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Name: Heather
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So for the last few months my relationship with my unborn baby's father has been...very rough. In the beginning i didn't understand why he was treating me so badly, but after almost ALL of my friends and family told me that it started once my ex stopped paying me childsupport. I realized that the first six months we were together I aid almost every bill. except for a very small amount from him to help with rent. he has had no job since i met him, and refuses to get one. Once i lost my job and stopped getting that money from my ex bills couldn't be paid and he began to change. become very verbally abusive and even mean to my daughter, which was the last straw for me. we have been broken up for about a month now...the only problem is we still live together, because neither one of us has the money yet to leave. I am...so very stressed out. I have only been able to gain 2 pounds my entire pregnancy. The doctors told me that the baby was under developed for it's age and that i need to eat more and stay calm, but it's very hard when my home life is so rough. I don't know what to do. I feel overwhelmed by everything. But most of all i feel so betrayed by him. My last relationshio was a disaster as well...and i ended up giving birth alone and raising our daughter alone, and I'm so upset because I realize that that's going to happen all over again. It's so hard for me to get through the day. I have no car to get away, and although my daughter and i try to walk a lot it's freezing cold and I don't want her to get sick....I just need some words of encouragement. I feel ike everything is falling apart and I'll never be able to pick up the pieces again.
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Name: AFM | Date: Jan 24th, 2014 3:26 AM
Hey Heather! The fact that you are even able to recognize that you are being mistreated by this "man" is a good sign. Although it may seem as though you are stuck, I would say keep looking for a way out. Are there shelters for women in your situation where you live or any type of resources you could use in your community? I don't have all day to tell you my story, but I can relate to having a child by a man who was verbally and emotionally abusive and did not care or respect the fact that I was carrying his child, and only child at that. I made a decission to pack my things and leave the state. My son is now 2 months and I made a commitment to him that I will do whatever it takes to keep him safe and surrounded by people who love him. I'm not sure if you are religious or spiritual but when I say I prayed my butt off...I prayed my butt off...not like I had much of one to begin with. Any who, make a commitment to put yourself and your kids first and kick the trash to the curb. Even if it means planning for about a year or two (it took me a year to get out of my abusive situation...and I got pregnant while trying to escape) just keep at it. Don't give up or change your mind and go back. You know what is best for you and your children. I am keeping you in my prayers. 

Name: Angie | Date: Jan 29th, 2014 7:34 PM
you.can make it dont let anyone make you feel.bad you have to be strong for your kids.they need you.my spouse is the same way my kids dont belong to him and he get a check every month and we.stay with him but I kmow you can make.please stay strong. 

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