so my husband applied for a job in Grand Forks. It would be a double promotion for him. He did ask me first if he should apply, and i said yes. It's a very small town, and we would be able to buy a MASSIVE house there with a very large property compared to what you can get in this area for the same price. the job is more pay AND full time (not seasonal like he is now), plus this job would give MUCH less standby so more opportunities to actually have a LIFE in the summer months...go camping and fishing. also the lifestyle is much much different there than here and think it would be so great for the kids. so i told hubby go for it.
anyways, he got a email lastnight saying he was short listed, and they would pay for his hotel and travel expenses to come down there for an interview on the 28th. honestly, hubby never thought he's stand a chance as it would be a double promotion. but he does have TONS of experience....and i think it helped him out that he is Russian and Grand Forks is a Russian town. so we're very excited....plus we'd be more central to family...1.5 hours from hubby's family and 2 hours from mine...
BUT heres the problem. my family!!!! what do i tell them??? i know most people would say "well they have to understand, and they'll get over it" but that's not my family....they wouldn't be ANGRY or end up hating us...but they WILL be absolutely DEVASTATED!!!! one year when i was in grade 7, i decided i wanted to try and live with my mom, and my dad got so screwed up he went to vancouver and went to the Swedish embassy....lol....and when my brother lived with his mom in the States for a bit, it was like the end of the world for everyone...
if hubby gets this job....i just don't know how to tell them we'd be moving. i mean it's only 2 hours away...but when we moved here which is only 1 hour away, they weren't happy and still aren't happy. they want us back where they live. lol.... ↓
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| Name: Lola-May | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 11:41 AM |
OMG!!! Do it. Just dooooo it!
It might be hard for your family at first but they'll adjust.
I am jealous! Just think about how much better it's going to be having financial security, a nice home and a small, safe community to raise your kids in!
I know it's tough but you've got to put yourself , your husband& your children before your other family members.
I am crossing my fingers that he gets the job, I think it would be a great change!!!
(again...super jealous!) ↑ |
| Name: bebe9281 | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 12:38 PM |
| My hubby and I have moved so many times... The last move was 1,000 miles away from all of our family.. Just have to explain to them that this is the best thing for you and your family and with the large house there is always room for guests!! Do what YOU have to do!!! ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 12:42 PM |
thanks lola-may..yeah when we got the email lastnight, hubby was like "if i go to the interview and do get the job, it would look really bad turning it down....so should i go?" and i was like "HELL YEAH!!!! if you get the job, we'll move...no problem...i think it would be AWESOME!!!" it is a great opportunity for our family. and i LOVE the area around Grand Forks....it's soooooo beautiful. and we could sell our place here, and get a better home there AND pay off all our debt!!! just all around, we'd be stupid NOT to go for it!! so we're are crossing our fingers.
i am just sooooo not looking forward to telling my family if hubby gets the job. lol...i don't know how to say it. i guess just like ripping off a bandaid eh?!?!?! lol....
we're thinking there's probably 5 other candidates for the job...usually people don't get a double promotion...but obviously hubby's resume was outstanding if they are giving him an interview. there's obviously t he chance that someone else might be better suited for the job and hubby might not get the job at all....but if it happens, we will be happy, but not excited to tell my family. lol.... ↑ |
| Name: Lola-May | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 3:30 PM |
Just make sure you make it clear how GOOD of a thing it is and point out all of the positive effects it will have.
When we moved from the island back to the interior it was a little sad for my parents since Silas was only 6 months old but they're fine with it.
We still get to see them quite a bit just not as regularly as before.
2 hours is not far away at all! If my folks lived 2 hours away we'd be stoked as hell! Mine are 4 hours, then an hour and a half ferry ride then another hour and a half.
Tell them that at least it's not Newfoundland! haha! ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 5:22 PM |
ha ha ha!!! you're right.
i live in the okanagan too and all my mom's side of the family lives on the island. that ferry ride is a real pain in the ass!!! not to mention the cost!!! BLAH!!! lol... ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 10:42 PM |
OMG!!!!
Bmes, if this happens, what a great opportunity!!!!! wow!!!!!
you know, your children are not in school yet, really this is a perfect time!!!!!!!
no family wants thir own to move away.....the only way to do it in my opinion, is honsetly, straight forward, and stating how GREAT this is of an opportunity for your family.........
wow!!!! again this is woderful! ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Oct 15th, 2008 11:10 AM |
| winn, i agree!!! i'd hate to move once the kids are in school. i mean, i know lots of people do it, and kids eventually adjust. but it's a bonus if we can move before they start school and make REAL friends. ↑ |
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