|
my son is 13. He has a girlfriend who is also 13 they talk on the phone for hours and hours.That doesn't bother too bad. What bothers me is that my son has gotten detetion for hugging and kissing girls, her and others five times this year. I think I should pull the plug on the relationship deal because I feel he is moving too fast and isn't able to draw boundries for himself. whaddaya think? ↓
|
|
| Name: Raina | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 10:02 PM |
| Hi Mom. Experience tells me that the more restrictions we put on our kids the more likely they are to rebel against them, so pick your battles carefully. At 13 hormones are in full bloom and whether we want to accept it or not, young love will happen. Like a diet, if we restrict ourselves 100% from sweets, it's only a matter of time before we binge, blow the diet and regret our actions. If we incorporate small amounts of sweets from time to time within our diet, we are more likely to stay in control of it. It's about balance, and the same priciple can be applied here. I suggest making compromises with your son. Let him know that you don't want to put a stop to his relationship, but you are concerned about the impact his actions are having at school. That as important as relationships feel at 13, they don't last forever, however getting good grades do, as they set you up for life, and getting in trouble at school will eventually affect his grades. Come to a compromise with him. Make some allowances such as having his girlfriend over when you're home, facilitating pick up and drop off to events (this allows you to communicate with the girlfriends parents and to know where they are), etc., in exchange for his commitment that public displays of affection at school stop. Set a consequence unrelated to the relationship (he'll just find ways of seeing her anyway so you won't get the desired effect), like one week's loss of computer if he breaks his commitment and be sure he fully understands what will happen. The more involved he is in setting his boundaries, the more he will respect them, and if he messes up, the onus will be on him. ↑ |
| Name: Mona Tisdale | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 3:05 PM |
| I am haveing the same problem with my 14 year old .he thinks he is in love with this loose 14 year old her parents dont carewhat she does .how do i handle this one he got iss in school for hugging and kissing at school what do we do here ↑ |
| Name: Anonmous | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 6:47 PM |
| Umm im 13 and Schools are klike strict on stuff like that you hug someone DETENTION ! Its really pertheic sometimes its a kiss on the cheek and btw no one is too young for love.... so i doubt your son is "in" love with this girl just really likes her..Donr't panic your still No.1 girl in his life...proborbly xP ↑ |
| Name: emalee | Date: Sep 29th, 2007 9:02 PM |
woah woah woah,
kissin, and hugging at 13, is completley normal.
most boys, will want to like, have sex with people by now.
and the more you say no, the more he'll rebel. and trust me,
with this, there is nothin you can do. he will see this person,
and do thins with her, no matter what., so you'll have to et used to it. ↑ |
| Name: yerowww | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 6:05 PM |
| oh dont worry, 13 y. o. are okey to have relationships. ↑ |
| Name: screamo_emo | Date: Feb 2nd, 2008 2:41 AM |
well he's old enough to be able to hug and kiss girls
u should like let them be together
cause if u try and brake them up he will
not oly still date her he wil resent u and proabily rebel
so just leave him and her alone
do u understand me? ↑ |
| Name: Jordan Peeple | Date: Feb 2nd, 2008 3:43 AM |
| definitely pull the plug. the older you won't be able to handle him. ↑ |
|
|
