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hi im sarah, im 8 months pregnant and no father around no friends. my cat was my best friend it might sound silly to some people but he was everything to me i only had him for 6 months but he always made me feel happy. every single one of my friends ditched me when i fell pregnant and didnt want anything to do with me so my cat was it he never left my side. but he got ran over last night and now i feel more alone than i ever have i dont understand why he had to go. what did i do to deserve this. im grieving rally bad and cant stop crying i just need someone to talk to. ↓
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| Name: jenny | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 10:54 PM |
| Oh sarah i'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend three months ago. She was a golden retriever and i miss her a lot. I'm here if you want to tlalk ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 11:02 PM |
| does it get any easier, its so hard cause now i havent got anyone now. my dad said he will get me another one but i dont want another one nothing will ever replace him. when he got hit the lady brought him to the door in a towel (he went quickly though thank goodness i didnt want him in pain) and i just couldnt put him down i didnt want to let him go. i just feel like everytime i do something right it backfires on me and something bad always follows ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 11:05 PM |
| yes it does get easier but your right you can't replace them. Just take time honey and make sure you grieve and then take care of yourself and your baby ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 11:10 PM |
| yeah im looking after myself i just cant stop crying and cant get his little face out of my head. i keep hearing his bell on his collar but he isnt there ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 2:43 PM |
| Hi Sarah how are you doing today? ↑ |
| Name: kim | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 3:53 PM |
| hi sorry to hear that i love cats too i had two they were mother and son, only felix that is the son had to get put to sleep in nov as he had feline leukemia i was so gutted i didnt think i would ever get over it especially as i was the one who took him to get put to sleep i hope you get over your loss soon i am not completely over loosing him yet but i am learning to cope better with each new day that comes i will never forget my baby boy but the sadness and grief does get a little easier i hope that it does for you too ↑ |
| Name: Ale | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 4:38 PM |
| I had a cat named Lucky and he was my bestfriend until he died. It hurts alot and its hard to replace them. You will hold your baby soon. The baby will be fussy at first but its amazing feeling when they start to smile. I hope you feel better, I know its hard. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 11:49 PM |
| hello all thanks for your concern. im not feeling any better today but i did manage to get some sleep last night. i buried him in the garden yesterday and ive just been putting flowers on it and talking to him. i know deep down he is gone, i think the hardest thing is accepting that im never going to see him again and never going to be able to touch him again. and i dont want a part of that. i keep expecting to wake up as if its just a bad dream. or i expect him to jump in the window looking for milk. but i know its not going to happen. ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Feb 24th, 2006 2:40 PM |
| Sarah i'm so sorry please just know that i'm am praying for you and hopefully in time you will cherish memories of your best friend. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 24th, 2006 11:37 PM |
| im beginning to feel a little better, i read this poem yesterday and it made me feel a bit better. i just gotta find stuff to do to take my mind off him. ↑ |
| i no how it feels my dog sandy died and i still even cry bout it now although it seams hard life still goes on and your babts on the way you hav created new life it might not fill that whole in u're whole in your heart of your cat but it will fill the rest of it and it will be the most import part of your life ↑ |
| plese if you want talk 2 me i need to talk 2 some1 2 ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 2:03 AM |
| thanks im feeling better about it. ive stopped trying to make sense out of why it happened because thats what was making me so upset because i couldnt find an explination.. i will always love him and miss him lots. i have one of his toys that i sleep with it might sound silly but i can smell him on it, its my way of comforting myself and moving on. ↑ |
| Name: Roxanne | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 4:50 AM |
My husband and I were thinking of getting a new puppy after my dog died and I felt it would never be the same.
My mother-in-law told me the best thing. She said, "You loved him so much that you you want to feel that same joy in your life of having another one even if he isn't the same."
I don't know but this helped me. Maybe you should pick up a little bit older cat at a shelter. Then you don't have to train him and he may be very compassionate and just the thing you need right now. You can save each other. Sure he won't be the same cat but he'll have new different things to fall in love with and you could use the company right now. Plus at the shelter you are saving him from being lonely or put down as well.
Give yourself time of course, but you seem to be feeling better. I would check it out. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 7:50 AM |
| thankyou Roxanne for your support. its a great idea to get an older cat next time because it will be lonely and need a home. but i cant yet i feel like i would be betraying my pus pus i will get another cat oneday but i need time first. thanks ↑ |
| Name: Roxanne | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 11:44 PM |
Sarah,
That was what my mother in law said but I didn't explain it very well in my last post. Basically you are showing your cat you love him, not betraying him, by getting another cat b/c you appreciated the love he gave you so much that you want to fill that void. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 11:51 PM |
| oh i see what you mean now ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 11:55 PM |
| thankyou for helping me through this its really difficult especially when your on your own with it too. he was the man of my life lol. i miss waking up to his nagging meow wanting his milk for breakfast. i love him ↑ |
| Name: Roxanne | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 12:08 AM |
Sarah,
No problem, I am an owner of 2 cats a dog and a parrot with a baby on the way. I have always had pets in my life and I know how much they mean. I lost a cat the same way you did when I was 15 and I buried him myself. I cried the entire day and more the next. I don't think I could ever live without a pet. It is even a fact that they reduce stress in your life.
I can only imagine what you must be going through having to deal with that alone and pregnant. I know you need time but if I was you I would be bringing a new little one home right now, you will be surprised how happy it will make you. Think of it almost as the new gitters of getting into a new realationship but the cat won't talk back, drink, spend your money, be nasty, smell too bad, he'll always be happy to see you and listen to you and he'll always love you till the end, the best man in your life you could have, lol. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 12:37 AM |
| thats a great idea to get an older cat i will be doing that. i only have 6 weeks to go until my baby comes so i think ill wait till she is born so i can get into a routine with feeding her and stuff first then ill get one. i am the same as you i have never been without a pet i love all animals ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 3:51 PM |
| Well Sarah it sound's like your doing better ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 12:46 AM |
| hello guys sorry i havent been on for a while been busy with baby stuff... id just like to let ya know that im feeling a lot better than i was i still miss my dear little boy awfully but ive stopped crying about it. now all i have left are memories of him and they are all good memories.. he will always be in my heart i love him very much.. ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 2:44 PM |
| Hi Sarah how's your pregnancy going? How much longer do you have? ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Mar 8th, 2006 6:01 AM |
| hello jenny i have 5 and a half weeks.. 38 days lol and counting she is so big i cant wait till she is out so i can meet her. and be able to put my own socks and shoes on instead of my mum doing it for me lol. ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Mar 8th, 2006 4:43 PM |
| Yeah girl i hear you. I have about three more months myself and i don't know how i'm going to make it ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Mar 8th, 2006 10:31 PM |
| hey jenny do you know if your having boy/girl what names you got picked out? ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Mar 8th, 2006 10:38 PM |
I'm having a girl and i'm going to name her Autumn.
And you? ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Mar 9th, 2006 9:02 AM |
| im having a girl too, im calling her Zoe ive had the name picked since i fell pregnant... ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Mar 9th, 2006 2:44 PM |
| hi sarah how are you doing today? I'm okay i guess ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Mar 9th, 2006 11:18 PM |
| hi jenny, I'm good im packing my bags for the hospital today, and your self you dont sound so good whats up? ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Mar 10th, 2006 3:37 PM |
| Hi sarah yeah your right i don't feel so well. MY stomach and back have been giving me problems lately ↑ |
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