i'm only 15, and i'm almost 2 months pregnant. my mom just found out yesterday from reading a list of baby names hidden under my bed. she told me to really concider having an abortion. and i can't do that, i really want this baby. the father is 20 and we started going out around the second week of june. we were completely in love and wanted to get married, and in order to get married w/o parental signature was for me to get pregnant, and go infront of a judge. so i did it. then a couple of weeks later he thought i wasn't pregnant, so he broke up with me, i got a new boyfriend, who says he will take care of me and the baby as much as he can. and now the real father says he wants to be in the baby's life. but besides him, my mom is trying to get me to have an abortion, which i'm telling her i wont do. i'm just really confused right now and i need some help. please email me or get in touch. thank you.
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| Name: rain | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 10:40 PM |
| Girls, there are sites for pregnant teens, and many of them in the single parents area. This area is for moms of teens. ↑ |
| Name: Secs4vr | Date: Aug 20th, 2006 3:29 AM |
| Hey girls~ I was in your shoes almost 12 years ago, I was 15 when I got together with the "Guy of my Dreams" I will tell you what I did, I did not tell a single person until I was 7 1/2 months along. I was so sick I could not stand. I hade severe gestational diabetes and was very over weight. (I gained 100 lbs) It was horrible. I decided in the beginning that I would keep the baby, which was the best choice I could have made. I changed my life. I stopped partying and finished school. I went on to college and graduated with honors. The thing is you have to decide for your self what you are willing to do. If you are willing to give up your childhood and get a job finish school and be a great MOM then go for it. If however you are going to want to continue to hang out with friends and mooch off your parents please give the baby to a Family that will care for them and give them more that you’re ready to. Nobody will ever tell you that you have made a bad choice it is yours to make. Good luck and God Bless! ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 20th, 2006 4:10 PM |
| First of all if you are planning on keeping this baby you must do so knowing you will be a single parent relying on a man is no way of supporting this child , it will not get what he or she needs. Second I would love to speak to your mother does she know how old this guy is ? he should be locked up , you falling in love with him is one thing your young but hes 20 he should of kept his hands to himself. You are to far along to have an abortion did you know the baby starts making muscle contractions and moving by the 8th week it is halfway formed and its heart is beating steadily by then , and well you can't have an abortion if you really don't want to it has to be something you decide. Your mom is just trying to help you see the reality of the situation , how are you going to work to by this baby clothes and diaperes were are you going to live , how are going to finish highschool? adoption is a wonderfull choice think long and hard about what you are considering. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Aug 21st, 2006 12:49 PM |
| I was pregnant at 15 and my dad made me have an abortion. He said him and mom couldn't afford to take care of a baby and that the babies dads mom would probably try to take it away from me anyway. I felt like I had no other choice so I went through with it.I was 15 and still in highschool and totally reliant on my parents to take care of me so I felt I had to do what they wanted. I had a baby I kept 4 years later,he's now 15. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Sep 5th, 2006 12:19 PM |
| What can i say you silly little girl never do what a man asks of you!If he asked you to jump of a cliff would you do that as well! ↑ |
| Name: Steph | Date: Sep 12th, 2006 2:29 PM |
| do what your heart tells you cause your first instincts are the best... if you dont want to have an abortion dont! simple... if you want this baby have it and be proud and take all the measures to make this babies life very special and amazing... you can be a great mother if you want but you must know the responsibility it entails.. one word ALOT! ... flick the new guy for sure becuase when the baby is born he will be gone very quick i asure you.. so before you get close flick him... a baby does need its natural father in its life... be firm with your mother and dont let her persuade you into something you dont want you will most probabily be left feeling empty and angry at yourself.. also an abortion is very traumatic and can has bad side effects like infertility... adoption may be hard too as once you have the baby you will be attached and wont be able to let it go and if you do you will be regretful.. just think darling there is plenty of time if you are not going to have an abortion... think rationally... goodluck xxxx ↑ |
| Name: paulus | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 2:13 PM |
First of all, the decision should be yours. You should not be forced to have an abortion, regardless of your age. If you have an abortion it should be because you think it is the best thing to do for your situation. Remember, no one can do anything to you that you don't let them do. You are in control of YOUR body!!! If abortion goes against your religous beliefs then I think it is the
wrong decision. If you believe that it is morally okay then you should consider it.
Adoption or raising the child yourself are the only other options I can think of. Does your mother want to raise your baby? Would you want your mother to raise your child? Can you think of any relatives that would help you? When making your decision consider what would be best for the baby. Think about what you have to offer a child. What kind of opportunities in life do you want for your child? Do you have enough money to support a child? You should also think about the kind of life you want for yourself. Do you want a career? If you finish school and go to college you will most likely have a better life than if you quit school. A good education will give you control over your life. You have a hard decision to make. A decision you will live with for the rest of your life. Make a list of the pros and cons for each of your choices. Maybe try talking to a school counselor. I hope everything works out for you. Try to think of what is best for your future and your baby. I hope everything works out. ↑ |
| Name: paulus | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 5:57 PM |
| Do not respond to the people who posted remarks asking you to contact them if you are considering adoption. They could be trying to take advantage of you. There are legal agencies people can contact if they want to adopt. They should not be trying to find young girls on the internet who are pregnant. They should be reported!!! ↑ |
| Name: Princess8451 | Date: Oct 13th, 2006 1:04 PM |
| Listen to your mom and the dad needs to be in jail. He is a child molester ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Oct 14th, 2006 8:04 AM |
| Dont adopt your baby out, you will regret it for the rest of your life! ↑ |
| Name: granny2be | Date: Oct 14th, 2006 11:05 AM |
I second what Paulus had to say. My 14 year old is pregnant. Her now ex boyfriend was trying to force her into an abortion. Personally I am against them, but her father and I told her we would stay by any decision she made on this one. She is now starting her 5th month (already) and knows she has very strong family support and doesn't need a boy in her life. She finally got her head straight, is doing well in school, stopped seeing boys all together and is staying focused on doing well in school. We will help her through this and she doesn't need a guy, and now she as much.
She also finally realizes that her parents aren't totally stupid and we DO know what we are talking about. Hold your head high. Keep the baby if you want to, but don't fool yourself into thinking it will be like a walk in the park. ↑ |
| Name: Princess8451 | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 8:21 PM |
I say adopt or abort.
What kind of life can a 15 year old CHILD give a newborn??? This looks like a disaster waiting to happen. Your mom obviously knows what she is talkking about. The father is a molester that took advantage of the fact that you are so young. You still have a chance at life. Don't blow it. Your mom is obviously not going to help you, the father has you on a puppet string.... What are you going to do if he decides to just up and leave you and the baby. Be stuck working for minmum wage? Become a waitress??? That is what will happen.... You are 15... 15, a child in the world's eyes. If you have noone to rely on, you will have to drop out of school to take care of the baby and work full time and HOPE you make ends meet.
Think about this:
Rent
Food
Clothes
Telephone
Lights
Cooking Gas
Heat
Car - Gas, insurance, maintainance
Babysitter
Formula
all part of your monthly bills........
If the new boyfriend is not willing to marry you then there is a great chance he will get tired of the situation and step off.......
These other people are speaking truth, but I am dealing in HARSH REALITY]]]] ↑ |
| Name: hjaen | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 1:15 PM |
| first of all why do you need to have a boy friend now???!!!! you have too many, i can't believe you are worried about what "the father" of the baby wants and what is not best for the baby and you. you can have this baby but give it up for adoption and you can get your life together and give the baby a chance at a full and productive life. you haven't even began to live yet, seek professional help NOW!!!!! i hope you do the right thing. ↑ |
| Name: hazelgatita_14 | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 6:31 PM |
| Don't worry im only 15 and im 3 and a half months pregnant. My mom is cool about it she says she will help me out but my baby daddy is going to help me out too when he found out i was pregnant he was so happy now he takes a lot of care for me and our baby during my pregnancy. Hes only 17 so my mom gets really along with him.I just have one thing to say to you for any reason don't get an abortion! Believe me your baby daddy would want part of your babys life when hes born but only you can decide on that because your saying he broke up with you when he found out you where pregnant and i dont think i would like to be with someone like that or my baby to have a dad like that!!!!! Your mom should be helpining you out not telling you to take an abortion!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: ellababy91 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 9:43 AM |
| im 15 and 7 weeks 3 days (i think) due june 7th 07. morning sickness sucks :( my mum is disappointed but told me she will be there for the through it all. i have msn if anyone wants to talk. ↑ |
| Name: LovelyLadyE | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 12:45 AM |
| I am 15 as well and me and boyfriend recently had sex and i think i'm pregnant and i don't kno how to tell my parents. Me and my mother is very close and i think she would be hurt, but my father in the other hand i don't think could bear the news. He has high blood pressure, and i don't want my father to die. Please talk to your mother, and tell her that you want this baby, and that you are ready for any storm you might have to go through. I will pray for you. ↑ |
| Name: becky_22 | Date: Nov 24th, 2006 7:21 AM |
| SORRY DARLIN BUT 15 YRS OLD AND HAVIN A BABY IS TO YOUNG TO HAVE A BABY UR JUST A KID UR SELF AND HAVIN A KID AND SORRY TO SAY BUT UR BOYFREIND WONT STAY AROUND AND GETTIN MARRIED A THE AGE OF 15 IS WAY TO YOUNG WELL IF I WAS U I WOULD GET ABORTION UR TO YOUNG OK ↑ |
| Name: kb3lzh13 | Date: Dec 3rd, 2006 11:51 PM |
| um i am sorry to say but he might be going to jail for rape weither you wanted sex or not i am only 13 but know alot bout the law i do think that if you r happy then jhave the baby and have an open adoption if not your mom should be proud you are amother and she should support you and as long as you are happy thats all that matters to a mother ↑ |
| Name: NCmom | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 8:58 PM |
| where are you from? I didn't know if being underage saying you were pregnant you could get married. ↑ |
| Name: Crystiana_Barrett | Date: Jan 2nd, 2007 11:53 PM |
| hey well i understand where you are coming from i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19 i'm pregnant but i'm 6 mos and we are getting married and we love each other very much my parents are going to sign the permisson form and were moving in to gether but i mean yea it's hard but we have eachother and if i were you i would put child support on him i mean like i wouldnt do that to my husband but i mean he got you preg the left the best choice is to file child support on him and look it also may come in handy i mean what if that other guy leaves you and then look you're stuck with the bills ↑ |
| Name: Crystiana_Barrett | Date: Jan 2nd, 2007 11:59 PM |
| oh yea be smart you are a bright girl dont get and abortion anybody who tells you that is an idiot b/c everyone deserves a chance at life ↑ |
| Name: laura xx | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 8:59 PM |
| hey i think if you really want this baby then go for it, just make sure you have everything you need and it sould get better x i was pregnant wit twins at 15 like urz, my mum wanted me to av an abortion i went on to have them and i was fully commucited i have a lovely boyf and roof over my head and every is great my mum came round and soon as she saw the twins so im sure your mum will come round too, if you really want this baby then i wish you luck for the future, i love being a mum. ↑ |
| Name: betty1987 | Date: Jan 19th, 2007 3:38 AM |
| honey, i hope your mom let you have that baby, because if you really want it you will give the baby all the love it needs. hopefully he/she will help you become a better person, just dont rely on having a man there, sometime what you can do with that is confuse the baby and yourself. i am 19 and i am two months pregnant. the man i was dating, which is 21, told me to have an abortion when i told him the news, i was completely in shock, but am no longer talking to him because i don't need him to be there if he doesnt want to be there, but im not giving my baby up. just recently my mother found out and she doesnt want me to have it either, not because i cant handle it but because of what people might say, but still i am going on with it. i read some replies about giving it up for adoption and i think to myself this person must not have kids because how can someone give up something so precious and so dependant away. i understand about all the bills and everything, but still- what about if this is your only chance to have a baby and you throw it away. i hope your mom comes to reality just like i hope my mom will eventually do. take care of yourself and that baby. ↑ |
| Name: heatherdwilson8 | Date: Jan 25th, 2007 2:37 PM |
| If you don't want to get an abortion... DONT!!!!! I am a firm believer that a baby is sent from God and is NOT a choice. I was raped in June and am still carrying the baby from that nights bad events! I don't know how to give you advice on the rest, but I don't want you to feel like you have to get an abortion, because it is your choice! Stand tall for what you believe in... best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: lilmoma | Date: Jan 25th, 2007 4:52 PM |
| look girl good luck with everything but i would never have an abortion that is just crazy and do what ur heart tells u ↑ |
| Name: Single_Parent | Date: Jan 27th, 2007 6:15 AM |
| HI my name is Jessica Im 16 I had my son four months ago I was still 15 I got pregnant at 15 im a single mom the dad left me when I was 8months my parents wanted me to consider adoption or abortion but I refused as well im against it afterall if someone can lay down and get pregnant they can raise the baby. well I would just keep the baby sit down and explain to your mom how you feel about this child. well messge me back ↑ |
| Name: peaches37 | Date: Mar 25th, 2007 10:14 PM |
| Well since an abortion u don't want. Understand that you just ruined your life. I was 15 when I had my first child and that was the stupidest thing ever. Your so young and there is so much more out there do you see how the man your preg by dumped you it happens all the time, You don't even know what love is, and you can't support that child. Don't u wanna go to prom, movies, dates, school trips. Believe me you have your whole life to have a baby you only have one childhhod. ↑ |
| Name: nessypooh | Date: Mar 26th, 2007 7:10 AM |
wow, that must be really hard on you. my suggestion is that you and your mom talk abt it, cuz i went through there. my mom want me to have an abortion and i couldnt do it cuz i was against it. i stood up for myself that it is my body and i kno i am young and shouldnt make my own choice rather keeping it or not. it take 2 months for face my mom and my bf's mom to get through that. i accepted and i had my baby girl 8 days ago
also, doesnt matter how well u believe in boy saying abt that, doesnt means it wil be easier taking care of a child, it is with or without a father needs always still hard because u you are young.
its ur life.
reply back see how u doing now? hyperlove3000 *aol* my name is nessy ↑ |
| Name: Crazy_girl | Date: Mar 26th, 2007 8:30 PM |
| I'm 18 I'm almost 9 moths and feel like i'm going to burst anyday ↑ |
| Name: Crazy_girl | Date: Mar 26th, 2007 8:32 PM |
| Amylynn001 do you ave any family behide you and who lives with you to help during your pregnancy ↑ |
| Name: Crazy_girl | Date: Mar 26th, 2007 8:33 PM |
| I'm pregnant and the only help i have is my dad any help with this ↑ |
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