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Name: mom_of_waylon_and_benjamin
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My husband works, and goes to school full-time. My entire family works. I was wondering if anyone has suggestions for getting through times of trouble such as these. My sons were 26 weekers and they are on oxygen, heart monitors, medication, plus pulse os monitors that go off every 2-3 minutes. PLEASE[ IF THERE IS SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE THROUGH A SIMILAR SITUATION] I WOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR ADVICE. ↓
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| Name: Dreams | Date: Nov 27th, 2005 7:43 PM |
| Wow, sounds like you are going to have a really tuff time...Any help for at least the first month? I had absolutely no help with my son and there was only one of him. I can't imagine two. It has been done before though. Just use this advice: If God ever allows them both to sleep at the same time, turn off the phone and lay down and sleep along side them and be thankful for that nap. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: deedeesgang | Date: Nov 20th, 2006 1:52 PM |
| Name: Kim Mori | Date: Dec 15th, 2006 12:26 AM |
Hi! I'm not going through what you are, Thank God for that but my advise would be to play music, all sorts of music it inspires you and lefts your mood and to dance with your babies!
Cheers Kim! ↑ |
| Name: augerkay | Date: Dec 16th, 2006 1:11 AM |
| Hi- my son was also a 26 weeker- but luckily my husband helped out alot. We both were working full time and trying to take turns at night with our son. I can only imagine what you are going through with 2 babies- I only had 1 and we were overwelmed... I also agree with Dreams and try to nap when the boys are . Do you have any close friends who can help you out ?? My parents and my husbands family also all worked, and a couple of our close friends would try to help us out.. Our son is now almost 10 years old... and some how we got through it.. You will also get through it- I know it may seem impossible right now, but if God brings you to it , then he will also bring you through it.. My advise is get as much sleep as you can -- Sweet Dreams..... ↑ |
| Name: Tracey A | Date: Jan 2nd, 2007 10:29 AM |
Hi,
How are YOU doing! I hope you are hanging in there.
Let me say I will pray for patience and strength for you.
How old are your boys now? I had twin boys at 32 weeks. Only one of the boys has severe problems. We have no family in the area (closest about 2 hours away). My husband had to return to work also, which left me with our twin boys and our 4 year old son.
I was able to get help from our church. I had people that I never met before come over...just to hold Jacob for me while I took care of Joshua (our baby with special needs), or hold Joshua while I nursed or took care of Jacob, Joshua's twin. Unfortunately, Tyler, our 4 year old had to watch a lot of tv during the first year. He will be fine :).
Also, the college my husband works for has a great nursing program, part of the program requires the students to do respite care for families with special needs. This was great!! We have met a wonderful student who might as well be a part of our family.
It was hard for me to accept help (that is just how I am, I can do everything...well I could not). As time went on, I was able to feel like things were getting better and I did not need someone every day (which I was fortunate to have). Now I am happy to say, Jacob and Joshua are 19 months old and I am flying solo. DOn't get me wrong, my husband does a ton to help, but I am alone with the boys again. Good Luck! If you get a free moment, which then you should nap :), or if you would like to chat further e-mail me traceyanded@comcast.net ↑ |
| Name: twin_troubles | Date: Jan 2nd, 2007 11:20 PM |
Dear mom I completely understand what you are going through. I have 5 month old twins who both have cerebral palsy and constant lung infections. My husband works way too much and I am left to take care of the babies and our 12 yr old son on my own. I feel exhausted and desperate half the time. I'm not sure I can offer much advice but I'd be a great shoulder to cry on because I'm living through it myself.
Connie ↑ |
| Name: lanaandalexis | Date: Jan 6th, 2007 8:44 PM |
| hi my name is jamie and i also have twin girls lana and alexis my husband works all the time and i also have a 3yr old i hd the girls a month early and i was put on bed rest alot i just about had them, at 27 weeks it is a hard job but i know that u can do it some time u your self needs a break if it is just a couple of hours i know that it will be hard but that is what u need for the babies twins are so wornderful they can get through it they both have a bound that u wouldnt belive mine still sleep together and they have been through alot with acid reflex and gaining weight so i di know what u r going throgh my blessings r with u thanks jamie ↑ |
| Name: Jeanette | Date: Jul 13th, 2009 11:06 PM |
| My twins are now 7 mos old, I also have a 5 yr old and my husband is only home 1 wk out of the month. It is really hard. My twins were born at 36 wks one was on a monitor that went off all the time. I cant imagine what you must be going through. I really did not have a lot of help. The best advice I can give you is to try and find help if possible, and to just take it one day at a time. It will get easier, just keep telling yourself that. I've come to realize that you can survive will barely any sleep, because I'm still here. Depression will set in if it already hasnt happened. Be strong and know that you will get through this. ↑ |
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