My partner has an 9yr old boy who is on the autistic spectrum. he's reading & writing is behind and his social skills are not great - all of which i can live with & help him with.
However his behavour is grating on me so much i am starting to really diss-like him, he's just not a pleasure to be around and just will not do as he is asked. If i (or his mum, or anyone else for that mater) was to ask him to tidy his room or wash hands ready for dinner etc, it just wouldnt get done - if i was to say "wash your hands and you can have chocolate buttons", it would be done without question. So it is safe to assume he fully understands the instruction and he chooses not to comply?? i want to help him and get along with him (have fun etc) but i'm really finding it hard to give him the time of day. I have my own 2 children (1 & 4) and if they were to behave in the same manner they would have serious punishment for it (not the smacking kind) - how can i show my kids the right way of doing things when they are watching an older boy get away with murder?
I can not believe that his behavour is the best it can be, so i think some help is in order - but if he's behavour is the best it can be, how do i cope with it?
I see peoples reaction to him & they thinks he's cute, "ahh he kicked the rabbit-its not his fault" what about the day he hits his mom or my 1yr old etc? I'm trying to look at the bigger picture in terms of his own development and for the sake of others around him - someone needs help & at the moment i'm not sure if its him or me??
please...any help & suggestions would be welcomed!
thanks ↓
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