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Name: JRW

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I really need some advice and I have no where to turn. I have been dating a wonderful man for the past year and a half and he just revealed that he is not sure if he wants a child "permamently" in his life. He wants to keep things status quo and I do not see that as an option because I can not have my little one turn into a casualty in the process.

I would like to point out that I did not introduce them until 6 months in, he wanted to meet her, he has been wonderful to her from the start, and now I am confused as to what I should do. Do I walk away based on his "I don't know" status, give him space and request that he decide before we go any further, or do I stand by while he tries to figure it out on his own? ↓

Name: Dez | Date: Feb 7th, 2012 9:38 AM

Hey hun, I don't know how much help I am going to be but being a single mother of two, my advice to you is that if he's "not sure" then that's a big problem. I mean this is completely my opinion but he knew from the begining you were a package deal and he choose to continue with the relationship instead of taking a step back then. Now he wants to reevaluate everything. What about you and you precious daughter, that is unfair and selfish. I can't tell you what to do but I definetly think it is wrong and if it were me I would walk away becuase if he doesn't know after that long, he is never gonna know. ↑