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I was forced to stay at home because I lost my job to a lay off but I got a full 2yrs of college paid for, now im at home being a full time mom and student. Im 22 and just had my first child, a baby girl she is 4 mths old and im always grouchy and mad I do not know why. I cry constantly, and it seems I cannot get any help from my boyfriend. My baby has had colic and now ive been tring to get her on a schedule but its not going to well im not sure what to do. ↓
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| Name: Deb | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 3:25 AM |
| call your pediatrician- maybe your baby is on the wrong kind of formula and she's getting abelly ache. My daughter cried alot when first born- she wasn't getting enough breastmilk from me- then I had to supplement it with formula and she was fine. At about 4 months I gave her a half teaspoon of rice in her 8 ounze bottle-she started sleeping better. She was starving. At our location we have a place called the "stay healthy center" where you can call a nurse and get advice on newborns. Here's the number (607)763.5555 You can also check out their link- https://secure.uhs.net/patientlink/. It doesn't matter if you have health insurance or not. They are nurses that are available to answer your questions or advise you on if you should contact your doctor. Its free except for the phone call! ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 4:07 AM |
Hi DP Mom
I would also check with your doctor you might be suffering from post pardum depression. ↑ |
| Name: Angela | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 9:29 AM |
I agree with both Deb and Rachel.
My daughter just turned 6 months and she used to cry ALL THE TIME!!! Alot more when I supplemented her with formula and not at all with my breast milk, first the doc said we needed to switch the kind of nipples we were using, that helped a little, but she still cried alot, she would quite down when I would hold her across her tummy, it actually took a friend to see the pattern between how she acted with the bottle and breast, (that was in my no brain days), I switched her formula from regular Enfamil with iron to Enfamil Gentlease with iron, it is for babies with fussiness and gas. She was like a new baby, she was so much more happier!! There is also a formula for babies with colic, I would ask your doctor about it.
I started feeding her early too, she was always hungry. Now she can eat 3 jars of stage 1 baby food in one setting and sometimes a 4 oz bottle afterwards.
Here, in Nevada, our local hospital and the W.I.C. program also provide free advice. There should be #'s you can call in your area too.
I had post partum depression and it sound like you might suffering from it too, you can call your doc or you can even talk with the baby's doctor. Talk to your BF and let him know how you are feeling, family / friends can be a good support system too.
My hubby is gone Monday thru Friday driving truck, so he is not here to help me out, then when he is home on the weekends he tells me that it is his days off, he does cuddle with the baby, but he don't exactly feed her on time, he tries playing with her in order to stop her from crying, so by the time I get her she is really cranky.
Try to get some me time in, I know it is hard with a new baby, but it does work wonders! Do you have family or friends around to watch the little one? If so don't be afraid to ask one of them to watch the baby so you can take time out.
You can't take care of your baby unless you take care of yourself, I never believed that expression until I actually tried it! I found out if I actually ate, showered and got dressed before the kids woke up, I had more energy, physically and emotionally, to deal with whatever the kids brought my way :) And they can bring on alot of unimaginable things!!! LOL!!! ↑ |
| Name: Nikki | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 11:03 AM |
| Hey there..I'm sorry you've been having a rough time. I was a young mom (I was 18) so I know how tough it can be. I'm a mom of 3 now and I have to say, it has gotten easier. If you need to talk, vent, whatever..you can email me at [email protected]. ↑ |
| Name: stephanie | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 4:54 PM |
| hey, i know that alot of us know what you're going through. there are a lot of young moms or used to be young mom's on this site and their support is great. i was 19 when i had my twins, i had only finished 1 year of college. do you have to use the 2 years of paid for college NOW? maybe you could take a break until your girly is a little older, on more of a schedule and just until you are used to being a new mom. don't try to do too much, your babe is still small. if you do too much, or try to and get frusturated when you can't, that can lead to post partum depression. also, try getting her on a good schedule. the one that worked wonders for me and got my twins to sleep through the night at 2 months was. ... eat, play, sleep. always keep it in that order. feed her really good when she wakes up, and if she fell asleep, wake her by changing her diaper. then play toys, read a book, or just cuddle and talk. then put her down when she gets fussy. DO NOT feed her again. i used to feed the girls right before their nap thinking that they would sleep longer, but they always woke up sooner. just use a binky if you do, or night night and put her down. 2 hours later, your start over. this reall worked for me, and you can read detail into it in the book Babywise. these are excellent books! and try to get your boyfriend to help. me and my husband weren't married when i first had the girls, and we fought alot in the beginning over how much he helped me. tell him you can't do it all and you need a break. even if it is just to shower or go to the store, or my favorite alone time is to go to a book store, get some coffee and just relax. good luck! ↑ |
| Name: bianca | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 4:24 AM |
| you need to call you doctor immediately. it sounds like you have post pardum depression. the last thing you want to do is harm your baby out of frustration. your baby does not understand what you are going through, but she will fell the tension. if you need someone to talk to call me at 678-625-3847 ↑ |
| Name: DP Mom | Date: Jan 6th, 2006 12:09 AM |
| i talked to the doctor and they told me it was my birth control pills making me upset and plus my hormones are still going crazy. Istill cry sometimes but im alot more patient than i was. It helps to know that im not the only one going through this kind of stuff. ↑ |
| Name: jeremy | Date: Apr 21st, 2006 8:43 AM |
| there is formula u can buy at the store that is specialy made for colic babies..my daughter was colic. it takes a lil wbit of patience but it works. try that and see what happens ↑ |
| Name: Maxie | Date: Apr 21st, 2006 4:09 PM |
The ladies are very correct. I do also believe you may be suffering from PPD. I was there too. And it for ME was really bad. Do check with the doctor please. No news of that kind from him/her is good news. But dear, if you do have it, the longer you wait to see someone thinking its just all the new things (school, hubby too) going on....believe me the worse it can get. Its just a call and a trip to see them. Worth all the bit of time.
Formula, yes makes a great diffrence with so many children. Again talk to a doctor. Collic.....most important is to keep baby warm. NOT HOT. Just ensure they are not lying around in a sleeper without sleaves or without the feet. A light blanket to keep any possible chill away. Get a hot water bottle. Fill with not HOT (again) water but so that when full, it feels cozy warm. Rest it on babies tummy after feeding and before bedtime just on top of the sleepers with a light receiving blanket...and rocking yourselves gentley. Next, keep the poop moving! Yup thats right. You can see in the face of your child when they strain for the poop. On the floor. Off the diaper. Move the little legs from the straight out position to a kneebend position. When the movement begins and the strain increases just ever so gentley let the feet in the kneebend position push on your hands. Over and over until you believe they are done. Gentle naturally all the way!
If you were cold or chilly all the time and could not go to the bathroom you would cry too! Like cramping badley from the cold and lack of the other.
I did this with my kids and oh boy did it help. Once the little bodies get used to something maybe even the formula and they are warm and cozy and the poop is moving...a happier baby you will have. Dont forget to let the doctor know everything.
As for you hon...now is not the time to think you are just having copeing trouble because its all so new and that is the problem so for baby you need to be strong and get with it...oh honey no just please call.
I used to be a Flight Attendant for many many years.....even at 40,000 if the oxygen masks come down the rule is ...."your own mask first then assist you child with theirs..." There is nothing you can do to help anyone if you dont first ensure you are safely taken care of. May sound odd...but when you think about it ...its true.
Take care we are all here for you and many of us have gone through the same.
Maxie ↑ |
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