| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Sep 7th, 2009 3:52 PM |
| My husband is an idiot at least your husband has a job mine just conveniently left all the housework and paying the bills and provide for the house.He wants me to d the housework also while he sits on his lazy ass.I told him I cannot work and cook and asked him to cook at least and he told me that if you think you are doing something that's not true.he also told me that there are alot of women who do more than I do.I am so mad at him.He also keeps comparing me with other women one day I told him to go find one because nobody will put up with his useless shit.I have 2 sons I gave him 3 years because my youngest will be 18 as soon as he turns 18 I am getting a lawyer and dumping his sorry Ass out of my life.I told him to leave but he did not I asked him why he is not getting a job he yelled at me.I told him he could at least work for mc donalds he said he will never do that.I am going to school as soon as I get my diploma he will be on the streets begging for mercy.I think when I am done with him I will take a vacation but I have to make sure that he won't attach his sorry as.... to my kids and make them work for him.I talked to my kids already my eldest 18 now does not like what his dad is doing and I am going to make sure that loser will pay what he did to me.Pay backs are hell and trust me I am going to keep my sons out of his tainted touch.I hate him ↑ |
| Name: Me again | Date: Sep 7th, 2009 10:55 PM |
| He just told me I should keep the house clean so that he can have company.I am going to tell him he can take his company and stick it where it belongs.Because he lies his friends about him not having a job whenever we cannot invite friends over all the blame goes to me.I have no friends because they think that I am just a spoiled housewife and I am working to pass my time.He only cares about himself I hate him I hate him I hate him.One day I am going to wipe that I have it all smile from his face.Ugh he is disgusting.I cannot stand him ↑ |
| Name: life sux | Date: Sep 8th, 2009 9:49 PM |
stephanie, I say just leave him. He is not worth it!! My husband is also such an a** hole!
He is very bossy, and childish. He thinks he world revolves around him and if nothing goes his way, he takes it out on me. He doesn't even care..all he cares about is himself. Since our daughter was born and that is almost a year now, he has been BITCHIN.that life is not the same..wah wah wah..there is no time for him anymore...Meanwhile I am the one taking care of our daughter. He does whatever he wants. Yesterday I just asked him to get the bottle so I can feed our daughter..he had a fit!! He yelled and said, I guess I can't do anything anymore..I just asked him to get the bottle and he got mad.
I really hate him too. I know how you feel on hating your husband that you can't even stand being in the same room with him....
I can't leave because I can't afford to..which is really sad for me and life does suck (except of course being with my daughter)
That is the only thing that keeps me sane, my baby girl!! ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Sep 9th, 2009 7:57 PM |
| It is me again.To life sux do what I am doing I am being patient and getting my education.As soon as I get a good job he is going to pay and he will not be smiling.Trust me I am a loving person but he messed up with the wrong woman. ↑ |
| Name: wendi | Date: Sep 12th, 2009 6:50 PM |
| i would burn his suit and leave...sue him 4 alimoney and make his life HELL! ↑ |
| Name: Arien | Date: Sep 18th, 2009 3:13 PM |
| I can totally understand how you feel. Believe me, its the same with every man. I am a full time student and I take care of everything from cleaning to cooking to car to bank to bills. Anything you name it, I do it and my great husband doesn't bother even to put his dishes away. If I complain, he says his mother never made him do any chores. Well, I have to bear his lousy upbringing just because I love him. But, last weekend, he just passed my limit. He had his friends over for all weekend, I kept cooking for 3 straight days for all of them & he was watching movies with them. Then he got one more friend over for dinner on Monday. Imagine that when he blatantly asked them to walk into the house with their dirty shoes on despite knowing that I bust my ass everyday to clean the house. And when I complained about it, he just lost it and started yelling at me in front of his friends. I just lost it and gave him a piece of my mind. And behold, he has been crying since then. And I am loving it :) ↑ |
| Name: shana | Date: Sep 19th, 2009 4:44 PM |
It's nice to be able to read all of these responses and know that I'm not the only one in a bad situation. I hate my husband. I want a divorce but my husband says that he'll try and take full custody of our 2 year old. Even partial custody scares me. He has a nasty temper and calls me a "stupid b****" all the time and has told my 2 year old son to "shut the f*** up" on several occasions. I don't think that he's get full custody but he'll probably get joint which scares me because then my 2 year old will be with him unsupervised. At least if I live with the a**hole I can keep an eye on things and get out of the house when he starts raging. I'm waiting for my son to be older, around 10 to leave so that he can call me to pick him up when dad goes nuts. I know that a court will never believe that he's as nasty as he is and it will be my word against his, people are always telling me how mellow and nice and calm he is. You never really know what happens behind closed doors.
He's also never cooked, cleaned, or taken care of our son. He thinks that helping me put him to bed at night is all the time he has to spend with him. He also never got up once during the night when my son was born so basically I see him as a waste of space.
He won't even let me go to the store and leave my son with him, he always tells my son "mama is going" so that he runs over to me and starts crying and my husband says "see he doesn't want to be with me". I tried to go out with one of my girlfriends the other night and he picked a fight with me and started throwing things at me so that I'd be too upset to go. I obviously didn't go, I wasn't about to leave my son with him when he was in such a state. I keep hoping that my husband will die of a heart attack, he's such a mean and hostile person that it may happen.
For now I'm letting him pay the bills while I take care of my son full time. ↑ |
| Name: Cindy | Date: Sep 29th, 2009 7:49 PM |
| Men have no brains. Period. ↑ |
| Name: Cheryl | Date: Sep 29th, 2009 8:47 PM |
| Mine's an asshole too! He likes to control everything or else he throws stuff and breaks stuff...or threatens to "spend "--which he knows I can't stand because if we can't afford something, we don't usually get it....but if he "spends" he thinks it's hurting us--or me, rather....... I think I despise him and if it weren't for problems with fibroids, I probably would not be having sex with him " just because".......Sorry this is not exactly what topic you were posting about, but I needed to vent!!! ↑ |
| Name: shanna | Date: Oct 3rd, 2009 5:46 AM |
| Oh yes I GET THAT AL THE TIME. My husband is out everyday, i work come home, cook, do homework wit the kids, bath them play wit dem, sort their clothes out the nex day and he sits wit friend. He takes me out which is once in a while, out of guilt, or because i 'nag'. Im nt apreciated, my mouth is 2 big, and thats because i dare 2 voice my disgruntlednes at his behavior. But when it comes to sleeping wit me then im told im his wife i have 2 sleep wit him, fcuk it! ↑ |
| Name: Pamela | Date: Oct 3rd, 2009 4:51 PM |
| I love my husband very much but I am so tired of living with a hard ass all the time. He is a wonderful provider and I also work full time, take kids to all the appt and school activities and family get togethers. We have to walk egg shells around him because we never know what is going to set him off. He does not like people and does not want to go out with anybody else but family. I would like to have couple friends where we could just get away as adults and have a good time but I am afraid the way he will treat people. I have always been taught to treat people descent even if I don't like them. He bitches about my weight and I am tired of it. I guess I am just wanting the perfect partner and asking of too much. In the neighbor we live in we don't do anything with any of them and I am not used to that I am a people person and love to be around people and having fun even if its just a fun card game. I don't want to be spoiled I just want someone who can be happy at least most of the time. Any suggestions. If he does house work or outside work he has a bad attitude because he thinks he does everything. When I clean I am just happy its clean and I don;t see a reason to bitch about it. any suggestions???? ↑ |
| Name: yoyo | Date: Oct 3rd, 2009 7:16 PM |
He is moody and rude. Has terrible listening skills
His kid is ugly. He is low class and his dad too.
What a Tucker. ↑ |
| Name: yoyo | Date: Oct 3rd, 2009 7:22 PM |
He is moody and rude. Has terrible listening skills
His kid is ugly. He is low class and his dad too.
What a fucker. ↑ |
| Name: hey Stephanie | Date: Oct 5th, 2009 9:17 PM |
| Stephanie thanks for the post I needed it.My husband does not work does not clean sometimes he will and if he is too hungry he will cook for the family but all the responsibility is on my shoulders.To day I saw that he put my oven tray under the sink.He just threw it actually. He has no common sense and he is lazy. I was calling him names like idiot stupid and so moron. I did not realize he was right behind me. He did not like it and I told him he called me worse names for much simpler reasons so he needs to shut up. He just told me that I had mental problems. I said "yeah I do. My problem is you." He is lazy, I am a full time student, I have to provide for the house, pay the bills and do everything while he does nothing. You know what my youngest son is 15 as soon as he turns 17 he will be history. That stupid smile on his face will not last long because I will tell everybody he knows that he is nothing but a looser. My day will come. By the time I am done with him nobody will call him friend. He is a disgrace to humankind ↑ |
| Name: hey Stephanie | Date: Oct 5th, 2009 11:37 PM |
| It's me again, yo yo my husband is ugly.His dad is ugly his dad was abusive to his wife, but I did not know until I married his loser son.His dad has 7 children but he lives alone. He cries all day because he is lonely, but you know what serves him right. He kept on telling me how my dad was lucky because he had a wife that takes care of him. You know what my dad took care of us and he never abused his wife so everybody deserves what they get. What comes around goes around in life.Now my father in law tells me that he misses his wife. What a loser.My husband wanted to send my 16 year old son overseas so that he can take care of him. I told him he can take his dad and stick it where it belongs I am not jeopardizing his education just because... ↑ |
| Name: Jill | Date: Oct 7th, 2009 10:14 PM |
| My husband & I have been together for 20 years. About a month after my second child was born, he told me that he doesn't love me anymore and that he had never been happy since we got married. He left me and the 2 kids. We are now separated. I got blamed for everything all of a sudden. He is very irresponsible. ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Oct 12th, 2009 11:24 PM |
God, I get it. My husband has been going back to school for a degree..which I won't even mention. He is the most egocenntrical asshole you could ever deal with. I go and teach 2nd graders all day...sounds easy. but it's not. This has been the most difficult 2 weeks of all time... everyone is sick. Including my own kids. The bottom line is my life is much more difficult because I didn't marry I truly loved...love sucks, and then you die. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I've worked my ass off for what I thought that I desererved...I
m getting no returns. ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Oct 14th, 2009 2:48 AM |
| I feel for you Michelle. My husband has been the biggest baby since I started school. Oh by the way I started school so that I can get government loan and pay my bills and get a better job. My husband does not care where the money comes from. I asked him why he is not helping me with the housework. He said "sure whatever" I asked if he applied for a job he got mad at me. I am so tired of him if it wasn't for my 15 year old I would have left him already. He won't even talk to me. I told him he could at least do the dishes he said"whatever" ugh I told him that one day I will be very happy and he will be very upset. He said amen. I hope he gets what I am saying into his useless brain. Today my son had to stay up until 2 AM to help him with his email.And he has school the next day. I am thinking of getting a lawyer next week. That man thinks I am a weakling and I cannot divorce him but he will see. I told him my dad is dying and I need money to go see him. Does he get a job nooo he just sits there and dreams. Last night he told me that he would like to go see Australia and England this summer. I almost splashed hot coffee at his face. I shoudl have sent him to the hospital with third degree burns. I hope he never ever sees any of his family including his sons. Next week I am going to get a lawyer that asssholeee needs to pay big time. And his abusive stupid dad will watch him suffer. ↑ |
| Name: Cindy | Date: Oct 15th, 2009 1:48 AM |
| I was just diagnosed with bronchitis and a nasal infection and i'm 17 weeks pregnant! I told my husband that the dr said for me to rest and drop the kids off at daycare...he said no. he comes home complains about how "this place is a mess!!" then he gets mad at me for laying down on the couch watching tv!! he said no sleeping on the couches that's a new rule...i said i'm not sleeping i'm watching tv! he said so! go to the other room and watch. all out of being an asshole! like i can't rest around here and if its a mess at home becuz i'm resting...its my fault!! who cares about my wellbeing!! ↑ |
| Name: Trisha | Date: Oct 17th, 2009 1:55 PM |
| I can't believe there are so many women who feel like I do! I am totally and completely trapped in this marriage with whom I feel is satan. I swear I have never in my life encountered a bigger asshole. I stay because I am a stay at home mom with no income and I have no money to leave with. I have been playing this game with him for almost 10 yrs and I am really starting to lose it. This morning I knocked the shit out of him and I am truly afraid that one day I might seriously hurt him. He is constantly putting my parenting skills down ( i have 4 kids and have stayed home with all of them!) telling me I am a bad parent because my 2 yr old is not reading yet! He tells me i am a cunt and many other horrible things~He ask me why the house is not spotless all the time (might i add i clean all day every day but he wants the bathtubs and toilets scubbed everyday along with baseboards and other dumb things!) , why we are having pizza for dinner because our kids should be eating vegetables and you name it he complains and bitches about it! What the hell do I do? ↑ |
| Name: Hey Stephanie | Date: Oct 22nd, 2009 9:18 AM |
| I am confused and upset right now. This morning my husband asked me if he could borrow my cell phone. He needed for some conference thing. I told him no because he has a part time job and he refuses to get a temporary full time job. He borrowed money from the bank and loaded the responsibility of paying the whole debt on my shoulders. Now he says I need to borrow your phone. I told him I cannot give it to him because it is out of charge he got mad at me saying that I might let him borrow it sometime next year. All those problems would have been solved if he would just find a full time job or did the housework. But no he only cooks for my kids only if he feels like it and he never cleans or does anything else. I told him to help me with my cleaning at least he said yeah yeah sure. As soon as my younger son turns 18 or moves out of the house I am filing for divorce I even gave him the hint. I told him to leave, I called him names,I downsized him in front of our kids he does not care. He gets mad at me. I understand there is recession people are jobless but at least he could do housework instead of acting like a diplomat for some intercultural organization. He does not get paid for it. He took my son's money if my kids make a mistake of leaving any cash out he will take it and use it to get coffee. He needs to leave and never come back. Now he is trying to make me feel guilty for not giving my phone to him. I hate it but we came to a point where my money is my money his money is his. He has a car and he practically made me pay for it and he wont even let me drive it. I do not care now I have my own car but because of him I am in debt up to my neck. I will suffer until my son grows up and gets out of the house. He acts like I should have been the perfect wife work all day, clean all night and welcome his friends to our house and cook 5-6 dishes for them. He even punished me for not having his friends at midnight. I told him they could come for dinner later but nooo. I had plans that day and he knew it. Because I got mad at him for bringing his friends at midnight and making me cook dinner for them he decided to punish me by not accepting any invitations from any of my friends. Now we do not go anywhere and we do not see anybody. At least that's what he thinks he is doing. I ask him why he is punishing me he denies it because he knows that if he accepts it he will be kicked out the door. My kids had enough of him. I do not know if I can wait 3 more years he really pushed me to the edge. I am tired of him lying to his friends about him not having a job. I started to treat him like a dog. I am not happy I just want to have the kind of a marriage where husband and wife shares responsibility and support each other. We should have been partners not enemies. Any ideas you guys can give? I tried to tell him that if just got another part time job the problems would be solved but he does not want to understand. ↑ |
| Name: ALLY | Date: Oct 24th, 2009 12:10 PM |
| Hey stephanie- try just finding good things about him and telling him those things from time to time and not anything bad for 2 days. Also just telling him what you would like him to do one time and stop. My husband used to fight all the time and still do but we went to counseling and it helped a lot. He is pretty much of an asshole too, but has good qualities and the more I focus on the good, the more of that I get and the happier he is and he starts being nicer to me too. ↑ |
| Name: Hey stephanie | Date: Oct 24th, 2009 5:21 PM |
| This is to Ally you can try being nice to him when he does not get a job and work I am sorry but I am done being nice. We are not fighting because we are two different people HELLO we are fighting because he is a lazy ass. Oh yeah I tried being nice to him guess what NOT WORKING. I made up my mind he will be history as soon as my kids are out of the house so am I. He can sit and figure out how to live on his own because my kids aren't gonna stick around and feed his lazy A... ↑ |
| Name: Kirsty | Date: Oct 27th, 2009 4:09 PM |
| I hear you, my husband is excatly the same. I dont work but we , sorry I have two kids with him, a six year old boy and a 4 month old girl, and does he show me an ounce of curtesy when he gets off work, after having gone to the bar for a couple of beers? no he pitches up [tipsy] parks of in front of the tv with a glass of wine, moans because the house is a mess and demands his dinner. Will he get offhi sass to help me and get our six year old to bed while Im rocking our daughter to sleep for tenth time that day? will he hell, thats my job... then when I finally get done bringing in washing, washing dishes wolfing down my dinner and soothing my baby, its ten o clock at night and all i want to do is go to bed , but he decides he wants to stick his dick in my face and demand a blowjob, when i tell him im tired and I need a break, then he sulks. Im so done with him, where have all the good men gone????? I had natural childbirth with both my children...did I even get a bunch of flowers as athank you? No, he pissed off to the bar to "celevrate" half an hour after I HAD GIVEN BIRTH[ BOTH TIMES] I really resent the hell out of him and If i was rich tomorrow, I would leave him tomorrow and tale my beautiful children with me. Im with you girl ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Oct 31st, 2009 9:41 PM |
| kristie dump the asshole. My husband just told me to do the dishes and I told him not to tell me to do anything.He says sure you mean "you do not need to be told you will do it right". I am going to dump him as soon as I am done with my education.I only have 6 months. He is a gonner.He told me how we will buy a new car and better house as soon as I got a good job. Anyway he won't taste my money. I will take him and sue him. My kids deserve a better dad than this ass.Sorry my language. I just told him " Is it nice and manly to dump the housework and everything else on my shoulders" He could not open his mouth. I was going to wait three years but I guess I have to tell his dad that his son is a looser. He will never see his son ever because his son will never get a job. My husband will be very happy to hear that his 80 year old dad is suffering because of him. If I stay with my husband any longer I will not be able to control my anger and do something to him while he is sleeping. Actually that man should sleep with one eye open. ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Oct 31st, 2009 9:46 PM |
| My husband is jobless, lazy and stupid.His dad is stupid and a jerk. He was telling my husband that a husband should hit his wife. Oh guess what my father inlaw cannot walk or take care of himself. He has nobody to care for him because his wife died 20 years ago.He could not find a wife because no woman would marry him.I told my husband thats how you pay. He knows, but he is an idiot. ↑ |
| Name: b | Date: Nov 2nd, 2009 8:01 PM |
| Name: Anonymous | Date: Nov 4th, 2009 6:47 AM |
| I did it. I left my husband, had a baby, finished nursing school, and have never been happier. He hates that I make all the money now. He lost his business and can't pay his bills. I love it. he says I owe him because he supported me while I was in school that is such bullshit. He owes me for pain and suffering. I read a few blogs. To the women who are in school...FINISH!! It is worth all the time and suffering not to have to depend on a man anymore. Just me and my baby girl. Thats all I need. ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Nov 4th, 2009 4:17 PM |
| Thanks anonymous I am planning to finish my education. I am alot calmer now. I know what I want and I will leave him in my own time (3 years max) It is a shame that it had to come to this. I had such plans.Anyway I have to focus on keeping my grades up and being sneaky. I look at it on the bright side if my husband died or left me for another woman I would be left penniless. Now I will some kind of education and some money to support myself. He can go to where ever. ↑ |
| Name: hey stephanie | Date: Nov 4th, 2009 4:19 PM |
| At least he is getting my car fixed))))).May be the mechanic should fix him too))))).Not fix him fix him FIX him he wont be a macho man anymore)) ↑ |
| Name: Phil | Date: Nov 6th, 2009 12:31 AM |
| My partner of 8 years recently told me he wants us to sell the house and then go seperate ways. I asked him why he cant help to get the house ready to show and his response was " i cant stand being around you"!!!!! We own our house together and neither can afford to live elsewhere until the house is sold. tonight, he comes home from the gym while ive been busting my ass to get the house ready for sale (renovating the bathroom) i tell him he cannot take shower since i just put primer on the walls. his response was you just dont care!! i used to love this man. now, in all honesty im crying inside. i have to be strong because he isnt hurting. he also told me he has been a sucker during out relationship. i asked him tonight for some respect since we need to live together until the house is sold. he did not even like hearing that~~ i cant imagine not having someone around i haev known for 8 years. he used to be really sweet stressed and depressed at times but yet very sweet. he says ive run him into debt. sure its expensive owning a house. but i did not twist his arm when we bought our house. he pays more of the monthly expenses. i do all of the house work remodeling the yard work the dogs care, work 3/4 time and he says i dont have a real job. a few months ago he pushed me into a oak door and broke the door in half almost broke my arm i had him arrested things have not been good since. he has a history of a horrible temper and throwing things saying i dont listen to him. anyone? ↑ |
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