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i am 29 years old, expecting my 2nd child, 12 weeks pregnant and my 'boyfriend' wants me to have an abortion, because he has an 8 months old infant with another woman he is not in a relationship with, also, he has someone who is supposed to be his real girlfriend. you wonder how i come in ? well, i dated him 3 years back and was never comfortable with his character, evidently . & well, he is a very pursuasive man and kept on pursuing me until now, 5 years later, i gave up fighting his persistence and got back in a relationship with him ,, though not well defined. & well .. i am pregnant now. i have been a good friend to him, even when he had the 8 months infant and did my best i believe to keep him away from me because of his situation but he refused to listen and wanted to be with me. i have been angry with him for asking me to have an abortion when he kept on persisting to be with me. one could blame me for being naive for not keeping to my word when i asked him to leave but well, i fell pregnant trying to fight his persistence. i cannot have an abortion because i cant imagine living with that for the rest of my life and he is afraid of what having another child now will do to his 'girlfriend', whom he is cheating on for the umptinth time and conceived a 2nd child without. the irony for me is, i think he is of bad character yet believe he is a good man at heart and still have feelings for him. i have refused to have an abortion, i would not be able to leave with myself and at times have felt guilty i am ignoring his feelings, at the same time im like he created this and must stop running away, i told him to leave me but he refused and now must take responsibility for his actions. i just want to hear from other people who have had similar experiences how you've dealt with it.
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Name: Ash | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 7:34 AM
I'm in a very similar situation. I'm 12 weels pregnant, 23 years old. The father and I have been "together" for over 2 years. It just started out as fun, but things progressed. I knew in the begenning he had a girlfriend, but she was never there at all. They live together, but since shes a doctor, they only spend time on the weekends. Anyways, he pissed cuz now he has to break this girls heart. He wanted me to have an abortion too, but when I went in for the appointment, I saw my baby on the monitor. I wish he was there to see it too. I decided to keep the baby, I cant go through the abortion. The first couple of weeks after I told him it was hell. I spent most of the nights crying or throwing up. He would come over and talk crap to me. He was furious. This was decided about 5 weeks ago, and since then he has gotten better. I know he cares, hes just torn. We have been spending more time together and hes concerned how I feel. Dont get the abortion unless you want it. This is your body, something that'll be in your mind forever. I hope that he will come around in the meantime. If not, you will have the satisfaction of knowing that because of your decision, your baby is alive. 

Name: Ann | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 6:06 AM
well im 22, and 33 weeks pregnant, single i guess, this is my first child.. o well my boyfriend wanted me to have an abortion around my 6 months of pregnancy... but i said no, he has refused to talk to me and he has been ignoring me since then, i honestly love him till now but it seems like i have no hope against him... i do want him back and i don't know what to do as a single mother others tell me it's very challenging i don't want him to run away from his responsibilities ... i don't know how to deal with this but i know my boyfriend has a heart... i'd do anything to get him back! 

Name: Mstaylor | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 5:12 PM
i'M 25..mY EX DID THE SAME THING. i AM NOW 24WEEKS PREG. I DECIDED TO KEEP MY BABY. HE HAS NOT CONTACTING ME IN OVER A MONTH! I DON'T KNOW IF HE WILL EVER BE AROUND. ONE THING I DO IS ALWAYS UPDATE HIM BY EMAIL ON WHATS GOING ON- THAT IT'S A GIRL..SHE'S HEALTHY EVERYTHING. I PLAN ON DOING THAT AND PRAYING. IT'S HARD ...VERY HARD! YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG FOR YOUR CHILD 

Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 7th, 2006 11:25 PM
Well not to be blunt but if he doesn't want kids he could of used condoms , it is your descion and your body and you have to do what is best for you wether that means he is in your life or not. Honestly if you new he was this way why didn't you use birth control ? it sounds as if you want this baby so I would move on and plan on being a single parent it is a diffucult thing but one that can be a wonderfull thing as well. 

Name: T'Ia | Date: Aug 15th, 2006 9:54 PM
I was in a similar situation.... But, the only difference is i did not ask anyone for advice... Which i hope i would have did because i went along and had an abortion. The reason why i had an abortion was the guy was to old for me and i was afraid to get him in trouble, but never once did i think about myself. So i went along with the abortion and i have been hurting emotionally ever since. I can't look at a child without thinking about the terrible thing that i did. So all i am saying is don't do it. Because you will suffer in the long run. One day your going to wish you can turn back the hands of time. But it is going to be too late, and trust you and your child is more important than some man. 

Name: Angela H | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 6:06 PM
You're a brave and smart girl for not being talked into anything by a guy who needs to do some serious growing up. Don't worry you'll find a way to make it through it all and the baby will make everything worth it.

p.s. I hope you can find a way to deal with this difficult situation. Get some professional help. You shouldn't have to deal with this loss alone and take it from an adopted child. You're forgiven for a mistake you didn't want to make. 


Name: caleigh | Date: Aug 19th, 2006 9:19 PM
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