Following my fathers death I was taken into care at the age of 4 and sent to live with foster parents. The mother was an evil bitch and spent the next 6 years torturing and abusing me - serious stuff that she could have been jailed for.
Her husband left her and she developed breast cancer. I ran away from their home and went missing - had the police out looking for me etc.
A week later a Social Worker came and collected me and took me to the other end of the country to live in a kids home. My bio mother told me that the foster mother had subsequently died as a result of her illness.
I made a statement to the Police in 1999 regarding her son, but told them that the mother was dead.
I believed this for the next 27 years. Then 48 hours ago I discovered that she is, in fact, still alive. I have found her address and have re-contacted the Police to make another statement.
I can't believe that I have discovered this information. I found out through the internet. I wasn't even looking for her - I was trying to find her son and daughter and then their uncle sent me a message regarding her! ↓
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| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:23 AM |
| Your kidding! How horrible & sickening A.S.! Are the Police going to pursue it? They should!!! I'm so sorry for you!! ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:26 AM |
| Yeah, I spoke to two police officers last night and they're going to try to find my original statement. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:26 AM |
welllllll........thats a long way off from squeaky having babies!!!!
Do you think your bio mum told you that so you could smile when you went to bed?...or because facing the truth and being forced to hear the truth was too much for her?
Atomic....have you gotten over what she did to you?
Is the police going to help you?...dont let them 'let it slide into the too hard basket'
i dont know what she did...i really dont want to either (sorry) im too much of a sook and have nightmares really easy when it comes to child abuse.
But whatever she did....after 27years and it still hurts
MAKE HER PAY!!!!
good luck to you ....from my heart :-) ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:30 AM |
| My mother told me that she was dead for purely selfish reasons. She didn't want to face up to the fact that most of what happened was her fault. I don't speak to her now. If I'd known that this woman was still alive, I'd have been able to have done something sooner...as it is, it may be too late. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:35 AM |
legally ....maybe, there are other ways to bring a person to their knees....and it can be legal, moral...probably not...anyway i hope they can do something....they can prosecute paedophile priests after that long...why not her
Your mother needs to go down on her knees and beg for forgiveness too...bitch! ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:36 AM |
im in an internet cafe, popped in to try and find the number of something so popped on here aswell
atomic...im so sorry, I thought you were joking. I hope everything is okay. I want to be a social worker when i graduate and I want to stop things like that from happening.
You must feel really awful AS.
xxx and hugs ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:38 AM |
| Do y'all have "statute of limitations" laws there? I'm sorry but..your mother doesn't sound like a mom to me!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:39 AM |
thanx for the good wishes.
I'm gonna do everything I can to make these people face what they've done.
It's haunted me for years and continues to do so. I went around to my mothers house this morning to get her to face up to things, but I couldn't face knocking and just went away. I haven't seen her for 8 years and certainly don't want to now, but I have some serious questions that I need to ask. I dunno what to do now. ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:40 AM |
| Yeah, my mother is a real piece of work....selfish, lying, nasty etc. ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:41 AM |
| I dunno how the laws stand here regarding 'historic abuse' cases. There's no time limit on reporting sexual abuse. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:42 AM |
Can you go with hubby?...for moral support
write all your questions down, so you dont miss anything important you need to ask
also write down what you NEED to tell her...then punch her in the stomach....wont leave a mark :-)...(and no im not joking) ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:44 AM |
| I 100% agree w/marija!! Let her have it!!! ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:47 AM |
i really dont know what to say...im gonna be a crappy social worker
im do unattatched....i always get really angry and upset with abuse cases...i need to distance myself a bit..everybody says that.
I havent been sexually abused but Iv had several social workers involved in my life and there has been sexual abuse within my family to people im close to.... and i think thats what made me want to become a social worker...anyway atomic, please let me know what happens...my minutes are about to run out so i might just disappear.
I cant even begin to understand how yu must feel to find out she is not dead....but you have alot of "friends" here for you who care about you. ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:50 AM |
| I too cannot even begin to understand how you must be feeling A.S.! But...you do have friends and people here who do care!!! My heart goes out to you!!! ↑ |
| Name: Pasha | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 10:00 AM |
| My heart goes out to you Atomic. I agree with Marija 100% make her pay ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 10:07 AM |
| Oh my gosh, I would probably have fell out where I stood! How old is she today? Wow I am so sorry Atomic that you had to deal with any of this! I do not guess I will ever understand the sickness in this world. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 10:09 AM |
i have seen and been part of investigations that would make you want to be deaf, dumb and blind.
i got out of that area of work ...because i couldnt stand it, i had nightmares nearly EVERY night...just thinking about it brings back images i NEVER want to have in my head....EVER
Nicola....you better grow 10 more layers of skin ...otherwise you will NEVER be of use to anyone who will be looking for assistance....sorry if im being blunt...as a mother it is SO hard to distance yourself from child abuse...and if theyre coming to you, then they are already UGLY cases.
Atomic
you are going to be going through some hard times for a while....know that your husband is there to support you and both he and your kids are there to comfort you.
My biggest advice to give to you ...would be to let it all out, yell, scream, rant and rave to anyone who will listen. As many times as you want over and over. Please dont think nobody will care...your family will :-))) ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 10:14 AM |
im off to bed ladies...Atomic I hope your wishes come true :-)))
goodnight ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 12:18 PM |
Atomic, I almost do not know where to begin. My heart is just full right now, thinking of the pain you have endured then, through the years .....and now again. I truly shudder to think of it and find myself growing somewhat ill, as I only begin to imagine.
Life has a way Atomic, of not allowing those who have wronged an individual to "get away with it". It always comes full circle. Not always when we wish, but when it is perfect. Each and every time.
I do not know how to console you. I do not have the resources, for a matter such as this, in your home country, to advise you. What I have and can offer, is a full and sincerely heartfelt prayer, for you. To find "A" closer to the matter that will allow you peace. Though perhaps only a small amout......I pray for so much more. I trust that some form of criminal justice is available to you, though that in itself will be yet another avenue of travel one must dearly consider, at this juncture.
Know this, if not by the hand of the law we know, in all that the spirit of the law will afford, justice for these crimes will be brought down upon this individual(s) in another life. Forgive my ignorance on your faith, what you believe, but somewhere, you have a belief structure, that surly includes this standard.
I wish you much peace at the end of the road....of far and clearly, a very long, harsh and unrelenting day. Indeed.
Sincerely, respectfully,
Maxie ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 12:31 PM |
A.S,
My heart goes out to you......it truely does.....I can not even put into words how I feel right now.......sickened really. My dear my thought and prayers are with you......
I would certainly be doing something about this myself, if I were you.....she needs to pay for what ever she has done to you........
A.S , if you ever need to chat, you know my email.....
with love, Winn ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 1:10 PM |
well said maxie & winn
everybody is here for you atomic... we all care about our little snowflake
:) ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 1:19 PM |
Thanx everyone xxx
The Police are going to have to do some investigating before they can go around to question her. I kind of imagined that they'd have to speak to her immediately, but apparently not. I feel that I need her to know that I'm out there....like now! I feel like getting into the damn car and just going down there to confront her, but I can't.
I've also reported her son for sexual abuse, so they're going to locate him as well.
I thought that life couldn't get any more complicated then this happens. It's completely shaken me up.
I'm worrying that I might regret doing those searches. Sometimes what you don't know can't hurt you. I dunno. I told the Police that I would be prepared to go to a trial over this and they're going to refer me to a different department who deals with these things. ↑ |
| Name: Little Miss Tara | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 1:26 PM |
| For right now I'm going to forget my contempt for the women who supposedly where your fathers and look to you. Atomic do you have someone you can talk to right now. A counselor or therapist? This is going to bring up a whole bunch of feelings new and old. You need to be able to get these things out. I hope this note finds you well other wise. Tara. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 2:15 PM |
Atomic....I feel so honored that you would have the trust to confide in us here on BC...I always knew there was more to your story then was on the surface...I guess I always saw through that tuff exterior you put out there...I wish I could be there with you right now and make what ever it is go away...Be stronge and always know we are here for you....I also know this wasnt easy for you to tell either...Hugs across the wire...
~Layne~ ↑ |
| Name: Little Miss Tara | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 2:42 PM |
| Sorry Freudian slip, I meant to say "mothers". ↑ |
| Name: homemommichele | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 3:04 PM |
Wow AS I am so sorry. That is incredible. Reasonable to think that if she had cancer she would have died. Seems like the good people can't beat it but the evil ones.....
Good luck with bringing her to justice. Please keep us updated. ↑ |
| Name: sunflower | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 3:42 PM |
| OMG atomic that is just awful,are you ok? ↑ |
| Name: maxieellis | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 5:37 PM |
Well Atomic, whatever you choose to do......we are indeed here for you. I do believe Layne stated it best.....though, i find it strange to say.....it is, a privilege to know that you felt you could share this with all of us. Again, we can only "begin" to imagine.....and that for us, is enough. We know you have endured a fate that should not ever befall a child. The most evil of evil. On that, I do believe, we might all agree.
Hugs to you also.......whatever you require of us, that we can provide......we will be here. ↑ |
| Name: sunshine | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 5:40 PM |
| hey atomic im here if you need me hope everything is ok for you, hugs xx ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 6:11 PM |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Feb 24th, 2007 9:13 PM |
Atomic My dear I am so very sorry for your heart ach and for you r child hood beeinfg taken away from you. To live in a nightmare day in and day out for yrs. Breaks me heart t o kmn w yousuffered. My father was lets just say a Nut case but I hada an amazing mother and did her best to look out for us when he was off on a crazy gun shoot, funrnture burning, beating and and on bing....I know some of the pain for haviong someone being ...well just sick and I am sure you went thro so much worse then I did.. I do not even want to imaging.
Ypu are so brave to press charges on all the guilty parties and you should!!! i DO HOPE THE GET WHAT IS COMING TO THEM ..FOR SURE!!
You much have a wonderful support systenm.,.cause you hae turned out so wonderful!
Maythe feeling of safty, power & strength Suround you .Angels protect you for any more harm & heal all your wounds
Blessings to you, love!!! ↑ |
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