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I don't know how to start other than my daughter (who is a senior in high school) is a very accomplished young woman. She is a cheerleader, athletic (in many sports at which she excells), has tons of friends and has a great personality. She has had very few boyfriends, though, and the relationships she has had have not lasted very long. This seems petty as I write it, but she is a very very fair skinned, freckled girl and refuses to wear makeup...at all....recently she took senior photos and not only did they not turn out well....she hated them...when I suggested that she wear more makeup...at least for photos...she hit the roof. I lost my temper...she lost her temper and I ended up saying that if she wanted to look nicer in photos she should wear a little bit of makeup to emphasis her natural prettiness. Her feelings were hurt and I feel like a total unfit mother. She is a tomboy in all things...that's her charm...but sometimes I think she needs to realize it's okay to be pretty. She seems to go out of her way to make herself look unattractive. I myself don't wear much makeup...but I do wear some. I am not a flashy person myself and I am proud of her regardless of her appearance, but at the same time is it wrong for me to want her to present herself well? I know that looks aren't everything, but being well groomed is a form of character in itself. Help! Have I messed things up with her by criticizing her? I love her more than anything and any advice will be considered. Thanks ↓
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| Name: David_82 | Date: Oct 17th, 2007 4:18 PM |
| omg baically your saying to your duaghter you want to look good get some makeup she probs looks fine as she is its her choice maybe she doesnt wanna shovel loads of crap on her face like you do. ive never heard of a mum shouting at there daughter to wear makeup ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Oct 21st, 2007 10:16 AM |
| confused mom, dont beat yourself up about it, yhere is nothing wrong with wanting your daughter to make the best of herself, she obviously just does'nt want to wear make up so you know not to push that one again, dont worry about it, if she is excelling at school and has lots of friends etc then you quite obviously have done very well with her and you certainly do NOT sound like an unfit mom, best of luck ↑ |
| Name: ButterflyGurl13 | Date: Dec 3rd, 2007 9:05 AM |
| my little sister, was a tomboy she HATED make-up but we ALWAYS seemed to put it on her for fun...She took it as a insult, & thought she wasnt pretty...But later she came around & starting wearing it..When she realized how pail she looked in her pictures...Dont be hard on yourself...She will come arounds theyre is nothing wrong with wanting her to wear a little make-up! ↑ |
| Name: oilybabyman | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 8:16 PM |
| u shoudl hold her down and MAKE her wear makeup or else your dumb ↑ |
| Name: Sultrybabycup | Date: Feb 11th, 2008 3:22 PM |
| you sound like a terrible mother. like mines... she beat me.... alot. ↑ |
| Name: smoothbabytouch | Date: Feb 11th, 2008 9:53 PM |
| You messed up bad, should've had an abortion. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Feb 12th, 2008 4:01 PM |
| If you were my mother, I'd find a reason to move out of your house. Stay out of it!!! Good lord, be glad she hasn't been out screwing every dude she sees. Maybe she thinks she looks fine. I thnk you are just jealous of her. Get over yourself, and quit talking to her about make up. Are you serious? There are many mothers who would LOVE to be in your shoes with a daughter who has done as well as it sounds like yours has. It sounds like you're the one who needs to take a good look in the mirror, and finally admit that YOU are the one with the problem. Leave her alone. ↑ |
| Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Feb 13th, 2008 5:13 PM |
Confused mom
I feel it is almost like when kids start going through puberty they almost turn into aliens. I am not meaning to be meant, but that is the only way I know how to explain it. I can remember being a teen, but I didn’t realize I would be weird about little things until I became a mother of teens myself. The little things to us adults are big to them as teens. We all sometimes forget what it is like being a teen. Someone once told when I was a teen that my parents have been there before; they know what you’re going through because they have been kids before; you have no idea what they are going through because you have never bee adults before. That is so true, and that stuck with me, and will stick with me from now on.
If she is fair skinned then she is probably easily sunburned also and make-up will help with that. I am a cancer survivor and sunburn very easily, and make-up has saved me from a lot of pain and agony. That might be something she might relate to, but if not just leave it alone and let her be herself. She will more than likely come out of it. As for you; NO this does NOT make you a bad mother no matter what these other guys say. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Feb 13th, 2008 6:29 PM |
| I'm with Maryjane for part of what she said. Fair skin does mean she probably burns easily, but makeup isn't the only answer. SUNSCREEN. A high SPF, like 45. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 13th, 2008 11:39 PM |
I have a son who is goodlooking...all the teen girls in the family say so LOL They also say..."why the hell doesnt he clean up himself and BE handsome"!!! He is a slob has no regard for grooming or hygiene...He feels safer being a dork because you cant fall far! If you look unkempt and scruffy all the time, then people expect that of you, when you try to be cool and goodlooking, people try to find fault and pick on you...He is a sensitive soul and doesnt like rejection on any level...he hurts :-(
Maybe your daughter feels the same...You are what you are, people know who you are...if you try to do something new, you maybe ridiculed, which in their eyes is worse!
I dont have an answer...other than trying to boost self-esteem in the physical looks department :-)
good luck ↑ |
| Name: AnaBabe | Date: Jan 4th, 2009 1:02 PM |
| your a terrible mum. go die ↑ |
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