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My husband is being entirely overprotective of our teenaged daughter. She's fifteen, and he won't let her out of the house without supervision anymore. He thinks she's going to run out and get pregnant or something. He's also pretty worried about the prospect of having some snotty-nosed teenage boy touching her. But my daughter isn't a bad kid, and I think she needs to grow up. What can I do?
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Name: Jen | Date: Jul 1st, 2005 7:59 PM
My Dad was very over protective and would think the same thing, then my Mom joined him. I was a good kid until they made home seem like a jail house. So, I would run away, sneak out and I ended up doing drugs and getting pregnant at 15! You need to talk to your husband before she starts rebelling like I did. Teenagers need some supervison but they need there freedom as well, that helps in growing up. 

Name: MeShElLe | Date: Jul 18th, 2005 6:31 PM
well....im a teenager...n if your husband doesn't let her out she'll find a way to get out the house and when she gets out it might not be good....what your husband needs to do is talk to your daughter and let her out before it turns out not so good.... 

Name: amanda | Date: Aug 4th, 2005 2:40 PM
tell your husband whats up... 

Name: heather | Date: Aug 14th, 2005 1:22 AM
wow..well, i can see dads concerns. im pregnant right now and we want a boy. me and my boyfriend were talking and he said that he wanted a boy because he doesnt want to have to go out and buy a gun..lol..it wasnt a treat but us being teenagers ourselves, well were 19, know how kids are these days. i think that if you live in a small town where everyone knows everyone then it shouldnt be so hard but big town are soo hard to keep up with. i just think that if yall set limits and things to where she can go and times and things that it wont be as difficult. i dont know im scared out of my mind to have a girl. but thats life and hopefully the way she sees that her dad is, maybe shell use the time you give her respectfully. hope everything goes well. 

Name: elizabeth | Date: Aug 26th, 2005 7:59 AM
keeping her in like that will only encourage her if that is the right word to do what she cannot do. Once she gets outside she will go crazy, but then again you are just relaying to your daughter that you don`t trust her. A boy can only touch her with her permission understand, so everything is not a boy, girls have power they don`t know they have unless you let them know. 

Name: Felicia Lang, Nicaragua | Date: Sep 11th, 2005 6:51 PM
i think you should let her go out mamacita...because a good mother and daughter relationship is the one in which you have trust in you r daughter. WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE paisana...TATA! 


Name: Uzee | Date: Sep 25th, 2005 8:43 PM
Tell your husband that his 'baby' is growing up. 

Name: Pit1 | Date: Oct 6th, 2005 9:39 PM
The more you husband confines her the more she is going to rebel or think "if he thinks I am untrustworthy than I will be" My sister-in-law told me that while she was in high school her mom kept checking the waste basket and if she was late she would go in and ask "are you pregnant". The thing was she was a virgin at that time. However, her mom asked her so often she said she decide "Heck she thinks I am doing it, I might as well" Your husband can drive her to doing something wrong. You need to have a talk with him. You can lay down rules but you got to let them grow up. I have a 16 yr old boy and he has rules about calling in at certains times and a curfew. Yes, boys are different but we also have a 13 yr old girl and I am scared to death but you have to be able to set down rules and let them grow up. Ask yourself if your father kept you from going out... what would you have done. 

Name: Tina | Date: Oct 6th, 2005 10:21 PM
Talk to your husband and try to compromise with him. Sooner or later your daughter will get fed up with this and she could start sneaking out of the house to do things she shouldnt be. 

Name: MS | Date: Oct 27th, 2005 2:42 AM
My dad was very overprotective of me and my sister when we were young. Whenever we tell him that he is being too overprotective, he denies it! But now that my sister is away in college and im still her living with my parents and going to college, he is still a little overprotective of me. For me I like to go to the gym early in the morning around 5am because its less crowded and I can finish my workout in a short amount of time. The day before I workout My dad always asks me what im doing in the morning, i say im going to the gym, he says what time, i say 5am, he says, " no! theres alot of gangs roaming around at that time and you might get beat up or shot!" The area we live in is in a wealthy area and the gym is a mile and a half away and it is in our area. So I end up going to the gym after 5pm when everyone comes home from work and it is just crazy and hard to workout. And also whenever I want to go the store or a cafe place like starbuacks between 7pm and 8pm, he says, "no! thats to late, its not safe, alot of gangs are out at that time!" and I say, " come on! that is not late! and the starbucks is not isolated, its in a big shopping plaza! And he still denies that he is being overprotective. He definitely needs to see a psychiatrist because it is just too much! 

Name: Emily | Date: Nov 4th, 2005 12:45 AM
My dad is exactly the same to me!!! i am 15 aswell and he won't let me out much because he thinks i'll be with boys! I think you should talk to him about it and tell him what you think and that as your the mother you should be able to have a say in the matter of your daughter. 

Name: ????/// | Date: Dec 2nd, 2005 8:39 PM
im 13 and my dad is relly over protective he won't let me have fun n e more and it gets me down :( 

Name: brittany | Date: Dec 3rd, 2005 2:59 AM
my dad wouldn't care... 

Name: aaron | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 12:33 PM
Im 13 and from the uk and my dad wont let me do anything, go out we so i sneak out lol

Not the best way lol but You gotta grow up 

Name: Depressed boi | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 1:56 AM
My parents broke my spirit along time ago and im 16..... i have no will and am depressed alot almost to suicidaly so i sudgest you simply talk to him. 

Name: em j | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 2:54 PM
its not your daughter who need to grow up its your husband.
she has a life.
if you dont do something by shes 18 she will get out of there.
do u whatch eastenders hes like jonny.
you need 2 be the person 2 stand up 2 him.
home is a home not a jail.
she will run away.
do u wanna b a bad parent he is already. 

Name: bianca | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 4:05 AM
you are so right, she does need to grow up. im 24 and have seen it and heard it many times. but if you raise a wolf as a pet he will eventually go into the wildlife and get lost. you dont want to lock her up cause once she gets out, even if its college she will become what you didnt want her to become. men are very territorial and when there mind is made up its over. ask him if hell go to support group with dads or parents. he needs to realize that he is causing the damage not preventing it. i see everyone is basically saying the samething and they are the victims. maybe hell read this website 

Name: the cool person | Date: Jan 6th, 2006 6:58 PM
i totally agree with yur husband. you should never let her out of yur house! send her to boarding skool even! he should totally be worried. and keep her away from teenage boys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: Felicia Lang | Date: Jan 6th, 2006 7:02 PM
DUDE!!!!!! YOu need to speak up your husband is such a suger! And Du Suger also beacuse you married such a vile man!Speak to this loverly man for he doesn't intend to be so vile! if u just tell him he is pushing it a little i am pretty sure he will back off HEJDA! Gratis pa Fodelsedagen! 

Name: nicole | Date: Jan 11th, 2006 4:08 AM
my dad is the same i know how you feel 

Name: dana | Date: Jan 23rd, 2006 3:21 AM
Im 15, in that situation, my dad is very overprotective.. that sometimes i try so hard to make him happy.. then other time im like screw it.. and i have no life.. i sit inside day after day on the computer,watching tv,eating.. and i get depressed then so and smoke some weed or pop some pills.. and idk iv been through alot and i kno its not right ding drugs.. but it takes me away from the same dam senery.. but yesh when u lose freedom and your stapped down.. u try more and more to get out and when you do.. u do it in wrong wayz.. so i still sit here.. waiting.. till im finally free... *sigh* 

Name: daina | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 6:37 AM
i think i might be pregnant ... but if i am i dont know how to tell my dad because he we literally kill me 

Name: KENYADA | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 8:01 PM
JKHLJ;LKLK 

Name: oh dear | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 2:42 PM
you better see if there is anything deeper in that relationship.. 2 of my mates were both abused sexually by there dad. thats the exact way he acted aswell wouldnt let them out the house, etc.... you better do something before you have a grandchild as a step daughter or son 

Name: rebecca | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 4:53 PM
my dad wont stop hes got bad now he keeps shouting at me n callin me **** n stuff he wont let me love baz
baz is so cute n perfect im old anough to no wot to do and not wont to do help me how do i get him to stop worring 

Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 12:42 AM
Tell your husband if he keeps sufficating her it will eventually backfire and she will explode and rebel like something hes never seen.If your daughter is really a good kid and has good friends then let her go out with them once and see how it goes.Give her a curfew and if all goes well let her go again.If she has a boyfriend invite him over and get to know him.Play a game at the table together and eat pizza.Once you think hes a good kid allow your daughter to double date only for at least a month or two and if things are still going good then allow them 1 date alone to dinner or a movie with a specific time to be home.If your daughter is really a good kid then Im sure you have nothing to worry about.I think daddy is just having a hard time with the fact that his baby is no longer a little girl anymore!Keep working on him mom!Better yet invite the gang over and let your husband see what good kids they all are and then while everyones there say hey kids that looks like it would be a good movie why dont you all go see it tonight !? And then send them along with your daughter on their way!Get your daughter a cell phone and tell her you will be calling to check up and then do it!And let her know that if she does screw up its right back to dads ways.But at least give her the chance to prove herself. 

Name: no answer | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 1:57 AM
My mom died when I was 10 years old. I am 13 now and my dad is way too overprotective. I'm responsible enough for a teenager, considering the fact I have a job, I am one year ahead of normal math level, and each quarter I usually come home with a 4.0. But my dad doesn't care. I still have to go to bed at 8:00. I can read until 9, but i want to watch TV shows that are popular! I have tried reasoning with him but he won't listen. What can I do?!?!?! 

Name: natalie | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 2:01 AM
My mom died when I was 10 years old. I am 13 now and my dad is way too overprotective. I'm responsible enough for a teenager, considering the fact I have a job, I am one year ahead of normal math level, and each quarter I usually come home with a 4.0. But my dad doesn't care. I still have to go to bed at 8:00. I can read until 9, but i want to watch TV shows that are popular! I have tried reasoning with him but he won't listen. I think he just can't face the fact that I'm getting older. Every time I go to a new friends house, he freaks out and has to get acquainted with the parents to make sure they are "at least normal" and don't do drugs or any of that stuff.What can I do to make him loosen up?!?!?!!! please answer back QUICKLY!!!!! 

Name: please read | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 11:05 PM
Me being a fifteen year old girl as well, you probably wouldn't take my advice too seriously. But I have to say that my dad is extremely overprotective of me, and it's getting out of hand. He won't let me go outside on my front porch when him or my mom isn't home. He doesn't let me go out with a group of friends if my "boyfriend" is there. He doesn't trust my boyfriend at all, even though he's never done a wrong thing in the entirety that he's known him. I still have a bedtime, and I don't have a set curfew. He's still telling me which friends to hang out with, and he's tried his hardest to completely shut me off from my once-best friend. In fact, she's no longer my friend at all because of him and not letting us get together to hang out. It's ridiculous. I'm not aloud to do ANYTHING. It makes me want to rebel and be bad, just because he expects that of me. Compared to people I know that are my age, I am considered a goody-good, so I don't know why my dad has no trust in me at all. I've never smoked a cigarette, drunk, done drugs, snuck out, had sex, anything of the sort. Yet I'm locked in my house as if it's a prison. I'm getting so sick of it. Just the other night, my parents went out to dinner and left me and my 13 year old brother at home. My friend Amanda was over, and my dad said that she had to leave, and that me and my brother could not leave the house to go outside, even on the porch, for the rest of the night. It was about 5:00, too, still perfectly light outside. I asked my dad when I would be able to, and he said "in a couple of years". Well, in a couple of years I'll be driving, and then after that, I'll be 18!! I don't know why he's doing this to me. I really can't stand him at all. My mom defends me a lot of the time, but my dad still has the "upper hand". I was seriously depressed during the winter, partly because of him, and everything will be fine one day until he does something completely ridiculous once again. My friends all joke me because they know my dad is overprotective, and it's really frusterating. I'd say to let your daughter do some things, to see if she's responsible and reliable. If she is, then you could start gaining trust and letting her do more things, but if she isn't, then you could tell her that you were trying to let her do more things but it didn't work. I wish my parent(s) would do that with me. I think a lot of girls rebel and get pregnant and do drugs and drink and have problems because of their parents, ironically. 

Name: Alora | Date: Jun 30th, 2006 8:55 PM
my dad is rediculusly overprotective !! im 15 and my older sister got pregnate when she was 16 n even befor that hes was really protective ! i have only spent the night at my friends house twice but i had to go there really late n then go home really early ! an im not aloud to have a boyfriend even though i do i have only seen him in school or if i sneek out witch i cant do anymore because of my other older sister she got cought sneeking out n now he gets up everynight n cheeks our rooms about 4 times a night ! im barley aloud on the house phone and they took away my cell phone because i was on it to late ! and my mom thinks hes gose too far sometimes but never says anything she just gose along with him even when she disagrees were not aloud to talk back to my dad because its being ( disrespectful ) and if i try to tell him how i feel he tells me to stop runing my mouth n go away i dont have a close relatetionship with him at all i barley talk to him i have no say in anything im aloud to do so i rebel in anyway i can when i have friends over we smoke pot and drink in my basement when they go to sleep and all i do all day is sleep eat watch tv n get on the computer i would talk to my boyfriend but im not aloud on the phone ! thats my life .... i wish my dad could just see that trying to shut us out is only makeing it wose idk what to do 

Name: joan | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 4:45 PM
lock up your husband and tell hie he can't go out by hinself till hes 65 in just joking but that will make that you can't his daughter a child for ever 

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