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I found out I was pregnant right after Christmas. I have been in this relationship on and off for a year and a half. The babys father is controlling, found out he is selling drugs, and his has major anger probelems. I decided to leave him and move back in with my parents. I love this guy. I am 21 and 3 months pregnant. I want my baby to have a father. My parents dont think I should allow the father to be in my baby's life. I am having mixed emotions. We live 6 hours away from eachother now and it is hard for me to trust him. He is about to be 22 and has no job and goes to strip clubs all the time. If anyone has advice they can give me it will be extremely appreciated. ↓
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| Name: amiee | Date: Feb 13th, 2006 7:32 PM |
| hi im 17 i have a 7 month old baby n im nat wif da father because of my mothers choice she said dat if i stayed wif my boyfriend den i wud b on my own but im getting on ok im over him by now but i get lonely sumtimes although in ur situation i agree wif ur mother because ur ex was involved in drugs and strip clubs he aint really ready to be a father my ex started stealin cars and fings like dat n i dnt allow him to c ,ma child at first i disagreed wif my mother but now i totally understand her hope i helped. ↑ |
| Name: Marie | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 3:28 PM |
Ashlee,
If the father is controlling and selling drugs then you should not let your child be around him, it's not healthy at all.
You can raise this child without the father and at this point I think you should. As long as the father continues with his bad behavoirs, your child will be at risk. ↑ |
| Name: Chelsea | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 3:29 PM |
Right now you have to concentrate on yourself and the baby you are carrying. You obviously want what's best for the baby and in my opinion it sounds like your parents are right. If you decide to parent the baby, you do not want a man like that in his or her life, do you? I agree with your parents....let him go. You don't want to take the chance of him hurting you because of anger problems. Focus on taking care of YOU and that little miracle you have inside you. Hang in there Ashlee.
Also, Michelle....stop being so rude. Adoption is NOT buying a baby. Adoption is a beautiful journey and as the adoptive mother of an daughter through open adoption, I am offended at your comment. ↑ |
| Name: 2 michelle | Date: Mar 6th, 2006 1:03 AM |
i agree that was rude Ashlee said nothing about adoption or 'do u wat 2 buy my baby' dont be so insensitive if u dont have something 2 say that is about what their talking about dont bother replying.
sorry ashlee...good luck darl and u can do this on ur own my kids daddy was the same i choose my kids welfare over what my heart wanted. its just over a year later and i miss him terribly and my heart hurts more than what it did b4 ....but my kids have a better life
i have 3 children and im only 24 and i never expected 2 do it on me own but im doing it. it can get hard but there are always people who will support u.
u can do it girl. hardest part about being a mum u have 2 think about what is best 4 ur kids not what u want :) its worth it though ↑ |
| Name: Chelsea | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 3:52 AM |
| I was just wondering how you were doing.... ↑ |
| Name: Shay | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 6:39 PM |
| If he is controlling you really shouldn't be with him.. Has he hit you? If so then you should already know what if he hits your baby? you say you love him well chose him or your baby? it may be hard but you might have to do it alone... do you have any friends who can help? ↑ |
| Name: hailie | Date: Mar 29th, 2006 6:45 PM |
| hey im 16 and im 2 weeks pregnant. my mom wants me to have an abortion. is there anyone that is in my shoes, or has been in my shoes that can give me advice? ↑ |
| Name: emma | Date: Apr 2nd, 2006 10:20 PM |
| hailie have a baby is a life do not get a abortion u will be in pian but its is the best thing in girls life to have a baby 3 thing you can do 1 is give it up to be adpot, 2 you be it mum, 3 abortion that kill a baby, me i have a baby at 14 and i am 16 now my wee boy is 2 now he was born on my brithday his name is stewart i love him i still go to school and i have job but i can spend time with him his david when away i go a new boyfriend he love me and stewart so its stewart new dad ↑ |
| Name: Heather | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 4:06 AM |
I am in a very bad situation. The father is an ok but I don't trust him. Please put child first. Do you want an abusive controlling man in your life. Its not worth it and they will not change for anything.
Just get the help you need. Living with parents is safe. its what I am doing at 31 and 24 weeks pregnant. Please ditch the man its scary being lonly. But you owe it to your baby and your self to be safe. ↑ |
| Name: sheree | Date: Aug 21st, 2007 1:48 AM |
| hey hun... iim going through what you are right now!! yes its easy for ppl to say no u dnt need him... but ive found i dnt need him at all... im doing it by myself... and i was with my ex boyfriend for 8 years..im 23 and 6 mnths along... hun just believe in urself and be strong u will get through this,,, ur baby need a father that is a drug dealer or controling... u will never be happy just to go back to him because of the baby... ↑ |
| Name: ashley | Date: Oct 9th, 2007 3:32 AM |
| please understand that your baby should be the only one you are thinking about right now. this boy will do nothing to help and only cause problems for you during and after pregnancy. with all of these personality traits you have mentioned, he may even resort to physical abuse causing you to loose your baby. you will be fine on your own, and if you need help, there are plenty of programs and people out there more than willing to help. be safe and stay away from this guy. PLEASE! ↑ |
| Name: paris | Date: Oct 29th, 2007 1:38 PM |
| can u have a baby after an obortion ↑ |
| Name: Madison | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 10:58 PM |
| i am 8 weeks along yesterday i have a man who will help me through the whole thing i nevr cheated on him so i know its his. i am only 15 and i dont know how they they will react. can anyone give me advice on i should break it to them ??? ↑ |
| Name: madison | Date: Nov 15th, 2007 10:59 PM |
| i ment to say that i was talking about my perents ↑ |
| Name: Jordan | Date: Nov 19th, 2007 2:42 AM |
| I am now 7 months pregnant and i am really scared. I am only 15 and my parents dont support me and neither does my babys daddy what sould i do? ↑ |
| Name: annie7224 | Date: Nov 19th, 2007 6:58 PM |
| Jordan, Email me we can figure this out together [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: annie7224 | Date: Nov 19th, 2007 11:47 PM |
| Name: beka | Date: Nov 24th, 2007 2:10 AM |
| i kno how u feel.im 16 and pregnant.my boyfriend is 18 with no job and lots of porn...he lives far away and doesnt call me....yet he claims to love me and want to be around. i love him deeply but i kno he feels different. he is also controlling and has anger problems. but i the mist of all this utter madness i always find comfort from my mom. im kinda just realizing that i (personally,not saying u) can only rely on my mom. so lately i ve been spending more time talking with her....it helps take off the stress from school and my boyfriend. i dont kno if that would work 4 u but its all i got. ↑ |
| Name: scared to death | Date: Dec 1st, 2007 10:06 PM |
| Name: kayla. | Date: Dec 2nd, 2007 12:07 AM |
| im 16 and 24 weeks, i completely agree with you beka i havent lived with my mom for years, but now that i got preg and seems like ive lost everything, its like shes my best friend. ↑ |
| Name: kayla. | Date: Dec 2nd, 2007 12:10 AM |
| scared to death, you have yahoo or msn?? ↑ |
| Name: Pam | Date: Dec 18th, 2007 11:36 PM |
| I am a married woman age 25, My husband and I are parents without any children we have a big house and lots of toys and lots of love and time to spend with a child please if you don't think you can give these babies a good life you would want for them, think about adoption I know there are many people out their with supportive families to give these children a chance. ↑ |
| Name: Pam | Date: Dec 18th, 2007 11:45 PM |
If you or someone you know wants to give their child a better life please keep us in mind. we can keep it confidential.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: STINA | Date: Dec 27th, 2007 7:34 PM |
| DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY I AGREE WITH YOUR PARENTS!I KNOW WHAT IT IS KLIKE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT AND NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY THEY NEVER CHANG! EVERYTHING YOU ARE FEELING THE BABY FEELS IT TO! IF A MAN CANT CHANGE FOR HIS OWN CHID WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE'LL CHANGE FOR YOU? THERE ARE PLENTY OF MEN OUT THERE WHO COUOLD BE A WAY BETTER FATHER AND BOYFRIEND TO YOU AND YOUR BABY AND TAKE CARE OF YOU GUYS THEY YOU WANT TO BE TAKEN CARE OF!! ↑ |
| Name: kayla | Date: Jan 13th, 2008 7:28 PM |
| Name: amber thompson | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 3:20 AM |
| i think the main goal right now is to worry about that baby inside of you and to do whats best for it..it seems like you have a family supporting you right now so dont worry about the father issue until the baby is born stay healthy and relax..complications can be caused by stress ↑ |
| Name: kierra | Date: Feb 15th, 2008 7:58 AM |
| Name: Cas | Date: Mar 1st, 2008 8:58 AM |
| Sometimes becoming a father can change a man. I say give him a chance, if he blows it, then you won't have the guilt of always wondering "what if"? I would also set up "Supervised only visits" with him and always have another member of a your family or a friend with you when or if the father decides he wants to be a part of the baby's life. Never take a chance with the safety of you or your baby, especially if he is a drug dealer. Best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: shoshanna | Date: Mar 2nd, 2008 2:04 AM |
| i cant give any advice but i can relate, its hard to decide if its worth the pain of having him there or not, when you have advice please share. i would trust your parents though they have lived much longer and wiser lifes than us, i am 19 and 20 weeks ↑ |
| Name: charme | Date: Mar 2nd, 2008 3:40 AM |
| im 14 and 16 weeks pregnant. im scared ↑ |
| Name: click | Date: Mar 3rd, 2008 3:13 PM |
| hi your baby needs a dad but a usless dad will just cause more hurt than happiness, this guy has to step up show u he wants the unborn child, let him find a job he's about to be a dad, being with him as u descrided is as good as being a single mum. Also start focus on how best u can bring this baby up alone. u'll be fine, i didn't think i could do it now my baby is 21 months...! ↑ |
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