| Name: H | Date: Jun 19th, 2009 6:43 PM |
| mine is just a dick with no love in his eyes. totally insensitive and rude. doesn't appreciate anything i do and i feel expects it. probable the standard i set b/c of the self sufficiency i had before him. ↑ |
| Name: Michele | Date: Jun 20th, 2009 11:54 PM |
| Men are pigs from hell. I just found out that my husband has been looking up porn on the computer in the middle of the night while I sleep. Not only porn but gay men porn as well. I am sooo upset. Of course he denies it but the proof is on the computer under his name. Grant it we dont have sex as often as we use to, a couple times a week but when he acts like he does to me I dont much find it a turn on. If you dont know what I am talking about go to page 12 to see my post. No matter what it is still wrong and to think that he is also looking at men. Makes me sick. I think that if a couple wants to look at porn together then that is ok but when it is done in a secret way then it is very wrong. Same as cheating. I thank God I have this web site to vent, it really helps. Well ladies what should I do about this? Please read my other post on page 12 first and get the whole story of my asshole husband and please give me some advice, Thanks girls, have a good one. Michele ↑ |
| Name: Stephanie | Date: Jun 23rd, 2009 11:12 AM |
| Okay, so we have the same first names, and the same names of husbands. Mine can't get over the fact that my daughter has come to live back home. She's nineteen and she's just finished her first year of University. Anything she does, move around, take a bath, anything, he's on her back. Last night, she goes in the bath and he comes in all made because he wants to take a shower. She says "I'm taking a bath, deal with it". Well, then he starts yelling and swearing about how disrespectful she is, takes of and goes to the movies comes back at midnight, goes off to work, and he still won't talk to me. He says I shouldn't have interrupted and let him swear and shout at her. I said, if he wasn't swearing and shouting I wouldn't have interrupted, but I won't allow that behavior. He thinks I'm being unrealistic, that all people should be able to use foul language and yell. NO WAY. He will now give me the silent treatment for four days at least, but silent is better than yelling. Yippee ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jun 27th, 2009 11:33 PM |
| I know how you feel. My husband always does stuff like that. Everything is always my fault, if I catch him doing something wrong, he did it because of me. Then when he feels insecure it's my fault because i don't tell him he's sexy EVERYDAY! but he never makes me feel beautiful!! Then we get in an argument and he says i'm with him for his money!! He works at a wafflehouse and we live off of tip money!!!! What the hell. Email me at sexxii_Gurrl87@yahoo.com if you have any more venting ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Jul 2nd, 2009 9:32 PM |
| I am a stay at home mom as we have 3 children with one on the way, the 4th was unplanned and 8 years apart from our youngest, I want so bad to be happy and deal with it after all we didnt use protection right? well according to mr.lovely "I could have done something about it" he means I could have got rid of it...I cannot see a reason why a married stable couple would do that unless there were a very good reason...I cannot talk to him he treats me like I am so dumb and he bullys me I am a bitch and very strong but I still manage to be treated like all my ideas and thoughts along with everything I say is a burdon to him, I thought he thought I hung the moon I seperated from him 4 years ago for 4 months and he did everything to get me back, I came back and he treated me so good for a while but now I just feel like I am in his way and so are our kids I cant imagine being without him because he can be so good but during my time of need right now he let me down and has alot in the past, I want so badly for my kids and myself to be appreciated by him I cry alot and hurt alot when he doesnt want to acknowledge the baby in my belly and the way he looks at me is like I am some foreign alien who is sucking the life out of him I am devestated...So since I went through all that you are going thru I am going totell you that I have been married 11 years and the doesnt get any better and they cut straight to the heart with the rude shit they say and they really dont care who they take down along the way we are here for them to bully, I bet he doesnt treat his Buddies they way he treats you huh? nope! ↑ |
| Name: nigggg | Date: Jul 4th, 2009 8:15 PM |
| your so fuckin rettardad ↑ |
| Name: jen | Date: Jul 9th, 2009 2:09 AM |
| Well my husband blurts out casually whenever he can find a conversation to fit this into "MY EX-WIFE HAST HE BEST PUSS^ I EVER HAD AND SHE GAVE THE BEST HEA^" He also.. doesn't help with the kids or house work, makes a huge mess, doesn't show any affection, doesn't play or interact with our kids, doesn't cut the grass, his job consist of sitting with the elderly and playing the WII, and when he comes home...He's either talking about how great he is or starring at the computer for hours, ignoring everyone. He has no hobbies or interest besides reading political things, He doesn't like to go out... It goes on and on ↑ |
| Name: Concerned | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 12:30 AM |
ok, girls, why don't you go out? Two raise a family, you have every right to go out too. Just go! Just anounce that you are going and that is that.
They are going to walk all over you if you let them. Why wouldn't they? ↑ |
| Name: LUCY | Date: Jul 12th, 2009 9:36 PM |
| Yeah mine is such an effing prick , he consistantly accuses me of not contributing and only spending his hard earned money. Nevermind that up until a month ago I not only held down a 40+ work week but also take care of his children a 2 year old and seven year old. The older one came with the package, we have her full time her mom is not in the picture. So by my count i have two full time jobs, three if you count taking care of HIM! The reason I "spend all his hard earned money " is because he can't be trusted, I like having electricity, food, cars, phones you know frivolous things like that. Since we have been married he has taken a 50% pay cut when he quit his job due to a hangover , had his car repoed because he partied the money away totaled my super sweet ride among other things, so yeah i am a bitch if you forget about the fact that it is not all about the overgrown spoiled baby and about the actual babies. So how do I dare to be tired and spend all HIS money? Oh yeah and since I quit my 40+ hours job I now pull in a two week equivilant in roughly 8 hours (hairstylist not stripper) So he can shove all of his contemptuous coments, sneering and temper tantrums up his red necked ass! The one thing I hold on to is that he married a tough chick and i will always be a tough chick he can't shame the spark out of me... So to all you ladies out there we may have chosen these assholes but we can always un-choose them just make sure you don't lose your spark. ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Jul 16th, 2009 8:37 PM |
| Mine just thinks it's o'k to be so openly rude about anything and/or everything regarding me. However, I think he is a behind the scenes coward because he will not do it with anyone else. He doesn't want to tarnish his reputation as a sweet guy. ↑ |
| Name: jennifer | Date: Jul 17th, 2009 3:38 PM |
| My husband is an ass hole because he believes the world revolves around him. That everyone in my family should be at his becking call. He drags junk home that he cant fix and expects my dad or brother to fix it for him. Only so we can make a dollar on it! ↑ |
| Name: mareee | Date: Jul 18th, 2009 12:31 AM |
| he treats me like shit How do I get him back? ↑ |
| Name: jen | Date: Jul 18th, 2009 2:34 AM |
| To ANN; I completely relate to you on the whole "sweet guy" rep thing... My husband fronts too. To MAREEE; treat him like shit back! Find his weak spots and hit them. Or just completely ignore him and act as if he is the most unimportant person in the world. maybe that will help... I've tried everything possible with my husband and I've recently come to the decision that he is NOT CAPABLE of loving anyone but himself & there is nothing to be done about that but wait until I get out of school... then I will be able to take care of myself and my 2 sons by myself! ↑ |
| Name: Secrete | Date: Jul 18th, 2009 5:53 PM |
| hello, my husband is inconsiderate and selfish. Yesterday I called him after I worked and I asked him if he wanted to go out with me to a bar and eat that stuff we always like. He told me "JUST COME HOME AND I WILL THINK ABOUT IT"...as if he would do me a favor to THINK ABOUT IT. I was trying to treat my husband to a drink and food and he wants to THINK ABOUT IT. Later he told me that he did not feel like it but was trying to bring himself to fee like it so we can go....FUCKING ASS HOLE...NO? ↑ |
| Name: sandy | Date: Jul 22nd, 2009 9:55 PM |
My husband and I are separated but Id still like to vent if that's ok.
I was trying to be polite and ask him about a vacation he recently took. One we were to take together before we split up. I said it would be cool to see some pictures and would he please e-mail me some? He said sure. The next day I get an email from his girlfriend saying my husband asked her to send the photos. Bear in mind this is the woman he said had hit on him while we were married and that he had no interest in her what so ever. Now, less than two months after I moved out, she's sending emails for him? WTF?!! What a lying sack of shit. What an arrogant prick!!! Augh. I want to string him up by his balls and use him like a piņata! I want him to catch STDs... Lots of them. Fucker. ↑ |
| Name: koan | Date: Jul 23rd, 2009 12:39 AM |
I just spent the last hour or so reading through these posts and I can't believe how many women are going through this.
I am 31 years old, in a monogomous, committed relationship and pregnant for the first time. After reading this, I'm terrified of what could happen and it makes me potentially not want to go through with this.
Alot of men, I think, don't realize how much is actually involved in caring for the the household duties. I think it's important that they understand such things, even if it means that you write out an explicit list, or have him do it for a short period of time. They think they know, but they really don't. Perhaps we don't realize some of the things that they do.
Occasionally, my fiance will say things to me about how I don't do enough of this and that, but I then let him vent and then proceed to rattle off what he doesn't do and then he shuts up and then later we both agree to do more. We both let it out and that's the end of it. No resentment, no bitterness, and it's done with. I would never want to walk around stewing about how much I can't stand my life partner. That just doesn't seem right. They're supposed to be your support system. Is all that going to change after I have the baby? Will we slowly start to grow bitter and dislike each other and no longer be able to depend on each other?
I'm the primary, or at least equal breadwinner in the house and I can't imagine all the hostility between us. I accept that there are certain things that I have to take care of, and expect him to do other things as well. If he takes our laundry to get done and picks it up and pays for it, I'll have to put it away. If I'm sick or upset or depressed, he'll wake up at 3am to go get me food or breakfast if I ask. I'll make sure our bills get paid on time and have to remind him to give me his share of the money, but then he'll also get me anything I ask for or take me anywhere without hesitation. It should all be about compromise and expression, shouldn't it? Duties may be different, but definitely split equally.
I'm wondering how much relationships and life will change after the baby. Being in early trimester of my pregnancy, my fiance spoils me. He spoiled me before, but it's increased since he found out about the baby.
After reading all these posts, I am completely disheartened about the whole thing, and feel like the first time I am so totally disrespected, I will take the baby and leave, rather than deal with lingering hostility. Life is too short to be spent in such misery. ↑ |
| Name: Michele | Date: Jul 23rd, 2009 10:22 PM |
| Koan, If you have a good man then keep him, they are few and far between. For the most part they all do start out being our night and shinning armer. Our best friends and lovers and equals. But throw in time, kids, money problems and life having its ups and downs does change things in a relationship. You hope for the better but sometimes its for the worst. Like I said if you have a good man consider your self lucky but do know that things are not always going to be happy go lucky. Don't let your fences down and always try to keep a little money back for your self so that if you have to leave a relationship then you will have something to fall back on. I wish you all the best in the coming of you little one. It is such a blessing and if you have the right man then its a double blessing. Best of luck ↑ |
| Name: veronica | Date: Jul 24th, 2009 1:13 PM |
| I work part time, and take care of our home. My husband works long hours. when he gets home from work, he sits in the couch and watches tv for about an hour then internet for another hour. he eats, and goes to bed. this happens mon - fri. on the weekends, we wake up late, he cleans, does laundry, we make love, i love weekends. I really don't mind that after work, he unwinds, I need to let him be him. Enjoy life. I wish he spent time with me instead of the TV, but tha'ts he's choice. I just try to occupy myself with other things. like read, clean, paint, socialize with friends and family. So far we are doing ok. We don't have children yet. If we do, we are only having one, I am 35 so, one is enough. But me working part time, is great. I get to pay the bills, grocery shopping, cook, i even have time to go the gym almost everyday, when he gets home dinner is ready and I'm smiling and happy. He is adorable.. ↑ |
| Name: Pregnant Father | Date: Jul 25th, 2009 12:22 PM |
| Not all men are that way. Just sayin'. And remember, often, things go both ways. Regardless, when a marriage is to the point where you're calling each other "assholes," something somwehere went terribly wrong. ↑ |
| Name: livvy | Date: Jul 26th, 2009 12:46 PM |
| women need to realise that being a mother and a worker are unrelated. if you are one ofthose woman who is a stay home wife, stay home and keep a neat house and don't complain about it cause it is way eaiser then workng. but it you are a working woman do your job at work , go home and play with your kids. make your husband do chores. if he does not, then you don't do it either. hire someone. women have been facing the double burden for too long! my husband cleans, he does dishes and laundry. if he did not clean his own clothes they would never get done. why should i wash his clothes and work and look after children it goes both ways in our relaqtionship. since our incomes are simular, the work put back is equal ↑ |
| Name: Jill | Date: Jul 30th, 2009 5:19 PM |
I feel your pain on having a husband who is an ass who is retired and sits on his ass all day while I work full time and come home and clean the house, pay bills and do laundry. I think all men are born with the lazy gene when it comes to house cleaning and taking care of children.
Good luck ladies ↑ |
| Name: helen | Date: Aug 2nd, 2009 2:12 PM |
my husband is unbelievable.He also calls me lazy,asks me where Iīve spent money and criticises just about everything I do or donīt do.He also uses the most incredible insults towards me.Really itīs obvious that he doesnīt love me or has ever done so.By the way he also likes to use me as a punch bag.He defends all his actions telling me that I am sick.
Oh incidently I work extra hours to bring more money into the house(on top of my salary which is more than his)as well as doing all the cleaning,cooking,laundry,bill payments etc.Hey heīs right I must be sick.
The latest thing to happen is that he has taken over 5000 euros to spend exclusively on himself and when I asked how much money I would have he said 300 miserable euros.This is after he has already spend over 13000 euros on himself also in the last 5 years,
I am really so,so tired of his selfishness .
Anyway obviously this relationship is going nowhere and I think I actually donīt give a damn any more,Everybody deserves to be happy donīt they? ↑ |
| Name: nameless | Date: Aug 8th, 2009 7:46 PM |
| yes, mine is one too. Won't ever do anything with his kids (they are now teens) and he wonders why they don't love him!!! His tv and computer are much more important that spending time with them even to watch a stupid tv program. When they were little, he couldn't even go out and play catch with them--he had other important things to do. When we go camping, our kids want him to go to the pool, go bikeriding, play catch, etc, and all he wants to do is take a nap!!! AARRRRGGGGHHHH!!! I can't stand it! I feel so sorry for my kids!! They don't have a father, they have a lazy, good for nothing snob who thinks he is too good for them!!! He says hes gonna do something to punsih them and then he never does it (conveniently forgets about it!!!!) Sometimes I am so mad that I was so stupid to give in to desperation and marry him. ↑ |
| Name: gunit | Date: Aug 9th, 2009 10:30 PM |
| your husband is an asshole!! get rid of him now and save yourself a life time of misery. he will never change. he will be this way 20yrs form now.if he can not love your child how will he ever love u/??just dump him now save your self and your child from all the heart ache now. ↑ |
| Name: Sandy | Date: Aug 14th, 2009 11:23 PM |
| Yes my husband is an asshole he thinks it's fine for him to be buddies with a single 26 yr. old who more than admits that she hasn't had sex in 8 months and needs some and he can't understand why I'm pissed he lets her come over and hangs out with the fat bitch! ↑ |
| Name: Kathy | Date: Aug 15th, 2009 3:19 PM |
| You sound like a lazy fat bitch!!!! If you didn't want a kid you should of kept you legs closed. You crying bitch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: Aug 16th, 2009 3:30 PM |
| yeah my husband is a re re too all he does all day is sit on this computer and bitch about having to take care of our child which btw is so easy not that all kids are . anyways i have to work i told him if he ever decided to get off his lazy ass and get a job i would gladly stay home and take care of the baby and plus i would at least get something else done in the house since i work two jobs and still have to come home and do all the chores and take care of the kids since he thinks when im home he fucking is off duty ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: Aug 17th, 2009 9:05 PM |
| don,t do anything.he will then understand everything you do for him ↑ |
| Name: Emily | Date: Aug 24th, 2009 1:19 AM |
| Jeez, men can be so annoying. They always think they're going through more than there wives, do more than them too, when really its US THAT WORKS HARDER AND STRESS OUT MORE THAN THEM. I'm so close to leaving him, because I can't take his crap anymore, he always makes me feel like its all my fault that he is so unhappy. I cook for him, im romantic towards him, im nice to him, I always make sure that I tell him that I'm 100% on his side, I comfort him when he is sad or angry, I clean, and I always make him look better than me towards my family and friends. I can't believe he can make me feel like crap when I do all these things for him. It feels like a waste of time doing good for him! ↑ |
| Name: Ashley | Date: Sep 5th, 2009 8:08 PM |
| My husband is such and ass. Let me tell you what he does. We have three beautiful girls ages 7,2, and 3 months. I have had my last 2 kids at home with a midwife and the last child I was in hard core labor and waiting for him to get home to drive me to my mothers house to have the baby and that asshole stopped at walmart to buy beer. What the hell I am in the backseat fumming because the contractions are only 2 minutes apart and I fell like this baby is going to jump out of me and he has to stop and buy beer. I get to my moms at 7:30pm and by 9:15 hello baby so that tells you how fast it happened. Then he didn't even stick around he had my dad drive him home so he could go to work the next day. So here I am I have just had the second biggest baby I have ever had, she was 10 pounds 22.5 inches long, no pain medicine and he didn't even stay to help me take care of the 2yr old. He has recently just changed the very 1st diaper of the 3 month old. Wow I should have listened to my friends when they said I could do better ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Sep 7th, 2009 3:52 PM |
| My husband is an idiot at least your husband has a job mine just conveniently left all the housework and paying the bills and provide for the house.He wants me to d the housework also while he sits on his lazy ass.I told him I cannot work and cook and asked him to cook at least and he told me that if you think you are doing something that's not true.he also told me that there are alot of women who do more than I do.I am so mad at him.He also keeps comparing me with other women one day I told him to go find one because nobody will put up with his useless shit.I have 2 sons I gave him 3 years because my youngest will be 18 as soon as he turns 18 I am getting a lawyer and dumping his sorry Ass out of my life.I told him to leave but he did not I asked him why he is not getting a job he yelled at me.I told him he could at least work for mc donalds he said he will never do that.I am going to school as soon as I get my diploma he will be on the streets begging for mercy.I think when I am done with him I will take a vacation but I have to make sure that he won't attach his sorry as.... to my kids and make them work for him.I talked to my kids already my eldest 18 now does not like what his dad is doing and I am going to make sure that loser will pay what he did to me.Pay backs are hell and trust me I am going to keep my sons out of his tainted touch.I hate him ↑ |
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