i am actually the grandparent of a beautiful 5 week old grandson. wow i dont even know where to begin? my son was dating a girl 20 yrs old, they broke up got together for a few weeks and they got pregnant. i will call her mary. during my sons relationship mary wanted to get married and have a baby. this pregnancy was no accident. mary thought that if she became pregnant jay would get back together with her and fall in love with her. of course this did not happen. now comes the problem. with in 2 weeks of having the baby mary realized they were not going to be together. my son went to all her doctor appts. ultrasounds, parenting classes, etc. he was perfectly clear that they would not be a couple. aprox 2 weeks after my grandson was born she started to just leave the baby and not come back. one time she went shopping for a few hours and my son had to track her down in a bar at 200am. this is only one example she has lkeft her son for 2 weeks at a time, came back took him home and basically was back in 2 hours. my exhusband and myself have been helping jay as much as we can. my grandson has his own nursery, everything a newborn could possibly need. my ex and i have talked about the situation and both agreed that my son and his child can live with my ex and his dad. our problem is my son is so exausted he has been working for a temp agency and has missed so many days due to being up with his son all night. my son is so in love with his child and actually amazes me at how quickly he learned how to properly care for his child. the biggest problem is he does not realize that mary did not bond with her son and has no desire to care for him. our concern is that since my son is the sole caretaker with our help we are a hundred percent supporting my grandson, which is fine but i believe the childs mom is getting welfare, wic foodstamps, etc. what if the state comes after my son for child support? the state is not aware my grandson is living with his dad full time. can the state come after him for child support since they assume the mom is supporting the baby? o.m.g i could go on and on but do not want to bore anyone. any advice please????? ↓
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