I am going to try to make this as short as possible.
My child's father and I were together for 4 years before our daughter. After she was born we were together for 2 more before he married. We were on and off the last two years and during the off he was with another girl. We broke up one last time in Nov he married her in Feb. 3 months later.
Honestly, it crushed me because I thought deep down inside he did love me. He verbally abused me when we would fight and it was physical once too. It has taken me almost two years to realize how unhealthy things actually were. i know they were not right, that's why I left, but its taking a while for my heart to catch up to my head.
We have been in and out of court with several things since she was born. He gets once a month visitation with our daughter and that is all he is involved her her life. Doesn't call to check on her, never attends t-ball games, school programs or recently her 4k graduation. There have been times in the past that he has been very disrespectful to me with communication.Yet when she is there for her weekend visitation, he plays super dad.
Not even a year into his marriage, after we exchanged our daughter, he called me to tell me how me still thought about our sex and he just wished for one more night. He wanted me to send his pics of my panties. Then when I rejected him and told his wife he called me the devil and she said I was trying to sabotage their married. 5 months ago he sent me a pornographic picture (with the x part cropped out) via text asking it it was me. I ignored it. He said he was just "looking out for me and our daughter because he knew I had a wild side in my past and he wanted me to know it was online everywhere", needless to say he was just in town for court the day before and never even went to see his daughter. He lives 5 hours away.
What I am having a problem with is how is does not seem fair that he was able to treat me the way he did and go on with his life just fine. He has found a girl who apparently loves him enough to stay with him through his infidelity. How has be changed for her with th the verbal abuse? He married her just three months after calling me a cunt (sorry for the language).
I have been in counseling for a year now trying to heal from our unhealthy relationship. How is it that he was able to just move on so smoothly with no regret or remorse?? ↓
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