| Name: JESSE | Date: Jun 27th, 2007 9:43 PM |
| Men are assholes. They never think we do anything. They don't think that raising a child is work either or running a housefold. It is not considered a job and they have no clue how much work it really is. I would love to see a man go through we do and be expected to "earn their keep" as mine has implied. Hell it's a job just to put up with them sometimes. Where is my hazard pay for that? ↑ |
| Name: girl going crazy | Date: Jun 30th, 2007 2:48 AM |
| It is after two in the morning and here i sit crying again. My husband, of 11 years, is driving me crazy. I am to the point that i just feel exhausted. Nothing that i do, in his eyes, is ever right. I work my ass off as a home health aide taking care of the elderly and disabled. By the time i get home, i have cleaned enough houses that i am just too tired to clean my own. I use to worry about my house being clean but after years of him always having something to criticize me about, i have just quit giving a fuck about anything. All i want is for him to want to spend time with me and my son. He comes in from work and there is usually atleast two of his friends sitting in the driveway waiting on him. They drink until they can't drink anymore. Then in the house he comes expecting me to fix him a plate and sometimes even has the nerve to say fix his friends a plate too. That was the case tonight . He ate a big plate and of course left it sitting on the table by his chair. 5 minutes later, he is snoring. So, i'm left to entertain his friends and finally they get the hint that i'm not in an entertaining mood and leave. I let him lay there until i just can't take the snoring anymore. i wake him up and ask him to get in the bed. He jumps up screaming at the top of his lungs about how fucking stupid i am. Did i say my 10 year old son has just fell asleep? He starts throwing the hangers across the living room, bc of course i'm working my ass off trying to catch up on laundry, he is saying that i never shut up and that i'm a bitch and he just wants to go to sleepbc he has to work tomm. I'm just to the point i don't know what to do. I don't want to divorce him. I want him to care about me like he use to. i don't know how to try and get his respect. I have tried the not cleaning, not doing his laundry, not packing his lunch. Let him do it himself. I think that just made him resent me more. He use to be my best friend. I have lost touch with all my friends thanks to him and have no one to turn to. My mother is sick and i don't want to worry her by telling her how bad it is getting at my house. I have started taking pills to help me zone out so i can feel numb, He says these things in front of people too, including my son. I have threatened to leave him and my son goes into fits when he hears me say that. He loves his dad and we do have some good times it just seems they are becoming few and far between. Thanks for letting me vent on this site. It made me feel better to just feel like i told someone bc i have no one i can talk to. Any ideas on what i should do would be deeply appreciated. I'm so tired of going through the motions of life, and i hate it for my son. He deserves better than this and so do i. I just don't know how to givehim better. Thanks again! 8) ↑ |
| Name: TJeve | Date: Jul 4th, 2007 7:32 PM |
| They think it is part of a normal day for us to do everything that we do their only obligation is to work and come home and rest we work 8 to 10 hour and then another 8 hours at home, you need to leave for a whole day for them to kind of know what we go thru and they wouldn't even do 10 % of what we do ↑ |
| Name: natalie | Date: Jul 6th, 2007 12:50 PM |
| I have been there before right now my husband has never helped with our three kids he thinks because he works that is all he has to do. He thinks its my job to take care of the outside as far as the grass animals and whatever else. nothing i cook is good enough he thinks it is so easy taking care of 3 kids all day 7 days a week ↑ |
| Name: K | Date: Jul 9th, 2007 1:47 PM |
| OMG my husband is such an asshole I am 15 weeks pregnant and I am getting to that stage were I really want sex, well after a week in a half of subtle hints I finally came out last night and try to have sex with him, He wasn't that enthused nor was he excited (if you know what I mean) then I ask if he would go down (something he almost always does) he looked at me in disgusted and told me he didn't want to and that if was gross.... so now I am gross because I am having his BABY -- He tells me that sex is the last thing on his mind right now and that he has never done this before....Like I don;t have a lot of stuff on my mind??? Like I have done this.... all I wanted was some attention, now I am gross....F&$%&^% asshole! I am so mad I almost want a divorce. ↑ |
| Name: Married?? | Date: Jul 13th, 2007 11:30 AM |
| I have been taking care of the check book for the past seven years. By taking care, I mean paying bills keeping track of money (U know what I am talking about) We have gotten into fights over it (as far as money goes) especially if he wants to purchase a big item and I tell him he should wait. If the fight gets to big I till him he is more than welcome to take over... but of course he says "oh! Good way to, just give up" and not do it your self. Anyway, yesterday he complained about my filing system. I file everything by the month it was paid. That makes good sense to me doesn't it!! So of course he blames me getting so up set cause it's that time of the month, What?? Why do they always have to blame it on that time of the month??? He told me I should be able to do a better job because I seldom do house work or even do the dishes What!!! Seldom, (WTF) is he talking about? So I told him you know this is great you can come up with a list of things I need to do better or I need to do in a drop of a hat. How about coming up with a list of reason we should stay together. No answer... I felt so small you can't even imagine? ↑ |
| Name: pebblez | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 4:49 AM |
| nothing to do with your post but why are same of the names red and others black??? yes men are numbnuts! ↑ |
| Name: Guest | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 7:27 PM |
| My husband is an asshole. I am 9 months pregnant and have a 2 year old and work full time. My husband calls me selfish because I am tired in the evening. He thinks I am lazy because I do not help him getting our 2 year old ready for bed during the 1hour he is home with him. He thinks I should be more considerate of his time and help him more ... said to me in not quite as nice terms. I told him he owes me an apology for his comments - he completely disagrees and thinks I am a *****. Unbelievable. ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Jul 19th, 2007 8:02 PM |
| My husband is the BIGGEST ASSHOLE. He is unemployed. We have a 2 year old and he believes that he shouldn't take care of him in the mornings so I have to drop him off at his mom's house. My lazy husband doesn't do anything all day except for watch T.V., go online to look at porn and then pick up our son around 3pm. Sometimes he won't pick our son up because he isn't in the mood and then my son doesn't get his afternoon nap. What the hell. I'm the one who is working my butt off, not only am I taking care of them I'm pregnant again. My husband expects me to cook for him, which he is more of the cook and he won't make himself anything and blame me that he is starving to death.There is plenty of food. He is so picky. I just need to leave him. And on top of that, he calls me really bad names when he is mad. ↑ |
| Name: confused78 | Date: Jul 20th, 2007 5:23 AM |
Reading through most of these responses really makes me think twice about my upcoming marriage. I have been unhappy with the relationship from the start. My "fiance" and I have known eachother since high school. Since that time he has cheated on me numerous times and had also lied about borrowing money from me for a trip and I never saw or heard from him for 9 months. I am "stuck" in the relationship because I have a beautiful 3 year old son. I have stuck it out this long for him afraid that my "fiance" will take him away or I will lose my time as a full time parent to my son.
I can sympathize with the women in this forum. My partner feels that because he is in a job that requires manual labor his job is more demanding than my job which is counseling kids and their families. On top of that he feels it excludes him from childcare duties and also housework. He thinks I sit on my butt in front of the computer all day. At this point I am angry at myself for letting it get this far and continuing this emotionally draining relationship. I was sick this week and he didn't do much to help me and said it was my fault for getting myself sick. I'm going to marry a winner aren't I. ↑ |
| Name: leochik7265 | Date: Jul 20th, 2007 9:28 AM |
I had a night too!!! I posted this in a group in MySpace...here it goes...
I am extremely angry and irritated this morning. My hubby got home from work late last night, so Julie was already in bed when he got home. She's a Daddy's girl so she's extra moody when she doesn't see her daddy at night. So I was already stressed from my drama queen. Then, he waits till close to 12:30am before asking me to wash some clothes for him for work the next day. SO...being the good wife that I am, I stayed up till 2am while he slept doing laundry. Which I didn't really mind too much. I had to do that all the time when he was in the Navy so I'm used to it. Well, his boss calls at 6:30...1/2 hour before he has to be at work, and tells him he has the day off. But since it's early in the morning, instead of talking quietly or even in a normal tone, he's being all loud and wakes Julie up. Well, he decides that since she's up and he doesn't have to go to work, he brings her in our room and lays her down on my pillow next to me. She won't sleep in our room...she wants to play. So she climbs on me and screams "HI MOMMY" in my ear and now I'm awake. AND HE GOES BACK TO SLEEP AND IS STILL SLEEPING!!! He probably won't wake up till about noon. Now, I'm all pissy and I have a moody/tired baby to deal with AND I gotta do some work. I don't function on 4 1/2 hours of crappy sleep. Man writing this took a lot out of me...I'm even more tired now!! ↑ |
| Name: KC | Date: Jul 22nd, 2007 4:58 PM |
| My husband has been such a dick lately. I am taking the Texas Bar Exam on TUESDAY. Needless to say that with an 8 month old son its been kinda hard. He promised me that I could just study all day (its sunday), I could nurse our son and then hand him right back and he would take care of him so I could cram the rest of this information into my head. Im really stressed right now because I am afraid Im not going to pass. So he says, well why dont you just take care of him while I do dishes, to which I responded, "well, when I do the dishes I put him in his walker and he just watches, you really dont need my help." (not sarcastically either). HE REFUSED!! So its 4 pm, I have less 40 hours until the test starts and I am still learning information, not reviewing, learning. If he isnt supportive now, then when. It doesnt get any freaking bigger than this for me--this is the hardest thing I will ever have to do. I would rather go through 20 hours of childbirth again (my son was over 10 lbs) than take this test. Why do men always act like they do more than you, when usually its the women who do most of the work? We work too, and take care of the kids, and the house, and they act like one time doing something would kill them. ↑ |
| Name: 21mummyof3 | Date: Jul 22nd, 2007 5:22 PM |
| my husband is the just the same he asks me why am i aways tired when i do anytrhing i feel like sceaming sooo much but its also so hurtfull when he says it i have three children and im 21 and i dont go out beacause he starts arguments about how he isnt going to look after the children he makes me so angry i have to do everything around the house aswell bath the children make tea put them to bed then i do all the hopuse work so bye the time im finished im so tierd and just want to go bed and im studying at the mo and he isnt even working. ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Jul 25th, 2007 7:48 PM |
| yeah my husband was with someone else and has to kids with that person well he has cosdidy and i take care of the kids allllll day long and he thinks because he works all day i have to do do do for hmm and says im lazy well that aint fucking lazy when u have a 2 year old and a 5 year old and one on the way yeah i get pissed ↑ |
| Name: Kathy | Date: Aug 2nd, 2007 12:00 PM |
| My husbands name is Jason to and boy does he love to start fights and arguments over stupid shit! Like today I cam home from school because I don't feel good and he wanted to bitch about a trash can because I moved it or he is always calling his MOMMY to defend him because he is a MOMMAS BOY and cant do shit for his self I am always wrong and he is always right and it is I never do anything I cook, I clean, wash clothes, make sure his fat ass eats and makes sure he has clean clothes to wear and a clean house and make sure the kids are taken care of and i dont do anything MEN GOT THERE NERVES!!!!!!! If i say something he dont like all hell breaks loose and he makes sure the whole house and the neighborhood can hear his big mouth! MY husband is the biggest ASSHOLE i know. ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Aug 4th, 2007 9:36 PM |
| My husband is such an asshole! He told me that I don't look pregnant, just FAT. NIce to say huh.... and this makes the second time he has said that. And then today he said all I did was bitch all day. I am 7 months pregnant and have been really sore "down below" today. He thinks that b/c I was complaining about that that I am moody. Also, he was bitching about where I put his track pants this morning~ guess they were in the wrong spot. Oops! god forbid~ atleast I did his f****ing laundry for him. ↑ |
| Name: sal | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 2:05 AM |
| Name: Maddness Now | Date: Aug 9th, 2007 7:22 PM |
| Hey my story tops yours. I just found out that my husband has been writing, texting and calling this little whore that he works with. And some of the e-mails said that he wanted to put his sausage in her pants. And then when we got the phone bill, he had went over 1141 minutes on our cell phone bill. This jerk was in a motorcycle accident on 06/02/2007 and guess who was doing everything and taking care of his azz. ME.... and in the meantime while I was at work he was having this ugly whore coming over to the house and god knows what was going on!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Maddness Now | Date: Aug 9th, 2007 7:32 PM |
| Plus on top of everything he says that he has been changing the passwords to his e-mail, our phone account and our credit card account. But yet he never did anything. I say GUILT is all around and he is trying to manipulate me and make me feel like I pushed him to do so. He can kiss my azz because it was all his doing. ↑ |
| Name: Nada | Date: Aug 13th, 2007 9:23 PM |
| Yes my husband tells me why are you so tired your lazy he tells me that at home and when im at work and i am a nurse i have five patients toilet them give meds start IV and transfer them from bed all day and i work 12 hours shifts plus on top of that i support him thru school pay the morgage yes a house and all the bills and his school CRAP my husband is a ASSHOLE ↑ |
| Name: loanne | Date: Aug 15th, 2007 7:43 AM |
| oh yes definately.....i only work part-time but he works full time i up at 6am (depending on my shift) and home at 2.....I dont stop with my kids until they in bed at 9 and he wonders why im always tired at weekends to go out or do anything......he said a couple of months ago SURE YOU ONLY WORK PART TIME I WORK FULL TIME...the xxxxxxx.......when he comes home he sits on his ass and doesnt have to do any housework or childminding.....yes all men are from mars..... ↑ |
| Name: Terressa | Date: Aug 15th, 2007 6:29 PM |
My Fiance is an ASSHOLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I work a full time job and then I have to go home and work another full time job with the house and with my 2 1/2 year old son. I called my fiance asked if he could pick our son and take him out for a couple of hours so I could go home and clean OUR house (since he doesnt help) and i left work a half hour early. I got home and he was sitting on the computer and my son was running around the house. I HAD TO CLEAN AND MAKE SURE MY SON WAS CONTENT PLAYING BY HIM SELF. And when I got mad at him he acts like he's father of the year cause he picked him up from day care!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Terressa | Date: Aug 15th, 2007 6:36 PM |
| I've never been at a chat room with so many people that feel the way i do every day of my life. My fiance makes me feel that i'm just a BITCH all the time and it's my fault that i'm constantly frusterated. lol now i know different. ↑ |
| Name: mary | Date: Aug 15th, 2007 8:33 PM |
| my husband is a counselor and always thinnks he is right about bringing up our children. My youngest daughter is twenty three and is street selling jewelry after getting her bacherlor degree in businiess. I am concerned but he thinks this is a phase I am angry; ↑ |
| Name: catie | Date: Aug 15th, 2007 11:18 PM |
wow this forum has gone on for over one year! I got married about 1 year ago for the first time with no children (we are both in our mid 30s) My husband does quite a bit to chip in but he cannot take any critizism, but meanwhile he is always coming down on me for something. He cooked dinner last night and I mentioned that he made a big mess making it and that it would be better if he tried cleaning up as he goes. He couldnt handle this critizism and started ranting about all of the things that I dont do right and that I have no right to critisize him.
To make things worse, we went out for drinks with friends tonight and when we got home he wanted me to call one of my frineds to make sure they got home okay. I told him it was no big deal and that they woud take care of themselves and that I did not have their cell phone number...........his response........called me a stupid c*nt twice!!! I was shocked. This is my husband. I have never been called that by anyone, not even my semi-verbally abusive ex boyfried. I am still in shock. He tried apologizing and justifying it but I am not having any of it...you can't just sweep something like that under the rug....granted we had been drinking, but what was he thinking? You dont call your wife that, no matter what!! I really dont know what to do........... I am so mad!! ↑ |
| Name: newly married | Date: Aug 26th, 2007 8:20 PM |
| men are assholes! I wish I never would have married! I hate the guilt tripping that they do! PRICKS! I am much younger than my husband and have 2 years left in school. He guilt trips me like crazy about not working during the school year! (20 credits?!!! Yeah, why don't you try that?!!!) Well just wait 'til I'm making 70 g's a yr and you're still stuck at 45!!! ↑ |
| Name: newly married | Date: Aug 26th, 2007 8:22 PM |
| I'm shocked ! There is NO justification in those statements! He needs to apologize for being a complete asshole prick!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Stella | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 12:03 AM |
| My husband is such a big ASSHOLE, he's also controlling and has just a general nasty, mr. know it all attitude! I asked him if we had an old pair of computer speakers I could take to work and he went off! Chastising me about how cheap my present and past jobs were and accused me of being a suck up and not asking for the company to buy me some. All that in a nasty tone at 7:30 am while I was on the bus on my way to work!!! When I called him on it he went off on me with the same "throw up" everything he can think of in the past to justify his nasty rant. He's an asshole I'm going to not let him talk to me that way! He blames me for every bad thing in his angry, victimized life. He's alienated his family, friends and co workers. Everyone steers clear of this ASSHOLE! I'm his wife and the only one left in the house to endure his negative, angry existence! ↑ |
| Name: Kathy | Date: Aug 31st, 2007 3:52 PM |
| My husband is just as bad!!! I work in the office of my husbands company. And I'm a secretary, so yes, it's a desk job. But he comes in and tries to tell me how to do my job and how badly I'm screwing it up!!! Then when I get off work, I pick up our 8yr old son and it's off to baseball or football practice. After that I'm supposed to clean, cook, and anything else he wants. But what ever I do, it's NEVER good enough!!! I don't know why I stay sometimes. ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: Sep 2nd, 2007 8:56 PM |
| Just when I think there is no way my husband could ever be a bigger ass than he already is, he goes and proves me wrong! My husband always wines and cries that I don't show him enough affection but he is always constantly being such a jerk to me that I feel like I hate him all the time. I am sorry but I DO NOT want to show that affection! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ↑ |
| Name: rohnda | Date: Sep 2nd, 2007 10:13 PM |
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