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Moms who gave birth in their late 30s and 40s - are you here? I am 42 and have 1 year old and 2 1/2 year old. Stay at home with them by choice. Anybody else in same situation? ↓
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| Name: Kristen | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 2:55 PM |
Hi! I am actually 33 and have four girls ages 6 and under! My husband however was 41 when our first was born and is now 47.
So I'm kinof in the same boat with you!
Kristen ↑ |
| Name: Deb | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 2:56 PM |
I'm 38 I have an eleven yr old, two yr. old and four yr old. Wanted all mykids before 35. I work 20 per week part time around my husbands hours so they aren't in daycare. In ways I feel like I'm a better mother than I was for the eleven year old- and in ways I feel i'm not. I was much more active and in shape back when I was 27. But I'm much more stable now. There are pros and cons I think to both. I'm more tired, but I think thats because I have two children close in age like you leaving me little time for myself. My New Years resolution is getting myself a gym membership that provides daycare so I have some time to myself to focus on my health.
Its great having two little ones because they always have eachother to play with. My eleven year old constantly needed me to play or to go somewhere that had kids to play with.
Well good luck Mom! I'm actually looking into a business that sells makeup and anti wrinkle cream suited for middle aged women. Similar to MaryKay. Maybe they have some secret potion to give us energy as well!!! Take care! ↑ |
| Name: Connie | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 6:11 PM |
| Hi... I am working full time now, but if we can figure the financials correctly, I hope to be at home with my baby girl due April 19, 2006.. I am 40 years old at the present...I will be 41 in April...My hubby is 40 as well. This is his first baby...I have 2 other children ,both boys ,and both full grown and living on their own. Their ages are 23 and 21. My doc joked abut having children in the last millenium! ↑ |
| Name: Deb | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 9:21 PM |
| congradulations Connie- my sisters friend was kinda in the same predicament- had two teenagers and thought she was going through menapause- found out when she went to the doctors that she was five months pregnant! UUUUGGGHHHH! That could be a desperate housewife episode all on its own! ↑ |
| Name: P | Date: Jan 8th, 2006 11:58 AM |
Hi "E",
I'm 42 with a 3 yr old, a 19 yr old, and a 21 yr old.
Here I was, seeing that light at the end of the tunnel (for as anyone who has lived through those 'teenage years' that your children will put you through will tell you, you are not seeking to ever go through that again), when walla! Welcome to the world little Pookie.
Yes, I will be pushing 60 when she graduates from high school. I went from being the youngest mother at the PTA's to becoming one of the oldest (for future PTA's).
And ofcourse, I wouldn't trade it for the world.
My little Pookie is the perfect example that God knows what is best for us, better then we do.
Without a doubt!
I wouldn't mind having another, for I believe in having siblings to fight with, but my spouse has yet to agree, lol.
(Still working on him) ↑ |
| Name: theresa | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 4:00 AM |
| yes i had my baby at 40 much to everyones shagrin suprise and disgust... but f them... ↑ |
| Name: Irene | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 12:53 PM |
| Hi E, im 36 and have 7yr, 6yr and 3yr old & expecting our 4th in sept 16, i choose to stay home only becuase daycare is too expensive & because my husband earns more than $32,000 i dont get rebate so rather than working for peanuts& having to pay daycare for it, id rather be at home & being there for my kids, our families think were crazy for going for baby no 4 but i really dont care! ↑ |
| Name: barbara | Date: Feb 2nd, 2006 8:25 PM |
| Name: k | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 4:43 PM |
| I don't right now but I did a pregnacy test this week and it said I was expecting. I'm I in shock. I am 45 and my husband 49. We have four boys now and never dreamed I would be having a baby now. In fact I thought I was going through menapose. Our oldest is 22 and youngest is 12. I am scared to death. We were just saying that our boys are old enough now that we can enjoy going out together again. I have read every article. Help!!! ↑ |
| Name: P | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 6:21 PM |
K,
as you can see by my previous post, I was practically in the same boat as you. Please don't stress about it. My mind didn't fully get wrapped around being a 'mommy' again until she was born. And now, really, I am so very glad!
Like you, I would have never ever chosen this for myself. But I mean it when I say, God knows us better then we know ourselves! Truly. For that which I had envisioned for myself, (finally getting to go to school, having vacations, having a little extra money to spend on new furniture, etc) pales in it's self-centeredness compare to this! I now have a packed full of imagination, joyfilled, and yes, sometimes trying, bolt of energy running around that helps me make cookies, teaches me how to dance, makes sure I get out there an get exercise!
The world before her existance was just a wee bit darker.
Take joy that you may have the opportunity to bring Light in the world again.
p.s. Keep in mind also, that it is common for women our age to miscarry. I take this as even more proof that God has a purpose for children born to older mothers. They have already survived such odds! Such babies are probably keeping us from having a "Pottersville" (the town in the movie "It's a Wonderful Life"). ↑ |
| Name: E | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 1:51 AM |
Hi P, I was thinking the other day that the age stereotype has changed - as they say now, "40 is a new 30" - and that's true, look at us, still full of life and energy - yes, we'll be pushing 60 when they are teenagers, but 60 is now also younger!! :-) And also, they will eventually live their lives, instead of living for us. Good for you that you are working on another one!!
Hi K - older generations had children well into their 40s and that was OK! There is nothing wrong with being pregnant at 45, if you want this baby. If Nature wanted women stop being fertile at 25 or 35, it would make menopause at that age. There is a great support site for pregnant over 35:
http://www.pregnancy-info.
net/QA/questions-Pregnant_Over_35
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| Name: mimi | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 9:21 AM |
| Hi Im 38 and have three children 7,5 and 21 month,trying for number 4 after 2 recent m/c.Life is busy taking children to and fro school and also helping hubby run a business,however i wouldn't have it any other way,I do enjoy being at home to parent our children.Our families too think we are potty to go for number 4, but it is our choice, and then i will feel that our family is complete,however i did say that after no 2,no really only 4,from nz ↑ |
| Name: Irene | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 1:44 PM |
LMAO mimi, i said the exact same thing after baby no 2 also, what are your kids, boys/girls?
im in Aus, not far from you lol,
id love to visit NZ so much.. ↑ |
| Name: MIMI | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 10:22 PM |
| Hi Irene,my kids are Boy,Girl,Boy maybe I'll have another girl! not that it matters.How 'bout you Boys/Girls? ↑ |
| Name: Donna | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 2:24 AM |
| Hi, I am 45, just turn that this month. I have 4 kids --23, 21, 19 and the youngest is 6 who will be 7 in July. I work part time. I feel that I am a better parent to my youngest. I can give her more attention and wisdom that I was able to do for my older 3. I am more tired though than I was when I was younger. I try to keep in shape and take care of myself. I have several friends who are an older parent too. That is great. ↑ |
| Name: Loni | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 10:59 PM |
| Hi!! I had my first child at 35 and my second child at 38. I'm now 40 with a 5 and a 2 yr. old. I became a stay-at-home mom after the birth of my first child. I have just joined some stay-at-home moms clubs in hopes of meeting other moms as myself and to establish playdates for my children. ↑ |
| Name: Maxie | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 11:19 PM |
Hay girls...Oh I just feel pain old. LOL I'm 44 actually and I have a daughter6 and a son3. My husband is 41 (yup got me a young'in) someone need to have the energy. To tell the truth younger I would likely have been a terrible mom. I feel out of breath at every turn but...I have the patience I would never have had at a younger age. My life is stable as opposed to feeling like I'm missing out. I just feel once in a while like there is no life outside my walls...but old enough to realized it will pass.
All in all i know for this old bird it was the best thing. I stay at home by choice also...just to damm scared to leave my kids with someone I really dont know. If it was granny well ok...but I dont have that choice. So this is life and truly it isnt so bad at all. Takes some getting used to since I have worked all my life since I was 13. But I have grown used to it now and really wouldnt go back to work not at least like a full time job. Something maybe that suited me and the hours I wanted to work. Life however has a way sometimes of making you do what you wouldnt otherwise...I just thank God every day for the blessings on this family. Should things ever change...I do what I gotta do. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 11:45 PM |
| I'm 36 and have a seven year old and a 15month old and I feel like I'm about 90 sometimes! ↑ |
| Name: irene | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 1:38 PM |
hey mimi,
how you been?
yeah we have 3 gorgeous boys, a girl would be really nice now, but whatever God blesses me with thats still ok, i hope you have a girl next, im from family almost in that order, mum had 2 of each aswell, she did well lol
hows your week been? hope to catch up with you soon,
take care and God bless ↑ |
| Name: nikki | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 5:40 PM |
Did anyone see that 62 year old great grandmother who just had a baby boy?
I'm a young mom, I think young moms have it a lot harder that mothers over 35. Those moms have alot more wisdom. ↑ |
| Name: Jill | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 5:54 PM |
| Hi. I'm a PTA mom and was wondering if anyone heard of TheRewardsProgram.com? My niece's school uses that website as a fundraiser and their school raises a lot of money through that program. I was considering bringing the idea to my son's school but was looking for some feedback. ↑ |
| Name: R | Date: Mar 3rd, 2006 8:58 AM |
Hi E,
I turned 42 yesterday, have a 6 year old at home.
get bored and lonely... ↑ |
| Name: emma | Date: Mar 6th, 2006 7:07 PM |
| im 30 and have 4 children from 14 down to 5 ↑ |
| Name: debb | Date: Mar 10th, 2006 1:55 AM |
| Name: gillian | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 1:32 PM |
| Hi! I am 36 and have a 4 girls the eldest one is 5 and the other three are triplets they are 3. My husband Gary is 37 he is in partnership with his father in a engineering business. I stay at home as child care is very expensive for all my lot. ↑ |
| Name: beautifull | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 7:36 PM |
| good evening every onr my name is beautifull and i live in the south east essex area i am now a mum at home with my daughter caring for her as i has to stop work i have just had the internet conected and would like to talk to others and to meet new people thats when i learn how to use ithe computer properly ↑ |
| Name: Debra | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 1:57 PM |
| Gillian!!!! three three year olds!!! Oh my gosh!!! How do you do it? Just the expense alone- especially girls. Do your girls all have their own personalities? How does your oldest one do with them? Do they drive her crazy???? Thats just amazing- in a good way!! sounds like you could teach us all a thing or two= and it sounds like those three will be teaching you for many years to come. I don't envy the 4 girls in adolescents- the fighting over clothes...Are they all the same size? Thats just really great- I wish you could post pictures!!! It must be such a wonderful experience. I could imagine what the daycare would have cost! ↑ |
| I am the mother of 12 year old twin daughters. I raised them alone for 4 years and I married their dad in 2002. The twins were born in 1993. I am now 54 years old, I was 41 when I gave birth to them and I love being a stay at home mom, although I don,t have a social life, everything I do is with my girls right now ↑ |
| Name: Debra | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 10:13 PM |
| Twins at 41!!! Do you have any other children? What did you think when they gave you the sonogram!!?? I always wished I could have a boy and a girl twin to get it done an over with!! I'm 38 with 3 and have no social life either- except for the socialization you get a little league games or school parties- thats about as crazy as I get now a days!!??!! ↑ |
| Name: E | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 1:44 AM |
| Apparently, before the 60s (before the invention of birth control pill) a woman would keep giving births well into her forties (they'd call the last one the *cherry on top*) and nobody worried that much about the age. In the 60s, the mantra became "2 and done at 32". It's been over 40 years since, and this new childbearing cut off age have etched deeply into population's psyche. Suddenly, the day you turn 35 you are "advanced maternal age". If you are pregnant in your fourties, you get, overtly or not, the "scary" statistics. If you are pregnant close to 50, god forbid, not even evey ob gyn would work with you. The fact is, the actual percentage of problems is still small on the abolute scale, though it rises comparing to pregnancies in 20s-30s. Besides, you get to live probably to well into your 90s - there's a lot of time to see your grandchildren. (Not talking about accidents that may happen to you - they may happen to young folks, too) ↑ |
| Name: edee | Date: Mar 29th, 2006 4:50 PM |
| Hi, I am 42 and I have all teenagers and for the first time I am actually staying home with them. It is such a new experience ↑ |
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