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Name: Melissa
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I am a 21 year old single mom with a 7 month old baby boy. I just found out two days ago that I am pregnant again! I have started seeing a great guy, owns his own business, has a lot going on for him and treats me exceptionally well (so far, you know how fast things can change) but we've only known eachother for a month!!! I had my period on the 20th of last month, got over it on the 24th of 25th... I have had sex with one person at the very beginning of the month and then my new boyfriend every day for the remainder. I have just found out I am pregnant, but I only took an at home test... I dont know how fast you can get pregnant, but I am definately assuming that it is my new boyfriends? But can you become pregnant in that short of a period? I was supossed to get my period on the 19th or so... didnt see it by the 24th and took a test... PREGNANT..... We knew we were not playing it safe, but I guess I procrastinated enough and just thought it wouldnt happen again, especially so soon! But here I am, with a guy I hardly even know, wondering about abortion pills (although I told myself I would never take that route after having my little boy), scared, feeling alone... He works all day long with his business and I have not had a chance to really tell him about all of my feelings... I dont know whether or not he understands what a commitment this is! i mean, he's great, but I hardly know him and I was just getting my life back on track from having my little guy! This has thrown my whole world upside down and I am simply looking for advice. He wants me to keep the baby, his previous girlfriend had an abortion about a year ago and he does not believe in it. He has asked me if I have even been thinking about it and I said no... I am excited, scared and feeling all of those emotions again but the last thing I want is to be a single mother of two children... I just cant believe this is happening! Please, if you could spare a moment and leave me some advice or personal experience stories... I would be truly grateful. Thank you so much- Take care and God bless...
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Name: Tiffany | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 7:44 PM
hey girl how old are u?? I hope every thing is going better then it was when u started this!! 

Name: Jill | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 8:05 PM
Unfortunately life offers no gaurenties. If this guy married you tomorrow to prove he wants to stick around and raise a family with you what's to say he couldn't or wouldn't turn around six months from now and file for divorce? Here's the deal ... you have found a guy that you like a lot, you got pregnant a little sooner then you would have planned but you're still pregnant -- that's the fact, and your new guy is telling you he wants to stick by you and raise this baby -- I say go for it. Sometimes we have to trust a little in order to reap the rewards. Your new boyfriend sounds sincere and that is a rare quality to find in anyone. Don't abort, if you do you'll have to wonder what if for the rest of your life. Giving birth to this baby at least lets you witness the potential he/she will have. If you aren't ready to parent again find an adoptive family for your little one, but don't end his/her life because you are not sure about parenting another child so soon. You said it yourself, you weren't playing it safe and you knew it -- you shouldn't punish this innocent baby for your over - sight (I hate the word mistake when it comes to pregnancy). 

Name: MELISSA | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 10:27 PM
HELLO, MY NAME IS MELISSA ALSO AND I WAS JUST RECENTLY IN THE SAME SITUATION. EXCEPT I HAD TWO ONGOING RELATIONSHIPS. WELL, KINDA. I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT AND I FREAKED OUT. I DIDNT KNOW WHICH ONE IT BELONGED TO. I HAD JUST GOTTEN OUT OF A VERY LONG ABUSIVE MARRIAGE AND IT WAS ONLY 7 MONTHS BEFORE I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT. I DECIDED TO KEEP THE BABY NO MATTER WHAT. AND THE ONE OF THE TWO MEN WHO TRUELY LOVED ME VOWED TO STAY WITH ME NO MATTER THE OUTCOME. AS LUCK WOULD HAVE IT THE BABY DID BELONG TO HIM. MY ONLY ADVICE TO YOU WOULD BE TO REALLY STOP AND THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT. A MAN IS ALWAYS A RISK BUT YOUR CHILDREN ARE ALWAYS A SURE THING. IF HE REALLY DOES LOVE YOU HE WILL BE THERE REGUARDLESS OF YOUR DECISION. I CONSIDERED THE SAME THING YOU DID BUT NOW THAT SHE IS HERE I WOULDNT HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY. NOW I CAN FINALLY GIVE MY TWO OTHER SONS THE LITTLE SISTER THEY WANTED. I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD, AND ALL THE HAPPINESS. 

Name: Jenna | Date: May 12th, 2006 12:00 AM
How do you know it's not the first guys baby? 

Name: Beth | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 4:32 AM
OOO so ya'all cheated on ur bf. NICE GOing 

Name: Vivian | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 3:21 AM
The time to think about not wanting to be a single parent with two kids is before you think your pregnant. Always be honest and always do the right thing no matter what the consequences are. God will guide you even though it may not always be easy. Dont think about yourself dont think about the guy. Think about the life god is blessing you with. You never know that child could turn out to be your blessing of your life. 


Name: mari | Date: Aug 11th, 2006 2:04 PM
hi hon,take a breath and dont jump into something in the heat of the moment.you dont really know this guy after a month,so take it slow. i have two kids and am divorced. talk with a councellor about this new baby. it really doesnt matter what he thinks,you are the one who has to raise this child.you know what a huge commitment it is to have a child-does he have any? if he is so opposed to abortion why is he going around making babies? it doesnt look like he is all that concerned about YOU talk to him-if he runs away-good riddence, if he stays try to work it out, but NEVER put yourself in a position that you depend on him and cant leave. i wasted 15 years married to a man who was very self centered and verbally abusive. i dont want you to deal with the same thing. dont marry him unless you know where you stand and feel comfortable with your desitions. take care and good luck 

Name: Angela H | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 7:09 PM
Well, just so you know I've been a single mother of two and I can honestly say I don't really think it's any harder than being a single mother of one. You'll find a way if it is with or without this guy. If you're not sure about having two kids, have you considered adoption? I know personally what a great gift adoption is. (I was adopted as an infant.) Well, best of luck I'm sure you'll do fine. If you have any questions about my life (2nd child I had just split up with the guy the week before I found out I was pregnant) or just want to chat drop me a line [email protected] 

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