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Name: Abbi

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My husband walked out on me and our 1 year old alittle over a month ago. Lately we can't seem to get along or agree on anything, but giving up on the marriage never crossed my mind.
What really hurts is the timing and how fast he left...it was during mid-term assessment (I'm a working student) and say we had the arguement on Monday, the following day all his things were gone. This just says to me that he had been planning to leave for some time now. I think it would be pertinent to add that he left me before when I was 7 months pregnant only to return a few weeks later (because his mother put him out). So his 'quitting' attitude is not new to me. I just thought that after all this time he'd grown out of it!

THE PROBLEM: every time he leaves, he always comes back for sex...which is good and bad...Good because it may indicate that he's not sleeping with anyone else...Bad because it hinders me from moving on without him...so should I continue to have sex with him? ↓

Name: Hiddy | Date: Nov 12th, 2006 3:46 AM

Only if you want to be a doormat ↑

Name: jennifer early | Date: Nov 12th, 2006 4:10 AM

no. what? he doesnt think you are good enough for a wife and to be with his child but you are good enough for a peice of ass, pardon my french. he is using you and it is way too hard to get over a relationship. it is hard to not have sex because it is an emotional attatchment between the two of you but he needs to figure out what he wants. ↑

Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Nov 12th, 2006 4:36 AM

I'm sorry but you must really have a low self esteem when you can clearly establish the fact its not going to work again...but you will still sleep with him?
And just because he comes back for some sex dont mean he is getting it from somewhere else.
Honestly for your well being and the future of your child i would cut off this toxic relationship! ↑

Name: sally24 | Date: Nov 13th, 2006 7:05 PM

Defiantly not , I know how hard it is to just let go even if you know the other person is treating you like crap and you are better off without them , you may still love them , and how can you not you were married you shared a child, so its easy to let them come back in for sex , for a moment you feel all those good things over again , for a moment you find some sort of hope. Next time he comes around for sex just tell him no , be strong for the sake of your child you don't deserve someone like this at all, file for divorce so he knows its over , it sounds like you have given him more than enough chances and more than the benifit of the doubt now you need to set an example for your child. Make sure you take care of legal stuff , like child support and custody , let him know to if he wants to be an ass and walk out on you then thats fine but he needs to be there for his child. Hopefully for the sake of your child he will be a better man , but don't sit around waiting in it for yourself. Just move on you will be better off without him in the long run. ↑

Name: saxton_emma | Date: Nov 13th, 2006 10:30 PM

i was like this when i split up with my bf i was such a mess and continued to sleep with him when he came round, it was a big mistake, he was using me and it made me feel even worse as i was still hanging onto the hope that he would want me back when he didnt.
and it doesnt indicate he is not sleeping with someone else i also thought this with my ex and i found out he was sleeping with two other people...
you need to move on and dont let this guy use you at all... ↑