Havent really posted in here for a while..and i dont think there are as many loonies in this forum then the others
I am a SAHM - single, 21 Live in Australia. I have a beautiful baby boy Oliver who is nearly 2 months old. ↓
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| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 13th, 2007 11:10 PM |
| hiya im 21 from the uk and have 2 girls a 4yr old and a 7 month old also a stay at home mum how are you? ↑ |
| Name: sez | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 1:01 AM |
| Ya im good thanks ! wow you got a little housefull there i see. Must keep you busy ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 2:00 AM |
| yeah ive most definatly got my hands full my baby is a nightmare shes full of energy ive been posting in the stay at homes mum forum im bit dissapointed have you been there before or been here long? id like to talk to someone who knows others on here ive seen alot of messages sprouting abuse ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 2:05 AM |
| and reporting fakes im not sure i wanna deal with fake people id like to talk to genuine people with genuine kids who understand the problems mums face. ↑ |
| Name: nwass | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 2:18 AM |
| You two ladies are so brave for being SAHM. I tried it once and could barely afford diapers or gas money. It was terrific waking up and being with my son all day, atleast I have friends who operate day cares so I know that I can trust them with my son. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 6:05 AM |
nwass - thats good for you. I could NEVER leave my son with anyone, i am way too protective of him...the longest i have left him alone ( out of the same house ) was for 30 minutes and that was with my parents.
I had a friend a couple weeks ago babysit for me..but i was in the same house.....it took me forever to get to sleep..i was worried about him and just wanted him to be right beside me.
I never knew i would be so protective! ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 6:12 AM |
| sez - l3itchyl3unny by the way ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:17 PM |
| oh hiya you changed your username . it is hard being a single stay at home mum but i suppose you gotta do it i would rather be struggling to make ends meet than go anywhere near my kids dad for maintainance or go back to my parents. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:17 PM |
| i feel the same way i wont leave my kids with anyone apart from my parents you just dont know who to trust anymore. ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:21 PM |
| mel whos helping you w kids . does he pay you any thing just wondering ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:31 PM |
| no one helps with the kids i support them by myself i worked a part time job when my oldest was born and relyed on benefits to top up my cash but they wasnt alot i only got £40 a week then once i fell pregnant with my baby i stopped working but luckily i managed to save up some money from when i was working. Im now back to being on the dole and hate it with a passion, trying to find work again. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:37 PM |
| he hasnt paid a penny for either child since they were born. I found out that he was married and him and his wife had all 5 of their children taken from them and adopted he put in his statement that they were safer away from that household. Ive also found out he has been charged with some very serious offences so i got an injunction out on him to keep him away from me and the kids so now he dont see the point in paying at all. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:39 PM |
| they are with me day in day out i get lonely mainly lack of adult conversation but i love every minuite of it ↑ |
| Name: sez | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:43 PM |
| the so called father of my son doesnt pay anything either..but he is a american resident..a fling that went wrong i guess you could say ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:43 PM |
| mel sorry things r so crappy for you ↑ |
| Name: sez | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:43 PM |
| I miss going out with my friends and being the old me, but i wouldnt swap that now for my son..he means the world to me ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:46 PM |
| you know what stinks those guys hurt it for us the ones that do care i have both my kids 4 an 7 ↑ |
| Name: sez | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:53 PM |
| Yup makes it hard to trust anyone, not just the opposite sex ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 4:58 PM |
| i know what your saying . ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 5:00 PM |
| my issue is who am i willing to let close to my boys. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 5:53 PM |
| its ok ive learnt to deal with things over the years i love being a mum i wouldnt change them for the world i just wish things could be better for them but im getting there slowely maybe ill win the lottery ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 5:56 PM |
| sez i agree with you mind you i was never much of a clubbing person ive just forgotten who i am i cant remember a time when it was just me. Ive got to the point where i cant be without them my boyfriend ha invited me up to see his family in scotland but i cant afford to take the kids my mum is gonna have them for a week im worried as i dont know how to act like anything else other than mum. They are pains at times but im lost without them. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 5:58 PM |
| stevie do your kids see there mum? my friends mum has just walked out on her kids her youngest is 6 and her eldest is 18 they have taken it really badly. ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 9:16 PM |
| mel she takes them tuesday 6pm to 730pm an then saterday all day an night i get them rest but im like you love having them. they like everything i like . snowmobiling an 4 wheeling. its really snowing right now so we went out an i pulled them on there sleds w 4 wheeler. they love that stuff. i do have a little free time but i use that to my paperwork for my business. so then there back home an were off an running. ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 9:21 PM |
| my boys r taking it a little ruff but i try to keep them busy . with things to do . sometimes they sit w me when we watch tv an they will sit right next to me . like im going to take off. i just tell them dads not going anywhere . my baby asked me if i were ever going to marry someone else that made me shed a few tears .just told him they r my number one thing right now. its really going to be tough thou. i thought about it who in there right mind wants to deal w a guy w 2 boys actually three kids i have a 20 yr old whos on his own. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 15th, 2007 9:10 PM |
| im glad there mum is still part of there lives it must be hard for them but sounds like you are doing a great job. Do you know what there is planty of people out there who want to be involved with men like you the reason being you have a good heart i say that because its hard raising kids especially if you are on ure own it takes alot of patience and no matter how lonely and hard things get our kids are our number one priorities it never changes ive given up so much to look after my kids one day i hope they will thank me for it. I personally would have loved to got involved with a guy with kids i nearly did until i found out he was still in love with the mother of this children and me and him are great friends now. They know what i deal with day in day out and understand if i cant get a babysitter in 2 hrs time or why i cant go for a weekend in france every ten mins even if there is baggage and problems that come with them. But who dont have problems. ↑ |
| Name: stevie | Date: Feb 15th, 2007 10:03 PM |
| guess your right everyone does have problems just some worst then others. what i hate is my problems are not do to me they are caused by her . so what i m dealt w is dealing her crud .then listening to my boys whinning. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 12:51 AM |
| same ere my problems are caused my a man tha didnt want to take responsibility for his actions and now im paying the price. I love my kids to bits and wouldnt change them for the world but its hard im not working and struggling to make ends meet and my savings are running out soon ill have to go on the dole and that dont pay hardly enough. Its a nightmare but things do get better my nan is always telling me things have to get worse before they get better. ↑ |
| Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 8:37 PM |
| dont worry thats what we are here for you know to take our frustrations out on other people who understand that you actually mean no hard feelings about it. i dont really have any good friends i can actually let any steam of to and like you said i cant take my stress out on the young uns but it is hard i struggle to keep them smiling on a bad day. any supposed friends i have use me for a shoulder to cry on when they got problems then dissapear for months. They think i have the perfect life and because i dont break down and cry in front of the kids that im strong enough to handle everyones problems. The thing is i am but little do they know most nights i feel completely worthless and cry for hours. I think thats mainly to do with the baby blues i had when my youngest was born. you deserve someone and one day she will come along even if its not in a romantical sense she will be right under your nose. ↑ |
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