I'm not sure what you argument you are talking about, but it seems that there are two sides participating in any argument therefore both sides are responsible for their contribution to the argument. If only one side takes the blame (or is forced to) the bitterness will linger.
Also, after many years of complex relationship it would be nearly impossible to go over all those years to unwind every occurence of hurt and misunderstanding. Can both sides take a higher road, move beyond and agree to start anew, on the respectful level? Or if your family can't or doesn't want to, you may, just for the sake of your own health, try to forgive yourself your whole past and try not to let your family under your skin. You could try having contacts limited (for example, having visits of your children and their grandmother) without letting these visits evolve into something bigger than just a visit. ↑ |
