if its anything like my case i fell in love with my best friend and we r getting married next April :-).. we were friends all my life.. and i know him better then i know my self.. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 3:10 PM |
| If youre sure your daughter is on the up and up and not hanging with guys she shouldnt then I wouldnt worry about it.She will find a (girl) friend when she meets one she feels she has something in common with and they communicate well.Not all girls are as she claims but she probably has witnessed a thing or two she didnt care for where girls are concerened and it probably blew her whole perception of friendships with girls (for now). Girls do like to gossip and some are back stabbers so maybe its got something to do with something like that.Maybe she feels girls arent as trustworthy as guys. But if shes not getting in trouble and you have met and approve of her guy friends then I wouldnt worry. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 3:31 PM |
| continuing.....it could also be that shes just more (tom boy) rather than (girly girl) and so she just feels more comfortable hanging with guys.Dont worry unless you see bad behavior out of her,otherwise its harmless. ↑ |
| Name: Megan | Date: Apr 8th, 2006 10:12 AM |
| some girls like talking to guys more than girls god get over it]]] ↑ |
| Name: michell | Date: Apr 8th, 2006 2:19 PM |
| hi peole dose any one have msn an di will chat to you please ↑ |
| Name: Jason | Date: Apr 11th, 2006 9:28 AM |
| even if i am a boy let your daughter decide wath she wants if she wants girls for friend let her do it she is growing up u know if u can just let her go maybe some years from now she will find a bf and merry him but.....that all i can say for now ↑ |
| Name: Erin McIntosh | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 7:29 PM |
| In my opinion I believe that it's perfectly natural for your daughter to hang around with boys ↑ |
| Name: jovan,17 | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 3:39 PM |
| im 17 yrs old and i totally agree with your daughter. young girls are very hard to get along with. they're jealous and dont appreciate nothing. dont worry. i have plenty of guy friends but also some colse girl friends. ur daughter will meet a girl one day. ↑ |
| Name: nia | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 3:59 AM |
| man this is some seriouse stuff ↑ |
| Name: nicole | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 1:13 AM |
| i'm 13 i mostly hang around guys,but still have girlreinds.maby at least 3-4.she is rigth girls are vicouse and all that.you should leave her alone,and maby somday she will find a girl freind thats not like that ↑ |
| Name: Tre Mitchell | Date: Apr 30th, 2006 6:37 PM |
| Name: cierrra | Date: May 1st, 2006 12:54 AM |
| well she is just like a teen you need to get use to it girls are like that i belive girls are stuck upp bitches guys go wit the flow i would not worry about it she will get over it but that means you need to let her be that way leave her alone kk ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: May 2nd, 2006 7:10 AM |
| That was the case for me too when I was in school. Girls are mean and guys are just laid back and fun. No judgine. Simple minded. That is refreshing sometimes. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: May 5th, 2006 3:36 PM |
| I think sh's going through a faze she'll come around. Mabee try ang get her around more females ↑ |
| Name: manu | Date: May 5th, 2006 5:00 PM |
| how is your character of a girl ↑ |
| Name: Macie | Date: May 5th, 2006 6:38 PM |
| as a 16 year old girl my self i have more guy friends then i do girls its because they are rude an every thing she is saying is true an im a good student i just would rather hang out with guys easer then girls plus she may feel comfortable around guys then girls because she wont have to worry about lookin prettyer then her girl friends she can be her self so ... i dno but if she is hooking up with these guys a thier using her as a boody call get her out of that position some how because one of my friends tried to make a move on me an i did not like it an he preasured but i at least have a couple girl friends so talk to her. ↑ |
| Name: stephanie | Date: May 10th, 2006 2:24 AM |
| If your daughter says that girls are all of that horrible stuff!, i think she may just be jelous of someone or is just noticing girls more than she is noticing guys, I'm not trying to say anything bad, she just needs to turn her way of looking at girls around before the girls start turning your daughter around!! And, they'll do it!! ↑ |
| Name: Grim | Date: May 11th, 2006 1:30 PM |
| Name: nikki | Date: May 12th, 2006 11:44 PM |
| your child is right i Know from expierience they may look nice but don't be blinded. ↑ |
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