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| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 5:00 PM |
| Sorta the same thing happened to me Denise. When I got married my husband and I agreed that I wouldn't work. I didn't particularly like working, and we both thought it wasn't a woman's place - but then after it took a while to get pregnant I got bored and started working a few days a week. All of the sudden my husband started figuring that money into our bills - and before I knew it my husband was taking all that money that was supposed to be "extra" for me! Even since I got pregnant he still wanted me to work because I guess he'd gotten used to it. Fortunatly for me (because my husband would have flipped if I quit) the firm I was working for shut down for a month, and so I'm off the hook. I didn't tell my husband that they're starting back up in September. I have a really hard time with husbands making their wives work. To me (and this is just me) I almost feel like "Why don't YOU support your family? It isn't my fault you don't have a good enough job to afford the things you want" Which is what I tell my husband when he bitches about us not being able to buy a big screen t.v. or new car. I just say "Sounds like somebody should have gone to college!" That may sound harsh to some people, but I have a pretty traditional school of thinking when it comes to all that. ↑ |
| Name: koz | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 5:10 PM |
| hi denise..i was gonna go back to my mad at myself forum to ask how job hunting is going. i am the same way going around my husbands schedule cuz he works 6pm till 5 am. so it really limits when i can work...we'll talk more! if you want my email address, we can chat more! ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 6:03 PM |
| You know I do understand...we sort of went through a thing like that here. In the begining it was me fighting him on giving up work. I have been at it since I was 13 yeah young...but whatever...anyway...though the thought of leaving my child made me ill....I still had a hard time comming to terms with it...but did in the end...for all the right reasons. And because he was so insistant upon it. Now heres the rest of the stoy.....no we arnt hurting I am so greatful for that...but there are moments when the bills seems to be ..... crazy! Thats just the gas bills in the winter...etc...nothing out of the realm of usual day to day living. So when that time of the year comes around.....he gets all nervous about the money again...he isnt a penny pincher...controlling nut...just worries...and that I am happy about. But but but then he gets it in his head to suggest I might go back to work......yeah! It took me a long time to become ok with the loss of pay...and I too made good money. To get used to not being around anyone all day that didnt drull. LOL you get it so now that I finally have.......the answer is NO...dont even start! You wanted it this way.....you know it took me a long time....and so dont even begin the stroll down that avenue. We will manage as we always have. If something happens to you or something wild happens in our lives.....in a heartbeat to keep us going....but other than that.....NOPE! Cant have it both ways. So same only diffrent.....and it is not easy I imagine Denise for a Nurse of all things to find somewhere they can work ....one day a week. Not to mention......jumping through hoops to accomplish that.. Denise I may sound flip....but not intended that way...but he is sure doing what he wants....hummmm. And....who is helping him do that? If it was daycare need to top it all off.....just guessing.....school would be out?!? How long has he been in school? And now while he looks for a position....you need to help him do that also....by taking on extra work when he is finished. Goodness.......has he concidered any of that? I imagine.....you will need to work at night too....so that your home in the day to take care of the kids while he job hunt. Cuz my guess is if he had to Mr. Mom would go crazy...and bet he would have a job....any job...hehe...asap?! I dont blame you for being angry....got to be a solution somewhere....and by the way....if he asks you again if he needs to find you a job....tell him that would be great....I could use the added assistance....kinda tough you know with all thats going on here....thanks!!! It will come together Denise....somehow....chin up....and let us know how your fairing. Maxie ↑ |
