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Name: kristal
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I get so tired of my husband not doing anything with the baby unless I ask him, or he asks me what and how. What should I do?
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Name: Maxie | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 5:56 PM
Well Kristal my answer is just food for thought honey...but ya never know might help??!!!

Lets see for starters when dear Dad is home and you have ya know dishes, bottles to make, laundry...whatever just pick baby and give them to father. Oh...he/she wants Daddy. Naturally if your pretty sure its nothing more. Physically pass the baby. Yes. If you dont baby will still be there crying or fussing while you are getting frustrated and Dad is not moving. Then carry on about you business. The more Dad handles the child the more they will bond and the greater will become the need for Dad to figure out what baby is really needing. One step at a time.

Change the diaper. Pass Dad one. Let him figure it out. My husband had such a mess on his hands the first time I left him with our daughter that he just took her to the bathroom and turned on the shower and then while holding her up, proceeded to rear load her into the stream of water to clean her bottom!!!!!!! Yup its true. Not to many more times did dad have anymore problems. Before you knew it he could change that diaper just as quick as anyone else ever did.

My point honey is that you just have to leave dad with that child either while you are home or not. If he is asking how to do something think of it as ....he is interested. But just tell him dont do it for him. And dont tell him he did it incorrectly this way or that. If the job is done and baby is ok...why????? He did it and did the best he could. We only learn because we do it enough times from the start. Though most of us made mistakes too and just didnt have and audience. Leave the smart remarks out of it and just say "thanks babe" Or just have a laugh in a good natured way and dont change a thing. Just give him a kiss and say its ok we are just learning. No problem you did it at least...thanks. I once had to take my son to the doctors office after dad had dressed him. Snap crotch t-shirt... over, the pants and the color combo was just sad. I just laughed and so did he when he realised later how bad it actually looked! He never did it again.

Kristal we all learn. Dads too hon....and they usually learn from us. But you have to let it be sometimes, guide the best you can without interfering to much and let him just be with that child. Make an excuse as to why you need to go to the store...just half hour or 45 minutes to start. Tell him he will be just fine. Baby loves him and you will be right back. He can do it.

Just food for thought Kristal, give it a go if you think it couldnt hurt and keep in touch. 

Name: Debra | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 10:19 PM
I'm slowly coming to terms that my husband isn't going to do anything if I ask him to. I can make the suggestion before I'm walking out of the house, but there's a fifty fifty chance it won't get done. However, if I don't say anything he does do things. I think its one of those testostrone things- like don't tell me what to do. It becomes really frustrating because you have this set routine- and you would like to just get the stuff done- and he throws it all off every week when I have to work on the weekends. My mondays are usually playing catch up because the laundry gets behind, or dishes, or floors ect ect.

I'm learning to just let it go and just be happy that i'm blessed enough to complain about it. I'm trying to be more positive and look at the bright side of things. Good luck! 

Name: Fiona | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 9:30 AM
I give my husband a list of directions if he's looking after the baby. He finds this useful and it helps him. 

Name: Amy | Date: Mar 23rd, 2006 4:35 AM
I have three kids, there are nights when my husband comes home and says "you didn't do this, you didn't do that", blahblahblah, what I say is "Fine then you can do it yourself". Usually what I do at this point, is grab my coat, grab my keys, and head out the door for an hour to myself and leave all three of the lovely sweet children with him. 

Name: Kathy | Date: Apr 1st, 2006 2:54 AM
It is so great to know I'm not alone when it comes to this topic. Especially since he is a truck driver- I wonder how he got along with out me that past week!! 

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