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| Name: TexasMom30 | Date: Oct 28th, 2008 7:46 AM |
| First let me say, good luck! Hubby and I have been trying to have baby #3 for the last 8 months. I thought the same thing when I was pregnant with baby #2. I was convinced that there was no way that I could love my second child as much as I loved my first. But life works in strange ways and when baby #2 is here you realize that you truely can love both children as much. As for Silas, you may have some acting out in the beginning which is completely normal. Then again you may not. Make sure to make time for just him. Let him help out with whatever he might be able to help with (going to get a diaper). Minus a regression in potty training with my son we never had any issues with anything else. It's important to just let him know that he is still loved. Again life works in mysterious way and no matter how tired you are you will always have that energy to play with Silas. In the beginning you may not be running around the house chasing him but simple activities like sitting on the floor with him and coloring or things like will help. And include him in playtime when your playing with the baby. I use to put my daughter in a bouncer and sit on the floor with my son coloring, playing with cars, legos and yes even the baby toys. I am not sure if it is true for everyone but I gained 40+ pounds with my first and then 22lbs with my daughter. If you are currantly eating pretty healthy I would say just try to continue to eat like you currantly are and you'll be fine. I wish I could make you feel better about a possible flabbier belly and droopier mom-boobs but some of us (me included) just end up with this. I've lost 21 pounds in the last few months and my belly has been really bothering me now. The worse part about it is that I know that no matter what I do it will always be that way. But on that same note you do have an excuse, you'll not only have 1 beautiful child but you'll have another one as well. Depending on why you had the c-section in the first place will depend on whether you will have to have another one with your second baby. However on that same note some doctors will not preform a VBAC once you've had a previous c-section so you may need to find a doctor that will be willing to do one. I opted for a planned c-section with my second one. Should you need to have another c-section trust me when I tell you that it is nothing like the 1st time. The first time I took a pain killer to help with the pain, the second time I only took Ibprofen and I was up and walking around the same day. I am not sure how old your son is but don't under estimate what he might know about what is going on when you are pregnant. Talk to him, explain to him what is going to happen, let him help out as much as he might be able to when preparing for the baby. As long as you do not exclude him he will be fine. And allowing him to help will make him feel special as well. That he really does have an important job as being a big brother. We took my son to a big brothers big sisters class at the local hospital where he learned all about babies and how important his job was as being a big brother. He brought his favorite stuffed animal and they learned how to hold the bottle the right way and things like that. At the end of the class they recieved a certificate saying that they were now certified to be a big brother or sister. ↑ |
