I am so sorry sweetie! You will be a wonderful mommy to this baby and you will get thru this. It is absolutely awful that he left you pregnant - if he was in love with another woman and confused - he should have at least been more careful not to get you pregnant.
I wish you the best of luck - and if you need emotional support - we are here for you. ↑ |
| you are still young with a lot of living to do.men will still want you even though you have a child.at least it is one.at your age women would be on their 3rd or fourth. your life is not over .don't let that define your destiny,or happiness.you will make it. ↑ |
that's horrible. I know the entire situation looks pretty bleak right now but you have to realize the good that came out of it- your child. That's someone who will love you forever, and who you can love freely back, without fear of being hurt. It's hard, i know, but soon you'll have a little baby you can love unconditionally, you'll bounce right back with your figure (you're young so that shouldn't be hard at all) and eventually you'll start dating again. It's painful right now but sometimes we have to go through a downpour to get to the rainbow (a cliche i know, but i've honestly found it to be true) i really belive you'll find a better man, someone who would never hurt you like that. You're life is not over, you are still in your prime and you can move foward. But feel free to allow yourself to heal. It'll hurt for a while, but time helps to heal. I remeber this one breakup, i honestly thought i would never be able to love another man as much as i loved him- i really thought he was 'the one' and that was it...there was no recovering from loosing him, i was convinced i'd have to end up settleing for less, but that's not what happend. He became engaged to someone else, which made it harder but finally i found someone as well. And I swear i think God put me in that first relationship only so i could reconize the good in the 2nd. The man i'm with now treats me so well that i for the life of me cannot understand why i put up with the other guy for so long. This saying i heard when i had the first breakup: Love is different on every shore it washes up on... that scared me even more because I wanted to love exactly as i had. I thought that was the peak of romance, i could not see it getting any better. but it did, to my surprise, it did.
Things take time, focus on your child and all the happiness and love you will bring to each other. As far as putting his name on the birth certificate i strongly advise you speak to a lawyer or someone who knows what rights that will give him because you certanly don't want him comeing back with this new woman in a few months-or even a few years down the road- and taking you to court for full custody. It does happen sometimes, so please, gaurd yourself.
With all that said, I'm so sorry for your current circumstance, i just pray you see it as just that- current. All things can and do change, be patient. good luck with everything. ↑ |
