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Please help. I found this web site while I was looking for answers about my son. I am a single mother of a 14 year old son. I am devorced and his father dose not come around much. I have no other children so it is just my son and I. My problem is about 2 mounths ago while I was cleaning his room I found 3 porographic magazines hidden in his bookshelf. I was to embarresed to confront him about them so I just acted like I never found them. I know this is the age when a boy starts to think of girls becouse of the changes his body is making. I also know that boys start to masturbate around this age. As far as I was concerned this was just a part of life and left it go as that. Several weeks after finding the magazines I came home from work early on a Saterday. I walked in the house and walked back to my bed room to change clothes. The house seemed empty so I thought my son was at his friends house. When I opened the door to my room I was shocked to find my son totaly naked and laying on my bed. He was masturbating with a magazine beside him while smelling a dirty pair of my panties from my hamper. I gasped when I saw him and he jump up and tryed to cover himself up. I didnt know what to do and ran out of the room. I later told him that I was very upset with him and to never go in my room again. We have not talked about this since. I understand the masturbation part but I do not understand the smelling of the soiled panties part. I feel like he needs some kind of professional help. Why would some one do this in the first place? Should I seek help for him? ↓
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| Name: marija | Date: Apr 1st, 2007 2:20 PM |
too many movies on his part i think...well id like to think!...in fact i WOULDNT like to think it was anything else!!!!!
i dont think he needs professional help, thats your choice...somehow i think your son wants to forget it ever happened too :-)))
good luck ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Apr 1st, 2007 2:35 PM |
Wo,Wo,WO!!!! O.k. the masturbating part IS NORMAL. However him being in YOUR BED instead of his own and sniffing YOUR,(his own mothers) underware IS NOT!!!!!!
Sorry Marija but I believe her son DOES need help professionally!!!!!
I have caught my son maturbating before also,he was 12. But he was NOT in MY BED or loving on my dirty underpants!!!!!!!! If he had I'd a thought he was one mentally sick pup!!!!!!!!!
In fact my cousin did EXACTLY that to his stepmoms underware and to this day he isn't allowed in their home! And I don't blame her! Although he did other sick things around the house too,like going into the bathroom and jerking off purposely all over her make up that was on the bathroom counter! Nope getting into moms bed at 14 and loving her underware IS IN NO WAY NORMAL!!!!!! Sorry Marija but it's NOT! ↑ |
| Name: caityNnecia | Date: Apr 1st, 2007 9:58 PM |
| well me and my friend are 14 and the guys at our school sometimes tell us about them masterbating. girls find it very sexy but on your bed with your underwear gross! maybe you need you husband to have a father to son talk with him it might sort some things out ↑ |
| Name: StTap | Date: Apr 1st, 2007 10:01 PM |
| well i think it is totally normal but the panties bit is weird because you are his own mother but i think you should talk to your ex husband about this ok (just let you know me and my friend writing this r 14 and many of the guys at our skool maturbate and it is totally normal so dont worry to much ok all the best st tap xoxoxoox ↑ |
| Name: .atomic snowflake | Date: Apr 3rd, 2007 5:27 AM |
The panties thing is distastful, but remember that his hormones are raging! Don't be too hard on him, just explain to him that he mustn't touch your underwear.
He'll soon get himself a girlfriend and he can sniff her panties then!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Apr 3rd, 2007 11:48 AM |
| LOL atomic,you crack me up!!!! LMAO!!! ↑ |
| Name: Lucky V | Date: Oct 27th, 2007 4:26 PM |
| When I was a teenager i used to masturbate frequently with my mothers panties, smell her worn lingerie and even wore her garter belts and pantyhose on occasions. My mother was emotionally, verbally and pysically violant with me. I only wanted to get close with her and have her love me and i think that is why i used her lingerie to masturbate...being that it is so intimate. I finally survived and became a fairly well adjusted professional man, but i still ocassionally masturbate with panties and think about my mother in sexual situations, but have difficulties imagining how she looked. I knew in order to survive i had to leave immediately and i havent seen or spoken to her since 1987. I dont think its weird, my fiance is aware of my fetish and i am not hurting anybody. BTW, do you usually wear "granny panties", or do you wear sexy or provocative panties that the women in the porn magazines would be wearing? ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 1:30 AM |
| Lucky V whose lingere don't you sniff? ↑ |
| Name: Lucky V | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 2:13 AM |
| Anne xoxo, well as far as i know i haven't sniffed your lingerie, but i probably would consider your panties for a masturbation session ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 4:13 AM |
| Name: Lucky V | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 4:55 PM |
| LOL! i guess you are right, most BF's dont like other men getting intimate with GF's panties. You know, lingerie and panty fetishes are not as uncommon as most middle class mothers think. Just check out the internet...and how many women think that most men are not into lingerie when it is a multi billion dollar industry. I actually find a woman more erotic with a restrictive corset and RH&T seamed stockings, and panties. I find a quick panty shot with crossing legs more erotic than a porn model with her legs spread....what a booring existence we would not be able to fantasize and role play. I have dated my fair share of women in all age ranges and i would say over 75% of them would always call me "daddy"....is that something that should be condemned? Do i think that they have all been sick and twisted and are in need of counseling? I'm sure some did, or at least needed some after me (a little self-deprecating humour),...but most seemed pretty normal, which i, despite what the majority of moms may think maintain a normal heterosexual, monogamous, relationship of over 6 yrs and maintain a professional well paying full time job for longer than that. I would propose that most moms that have discovered or even didn't know that their son was masturbating with their panties are abusive, overbearing, and unable to connect or love their son in a healthy way. According to most research i have discovered young men masturbate with their mothers intimates because they are objectifying their desire for the mothers love in the panties (why are they called intimates?). I would suggest that both receive counseling. BTW, whats a mom like you doing up at 4am?. ↑ |
| Name: David_82 | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 4:56 PM |
| omg lol okay how embarassing ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 5:27 PM |
| Lol Im in Australia it was only 9pm here. And btw Im 19 years old and my daughter is almost two. Except for the time being my parents have her. ↑ |
| Name: Lucky V | Date: Nov 17th, 2007 12:23 AM |
| embarrassing? David_82...25 year old cruising a moms with teenagers sight...humm....do we have a mommy fetish? I thought most boys your age are clubbing, chugging and date raping passed out teenage girls acting too old and too slutty for their age. LOL! ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 17th, 2007 2:04 AM |
| Lol lucky you better be feeling lucky to say that ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Nov 17th, 2007 2:58 PM |
| Lucky it is terrible that you wasn't able to have a loving relationship with your mum. I do agree that many boys who crave a closeness to their mums experience such fetishes. I have also read many studies on that as well. Have you mentioned what you have said here to your counselor? I know you said you have told him/her about your pantie fetish, but have you talked about your childhood and the abuse? ↑ |
| Name: prmommy | Date: Nov 20th, 2007 2:15 PM |
| I have a 17 yo. I know he masturbates but I am not really concerned about it. I have sat down and spoken to him and asked him all the whys and what not. He has been very forthcoming about the whole thing. I am not so sure about him using your panties though. I mean unless he was just fantasizing they belonged to someone else. ↑ |
| Name: Lucky V | Date: Nov 22nd, 2007 4:13 AM |
| prmommy....what type of questions did you ask your 17 year old son about his masturbation? Every mom knows that their son masturbates...heck every women knows that if you are male that means you are a habitual masturbator. 17 is kinda old to talk about masturbating...did something happen to feel it necessary to talk to him? I'm intrigued by your last statement....so would it be okay if your son masturbated with your panties as long as he was fantasizing about another woman? Sorry, not trying to critical, but just wanted to hear more detailed information from you and your sons masturbation stories. ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 23rd, 2007 5:30 PM |
| Lucky...Why may I ask do you want to hear detailed stories about this ladies sons masturbation? ↑ |
| Name: Lucky V | Date: Nov 24th, 2007 3:44 PM |
| why do u think i want to know more about prmommy's story? She seems to be aware of his masturbation and talked about it, , what has she done or seen before but 17 seems a little late to be talking about masturbation..i was mostly interested on why she felt it would be okay to sniff her soiled and masturbate with her panties as long as he was fantasizing about someone else and not her. Wanted more details, because it is an interesting and very open minded position ↑ |
| Name: Anne xoxo | Date: Nov 24th, 2007 5:13 PM |
| It's kinda like free balling it...very laid back ;) ↑ |
| Name: youngman | Date: Jan 5th, 2008 12:38 PM |
| 1st you are right, your son is at the age to start masturbating. You need to know that with young boys, the want to find out about girls rules their life when puberty hits and this includes your son. The smelling of your panties is normal. You see it in the movie 16 candles. Boys are fasinated by the female body. This includes smells. You are the only female he can do this with. He is not thinking about you, but the smell helps him think about other girls. Nobody normal do this and think of there mom, Hence the magazine. I would talk to him about your feeling and his. Set boundaries. If you are comfortable about the magazine and his act, then tell him to do it in his room and the bathroom. You room is off limits. If my parents had talk to me about this, it would have relieved a lot of guilt and embarassment. If you do not feel this way, then tell him but know he will and leave him alone about it. Just remember to your limits for your comfort level. Sorry it took so long. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 8:44 AM |
| Youngman, are you the former LuckyV? ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 10:24 AM |
| Never mind, obviously not, I read some threads higher, and found lucky v. Sorry about that. ↑ |
| Name: caucajun32 | Date: Jan 28th, 2008 9:01 PM |
Your thinking there is something wrong with your son, he isn't "Normal", ........... hun "Normal" is a setting on a washing machine !
If society wouldn't impose an impossible demand about pubescent male and females not having sex and allow then to do what "Biology" and "Nature" implores them to do, which is have sex and have sex now, we make laws that if they are male that they will go to jail, be labled sex offenders, and if they are female we tell them that they are victims, when in all likley hood they engadged in sex very willingly.
Your son's libido/sex drive is in an all out asault on this boys life, hormones are telling him to reproduce. He has a very strong natural desire to know what a woman smells like down there. There is nothing wrong with your son, period !!!!
What the real deal is, that he crossed a very personal boundary of your privacy. You feel as though you had lost the power of who gets to sniff and enjoy the wonderful scents that a womans vagina produce's. Vaginas are the most powerful things on the face of the earth.
If you want to mess this kid up,.................. make him ashamed of what he did, and expose this to his father, and or a shrink.
Mam, you need to "Woman Up !!!", and have a talk with him, just you two. You can speak, to him in a very normal tone and let him know that you love him, and want him to respect others privacy, yet you understand how powerful a sexual desire can be, and how difficult it can be for a teenager to resist some sexual behaviors, yet this is a behavior that you can' have in your house.
Tell him you will never bring this up ever again as long as he cease's this behavior and that you will never reveal this to anyone. ↑ |
| Name: oilybabyman | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 3:03 PM |
| its so fucking great!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: vince | Date: Feb 17th, 2008 9:31 PM |
The female scent is a most erotic attraction that the male is drawn to. it has no sexual ID except gender. YOu ar ethe only female that he is in contact with o a regular basis. Your panties are a female garment that is as close as he is likely to get to a vagina. By the bery nature of our society most females keep the underwear somewhat out of sight. So, not only are they erotic (being close to the vagina) but somewhat fobidden,too.
I masturbted with my motherrs panties and I can assure you that I never had her inmy mind while doing so. but the panties were a very erotic and certainly a "helping hand" to my (and I suspect your son's) masturbatory fantasies.
I would suggest that you let him know of your concerns about a violation of your privacy. that is the issue. using your rooma nd your panties are that. However, he does not need, nor will he benefit from, a confrontation with a "mentl health" professional or his father. Unless he fights back and argues when you express concern I would let it alone. He is embarrassed and probably ashamed. there is no need to add to that with another confrontation. ↑ |
| Name: redautumn | Date: May 18th, 2008 6:52 PM |
okay, first off all boys masturbate.
i think the reason why he was smelling your underware is that boys liekt hat kind of stuff, but he didnt have access to anyones underware but yours. you dotn need to get him help. adn you dont even have to talk to him either. its very embarassing for him, so please spare the talking. ↑ |
| Name: Eric23 | Date: May 29th, 2008 11:33 PM |
| Hey I caught my son jerking off to my pictures what do I do? ↑ |
| Name: atalanesta | Date: Oct 9th, 2008 5:42 PM |
| i think u should give him time well in that age lots of children having that ussually smelling some dirty panties while he think that panties is a pussy...why dont u try to fuck with him?? ↑ |
| Name: parrot21 | Date: Oct 28th, 2008 4:59 AM |
| Lots of boys do that to their moms, you shouldn't worry too much. Boys love the smell of vagina and their moms are the closest possible female. Just let him do it. ↑ |
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