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Name: lynneings [ Original Post ] Dan has left me and Andrew,he left on sunday,he came into the bedroom and said that he needed some time away to work out how he was feeling,i cryed and did al things that u would do and thats ask him to stay and work things out and tell me whats wrong,but he just said that he needed some space. I called my freind up and she came round straight away i had a good cry on her shloder,she took me and Andrew over my mum's. All that day i kept on thinking what could he ean he wnats space,as i thought we were both so happy,it was not that long ago that we came back from spain and we had booked up for next year. Anyway when i got home i thought maybe if i take a look at his emails i will have some idea of whats wrong! Well i did find out what was wrong and it is that he has been seeing a girl from work,what got me was that he had been emailing her everynight for 3 week's right under my nose and i hadent even notcied it. I feel so stuipd,these emails were dreadful he told her things about our realtionship that should be kept between a married couple. What makes it worse is that when we would go on the xmas do's i would sit with her and have a giggle,she knew how i felt about him and that i was happy,i mean i know it takes two but she said in one of the emails to him that she felt nasty as she was taking away another womens man and if someone did that ot her she would feel like ending it all,then she went onto say that she really didnt want me to now that he was leaving me for her,it also went on to say about the last time they met up and how good it was,i felt sick to my stomach and my heart was pounding around my chest. That all happened on sunday,so i am starting to acpect it now but i dont like it. I am trying to sort out about getting housing benefit as i only work 16 hour's a week and all i have in my purse is £10.70p. He is also being really awkward about things too,i am having quite a tough time of it at the moment,And the worst thing about it all is porr little Andrew he think's that Daddy has left because of something he has done. I know that there will be people on this website that dont really care about this but to them u cant hurt me i am hurting enough as it is. But i wanted to come on and tell those people that do care. Sorry this is so long. ↓

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Name: lindalu | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 2:40 PM

Awww! I'm sorry. Unfortunately life isn't kind at times all we can do is hope that things turn out ok, and move on. I know things appear pretty glum rite now and you will get through this time, just as you have any other rough time. Again sorry to hear! ↑

Name: Lola-May | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 2:49 PM

Oh my god!!! I am so sorry this is happening to you! What a piece of shit! Sorry. Cheaters make me so angry. I am all too familiar with them. What a coward. "Needs time to think" SCREW YOU BUDDY!!! Copy and save all of those e-mails. You never know when that information will come in handy. I love that he gets to go away and have his "time to think" aka screwing around. While you get the joy of staying home with everything to remind you of you lives together and a child who's blaming himself for his daddy's lack of class and tact. Men. I hope the woman he's with cheats on him, gets herpes and passes it on to him. There's no cure...that shit will follow him for the rest of his life and be a constant reminder of how if he had just stayed faithful, he wouldn't have sores all over his dick. BAH! Sorry again. Seriously. I am angry for you. All I can say(other than the angry rant I just said lol) is that karma will kick his ass for this. Whether he believes in karma or not. That's just the way it works. What goes around really, really does come around. I've got your back. Emotionally anyways since I don't "actually" know you nor am I anywhere near you physically. ↑

Name: lynneings | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 3:51 PM

Lola-may thank you have cheered me up,i have just had a row with him now,he has pretty much admitted that he wnats to be a part time dad,i sure hope that he dosent bring anymore children into this world they dont desvere to have a father like that kid's need love from both parent's. ↑

Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 4:10 PM

WOAH WTF ?!?!? What a fucking wanker. Honestly man... LYnne we have never got along but i am so sorry he has done this to you... NO woman deserves that bullshit, and as far as im concerned you should pack up his shit and tell him to come and pick it up off the door step... what a sellfish selfish act on behalf of Andrew... u just needa make sure Andrew knows its NOT his fault.. alot of children think like that, its devastating... what a prick. Hes not even worth being with. ↑

Name: lynneings | Date: Nov 1st, 2008 2:25 AM

Rosey,coming from u that means a lot thank you!I really do need all the support i can get at the moment. I wanna change my username on here as ings is my married but i am not sure how to go about it??Any ideas anyone. ↑

Name: lynneings | Date: Nov 1st, 2008 2:29 AM

He is beig a right asshole at the moment i found out yesterday that i probley wont get housing benefit and income support,so i am gonna have to work more hour's. Well i have got to go into work today,well i asked him to have Andrew for me and he said no!! So how does he think i am gonna support me and Andrew?? I have found someone to look after Andrew for me as it is only for 2 and half hours this morning thats what makes it worse it is not as if i would have been working all day. ↑

Name: Lola-May | Date: Nov 1st, 2008 12:56 PM

Keep note of every single time you ask him to look after his own son and he refuses. Dates, times and circumstances for why you need him to watch him and reasons why he says no.(if he even gives you one) You've got to look out for yourself and Andrew now. Cover your ass in all ways possible whether you think it's going to "come to that" or not. It's better to be prepared for the worst and not get it than to assume things wont get too bad and be totally caught off guard. ↑

Name: bebe9281 | Date: Nov 3rd, 2008 10:29 AM

Please don't let your stupid, angry and humiliated feelings get the better of you!! I married a cheater the first time. Be certain that HE holds up his responsibilities with his son. Get some money!!! NOW!!!!! And find a brutal attorney!!!! ↑

Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Nov 3rd, 2008 10:50 AM

So sorry. It's good to let these things out in any way you can. Stay strong for Andrew. Turn the feelings of heartbreak around. Get on the phone to a solicitor, phone citizens advice, lean on your family. You'll get through this, and come out the other end stronger. ↑

Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Nov 3rd, 2008 10:52 AM

With regard your username, just reregister ↑

Name: lynneings | Date: Nov 3rd, 2008 1:38 PM

Thank's everyone it is good to know that i have lots of support. ↑