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My son is 16 and he is depressed. Part of it is a girl broke up with him that he really liked,but this was 3 months ago and he still isn't himself. He is a good kid and gets in no trouble. He doesn't drink,smoke or do drugs. He gets pretty good grades but socially he just isn't himself. I've taken him to the doctor but he wasn't prescribed any anti-depressants. I try everything I can to make him happy and while at the time some things may lift his spirits,he often ends up in a quiet depressed state again. He calls himself a loser which brings me down because I know he is definitely NOT. Please if you can help me understand what he is going through here and what if anything I can do about it. Thank-you. ↓
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| Name: Adamsdad | Date: Oct 25th, 2007 8:58 PM |
| Your first love is always the one that hurts the most, you convince yourself that the world will never be the same again. But in time he will come out of himself and brighten up. maybe hve a word with his best friend and get him to take him to some local youth clubs or disco's. as soon as he starts meeting people again he will feel better. ↑ |
| Name: mycountryheart | Date: Dec 15th, 2007 4:43 AM |
| I'm going to voice my opinion not because I just want to say something I want to voice my opionon because I kinda cried a little bit when I read this. When I was 15 or 16 I dated this girl she hurt me my mom would have never done this she didn't care. But she really couldn't do anything kids have a hard time and don't listen to parents much and being non social because of this it's even harder. But the best way is to always tell him you love him more than anyone ever could. He calls himself a loser (honestly I still call myself that) but like I said Tell him you love him and everytime he gets good grades you should celebrate with him take him out (kids love when parents spend time with them) I know I never had it so I know the feeling so just because he's having these problems the best way is to try to get him to spend a little time with mom. ↑ |
| Name: caucajun32 | Date: Jan 30th, 2008 2:28 AM |
There is absolutely nothing worse than puberty and beeing a teen that dosen't have a girlfriend, even worse is being dumped by a girl.
The outward appearances of a kid are not even close to the self loathing one can feel after being dumped, low self esteem, worthlessness, you just want the pain to go away, yet can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, because all you want to do is curl up and die.
It takes years for many males to mature to a level that we are confident in who we are, and that life is good.
Your son may have a situation where the ex girlfriend is dating somone that was a friend of his before the breakup, or he just thinks she is dating a friend of his.
This can have a tremendous adverse affect on a young teen, jealously, evny, hate, love, remorse, constant second guessing, if only I had said, if only I hadn't said, maybe if I learn to play the guitar she 'll come back, if I get a car,......... etc, etc, etc.
Just make sure there are ........ "No Guns".......... in the house or at a relatives house that he can get his hands on, I can assure you he won't tell you but he is thinking of suicide, his minds is playing tricks on him and, he's thinking no one loves him. A mothers love only goes so far once a teenager has had a taste of sex and or puppy love of a girl. ↑ |
| Name: nicodemus | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 4:54 AM |
well, first off, you do not know for sure that he does not drink alcohol or smokes. and if he did smoke and drink, neither of those things are proofs that he might be more mentally healthy or unhealthy than any other kid his age.
do not take him to the doctor anymore. that will just alienate him in relation to his current state of mind and probably cause him more confusion. prescribe him some abba-records and just wait it out. as long as he does not hurt himself physically, he should be fine.
one must always remember teens have a generally harmless mental illness for about 8 years, which of course is a bitch for the parents, although a very fruitful process for the kid at hand. ↑ |
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