| Name: Mandy | Date: Oct 27th, 2007 12:48 PM |
| I googled "husbands are assholes" and it came up with this thread. I work Mon-Fri, 9-6 and go to school 2 nights a week 6:30-9:30. He works Wed-Sun 5pm-1am. Through the week I wish we have more time together but on weekends when we are home at the same time I hate it! He sleeps til noon and I can't waitl ti 4:00 when he walks out that door to work! My 2 boys (6&4) have been patiently waiting for him to get up so we can do something today and now that he's up (for less than an hour) I don't want to do anything with him! He's already griping at me. So I told him to take the boys somewhere and leave me alone! ↑ |
| Name: SHARON | Date: Oct 27th, 2007 1:40 PM |
My man just overflowed our basement with poop becasue he tunred off the power breakers to our Sump pump and forgot to turn them back on. My entire basement, media room, pool table area, etc. is filled with our toilet fesces.
I win the big loser husband award. ↑ |
| Name: Desiree | Date: Oct 27th, 2007 11:22 PM |
| My husband use to tell me when I stayed home with our daughter that the money comming in was "his" money. I was in college at the time too and i hated him so much for it. Now that sh's 4 i work part time, go to school part time, and home school her. And he says that because I don't do as much as he does that I should be taking better care of the house and he treats me like a child if I spend any money. I was just in the hospital really sick for four days and once I was checked in he said he was going to a bar to "watch the game". And when he came to pick me up once I was dischraged I told him not to stress me out or I would end up back in the hospital and before we even managed to get in the drive way he started a fight with me. Then he said he wanted me to take care of our daughter so he could go play ball with his friends- I had only been home 20 minutes! And I was still sick- I hate him so much some days. He didn't even bring me flowers in the hospital but my step-mom, brother, and sister did and a nurse kept asking my daughter if daddy gave them to me- I was so ashamed when she said that neither her or my husband got me anything. ↑ |
| Name: Miss Led | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 12:26 AM |
| I just checked my husbands cell phone bill and found out he's still talking to his daughter's Mother. When I ask him why he tells me it's because they have a child together. Only problem is his daughter is 24 years old married and has her own kid. God I hate my husband .................. ↑ |
| Name: Lucy | Date: Oct 31st, 2007 10:53 AM |
| I have learned I take care of myself and my toddler first. Then if I have extra time in my hands I will attends to the needs of others such as hubby, house chores, etc. So do yourself a favor and make it a priorty to take care of yourself first. Men tend to swiflty try to overpower you, but under no circumtances allow it to happen. Don't think of it as being selfish, just think of it as who will take care of "me or my needs." ↑ |
| Name: SIssy | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 6:57 PM |
| I so understand what everyone is saying. My whole purpose in life is to be his "nigger"(non racial), cook clean and lay there when he wants it. I try to talk to him and I am talking to a wall. I get hurt and go to the hospital just to listen to him say he could be playing games with his friends right now instead of sitting there. My father dies and that night all he cares about is if he is getting laid or not. Men are assholes. THey care only for themselves. You break your back trying so hard to make things nice and they do everything they can to make you feel like you are nothing but a worthless piece of crap for them to treat like dirt. They complain if you don't feel like dressing like some immature teeny booper because you have a what little bit of respect left for yourself that they have not trampled on. You have a surgery and heaven forbid they help you afterwards, the gym is more important. Their friends and job are way more important than you will ever be. A wife is there as a convience for a quick lay and a good punching bag, emotional is my husbands favorite. They turn you into someone you never thought you would ever be. Your niceness disappears and your heart goes cold. But hey that is no their problem, never is. Do you ever get so sick and as you smack your hand down on the counter in a fit you only see the vision of them where your hand is smacking. Ahh marriage...Yipee ↑ |
| Name: daan | Date: Nov 2nd, 2007 11:23 PM |
| vrouwen alleen die wille camme of meer ;) ↑ |
| Name: Elizabeth | Date: Nov 3rd, 2007 8:52 PM |
I want all you young gals out there to read this and really think
about whether you really want to throw away years and years
of your life like I have. I have been married for 35 years. We
were very happy for 23 of them. Then, out of nowhere, my H.
turns mean and ugly and insulting and has stayed that way
all these years. I stayed, prayed and thought he would become
the man he used to be. He has only gotten worse. Internet
porn, insults, womanizing - you name it. I finally realized he
is never going to be a good man again. I am planning my exit.
ALways, plan your exit. Get what you need while the getting is
good. Hide money. Act like everything is ok. These men deserve all they get. Don't squander years like I did. Luckily,
I have met a wonderful man - completely by chance. He is
a widow and loves me very much. We have not had sex because I want to start off right - as soon as I leave - in two months, we are going to be together all the time. I can't believe'
how kind this man is! I am so accustomed to being treated like
a dog. Good luck to all of you. ↑ |
| Name: Miss Led | Date: Nov 4th, 2007 6:11 PM |
Elizabeth I am so happy for you...maybe that's where I made my mistake.
I told my husband today that I was going to leave in May of next year and all he could say was what about your stuff and then he asked me what about your job.
God I wanted to slap the shit out of him right then and there.
I told him that I was going to sell what little bit of stuff I owned because I moved into HIS house with HIS furniture and then he's going to pay for me a first class flight back east..yeah that's going to happen when monkeys fly out of my butt.
I already have money hid in my savings account that he doesn't know about but of couse my car is falling apart and he hasn't offered to help pay to have it looked at and naturally they can't find out what's wrong with it.
I had thought about going and getting on antidepressants but why, he's still going to be an asshole either way so what's the point . I'm always going to come last in his life and that's never going to change.
I'm really trying not to let this get to me but it's really starting eat me up inside. Am I the only one to hate my husband the way I do? ↑ |
| Name: Z | Date: Nov 5th, 2007 12:12 AM |
| You know I never had any problems with my husband with regard to helping with the kids, house work, cooking. All the things my friends complain about I never had. He couldn't care less about what his mom tells him to do. So no meddling in-laws either. Sounds too good to be true....it is. I was sick of hearing how great my husband is, how my husband is so kind, how georgeous my husband is too. The problem you ask? The man does not talk! Do you know what is it like to live with someone who doesn't say 2 words to you for 6 week stretches of time? You start praying for a telemarketer to call so you can have an adult conversation. You pray for someone to ask you a question at the grocery store. Look confused infront of store employees to ask a stupid question so you can hear someone respond to your voice. I prayed for an argument.....any response. There is a reason solitary is punishment! When he does decide to talk it is to put me down and scream about something I did 3 days ago....I just have to figure out what it was I did? Then silence for another couple of months. So i stayed. When he hit me @ 9 months pregnant I forgave him. He hit me again. I forgave him. 3rd time is the charm. I thought about choosing the lesser of 2 evils: leave or stay and have my girls grow up thinking this is how they should be treated by their husbands tomorrow. I left. It is hard. I started a home based business and make 2x his salary. I am not seeing anyone, but I am nobody's punching bag either! My mother did not raise me to be put down or beat up by anyone! ↑ |
| Name: Alex | Date: Nov 5th, 2007 5:46 PM |
| I totally understand you, my husband and I have a business together I work everyday from 10 am to 9 pm in the business then of course I do everything laundary, dishes, cook, ALL we don't have kids he work in another compay and gets home around 7 or 8 of course he has his days off monday football, saturday golf, etc. I haven't had a day off sincer we open the business and this morning he asked me to do something and before I could even answer he shouted at me "Or don;'t do it and continue to be lazy all day" I got so mad I couldn't even answer him....I'm so thinking about getting a divorce!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: jody | Date: Nov 10th, 2007 4:27 AM |
To everyone who writes here. Yes all men are just complete
assholes. Use him for all you can while you can. If he is the type that won't keep a job, get rid of him now! He is worthless. For those women out there who want to bitch about their man, go ahead if it makes you feel better for now, but when he leaves, which all men do eventually, you'll quickly learn how lucky you were to have him when you are truly doing all the house work, taking care of kids all by yourself, working a job and trying to manage the mortgage and other bills by yourself. It's a lonely world out there for single mothers. Society even treats you differently. You will know the true meaning of loneliness when you sleep alone day after day after day. ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Nov 10th, 2007 4:32 PM |
| my husband is always calling me crazy in front of my kids says I need to be in a mental hospital after he has pushed me and pushed me I am not suppose to show emotion HE MAKES ME SO SO SO ANGRY and when I retaliate he tells my kids that I am a nut, sometimes I HAte him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: adela | Date: Nov 11th, 2007 10:46 PM |
| my husband is such an asshole he dosen't give me any money he dosen't care about me. its all about him & his friends, and the biggest cherry on top he dosen't have a JOB, and mother fucker comes home EVERYDAY for the past 6months @ 2-3 IN THE MORING. but fuck me with my everyday 9-5 . i really hate myself soo fucken much because i still stick the fuck around. i really hate myself ill be 23 in dec, and have no kids with this man why do i stick around? ↑ |
| Name: Jessica | Date: Nov 13th, 2007 5:23 PM |
| Today my husbans laid into me about there being no money in our acount. He was yelling at me and asking me where all our money goes. I pay the bills, I go shopping, I buy things that he needs, but he never looks at the account. He wants me to give him a play by play as to where the money has gone. I told him to screw off, threw the bank card at him and told him to do his own damn shopping. God what a jerk. ↑ |
| Name: Jennifer | Date: Nov 17th, 2007 2:47 PM |
My husband acts the same way! About the being tired part. Except I don't work. My husband acts like an Asshole all the time around me and to other family members and gets an attitude with them. After he's had a hard day teaching at School. We had argued so much at one point, we splitted up. For two days. When I came back I thought his attitude would change. Wrong! Recently for two weeks I had simply asked him I need pencils and paper for school I am close to being out. And he acted like he didn't want to go get them even though wal-mart was only two minutes away! I've asked him for two weeks to get these, and he says he can't remember to bring them from School. And now acts like he doesn't want to get them. My church's retreat is coming up, and it took him about a month just to give the money to my choir director and even then he complains about giving me the money then.
What should I do when a husband doesn't want to provide? Is there
anything I can sign up for? Welfare, etc? Tuition?
Jennifer
age 28
p.s. I don't think we should have kids if he can't even support me! ↑ |
| Name: Maria | Date: Nov 17th, 2007 6:37 PM |
| Who made the rule that the man has to provide? Don't you get married because you love him because of him and not his wallet. Try having kids with a husband that stays at home and gets to do whatever he wants. He tells you what you can and cannot do along with how much you can and cannot spend while you are the one bringing in all the money. Then when you come home he gets to go out with his friends and stays out till whenever and doesn't answer his phone. If you don't have any kids get counseling before you do. If that doesn't work be happy you don't have kids and leave for good. As for me what happens when you think you have fallen out of love? ↑ |
| Name: Nadia | Date: Nov 18th, 2007 10:04 PM |
| Ya I hear you!!! My husband is such an asshole...... He says all i do during the day is go around and around and never accomplish anything! I take care of our 9 month old, I clean, do laundry, go shopping, make dinner etc etc etc. I also work part-time... He works from home and is never usually that busy.... It's garbage day tomorrow and we are overflowing.... He can't even get that organized! Sometimes I just want to shake him! ↑ |
| Name: traci | Date: Nov 22nd, 2007 8:52 AM |
| Men are ass holes, I know. I am 24 years old and I am getting my 1st divorce after my third child is born. He was very abusive and such an ass hole. Didn't care about me or the kids. Now, I don't have to put him with him and I can tell him to leave. But, we do get along much better now after months of being part compared being married for 4 years. So, if hes not going to help do it on ur own. I know its scary, but its worth it. Trust me. ↑ |
| Name: mizdaizy | Date: Nov 25th, 2007 12:05 AM |
| i say they are all no good sob:s and if they can send a man to the moon , why not send them all ↑ |
| Name: nicole | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 1:56 PM |
| bastard stole my cell phone for no reason but his own insecurities, threw it in a construction site on his way to work. Hours later some construction guy found it and brought it back to my house. So I cut holes in his underwear. I figured if he wanted to have big balls they should be cold and cut the ends of his socks so his feet could join is balls. I've been putting up with his shit and his families for years. just about time to go I'd say. I have 2 children one that has been sick and on chemo for the last 3 years. I lost my job because of it that's ok I wouldn't have it any other way, But I love that because I bring in no income now if I buy him something he commented I guess I bought myself those jeans. Asshole all of them. ↑ |
| Name: Tiffany | Date: Dec 23rd, 2007 2:44 PM |
| I googled "my husband is an asshole" and this forum popped up. haha! my husband is an asshole b/c I asked him not to do something, and goes ahead and does it anyway. Then when I get pissed he said I over react and get pissed over stupid stuff. If it is so stupid, just don't do it!!!!! Like his life with me is SOOOO hard. Oh please! He is such a baby. ↑ |
| Name: lilsmum | Date: Dec 27th, 2007 12:25 AM |
| my husband is the same i go to work at a daycare centre come home look after our two year old clean the house and he says whats for dinner like ive been thinking about prepairing a feast since lunch ↑ |
| Name: Melanie Ross | Date: Dec 27th, 2007 7:10 PM |
| Yes, My man is such a dick!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Mandi | Date: Dec 27th, 2007 9:03 PM |
Stop ironing his clothes, making coffee, fixing dinner, etc...then simply explain to him that you work too and that you are so exhausted that you can't do it.
We are expecting our first child and my husband is mad right now because I want him to move the furniture around in the nursery. He is such an ass. I would get in there and do it my self, however, I am 7.5 months pregnant. I will end up getting family members to do it, which will also piss him off. It's a "no win" situation. ↑ |
| Name: Angry too | Date: Dec 28th, 2007 9:00 PM |
Wow :)
I just read this entire string of replies...I too Googled 'Husband is an asshole' and landed here. Some of these stories make me feel like I don't have it all that bad. Some of them make me really sad for other people.
Sometimes I wish my husband would just evaporate...truly. I am eight weeks pregnant and we've had it pretty good the past few years but have just recently moved and for some reason it's all just falling apart. I feel angry all the time, I have no patience for him (He's super insecure and always asking stupid questions about things from my past, like he can't get over the fact that I had a life even though we're married 2.5 yrs. He used to be SO terrible, accusing me outright of staring at guys or going on the balcony to 'show my legs' - worse, even, but I 'helped him through it'.)
Anyway, because of his jealous behavior I now have no friends anymore and when I do get emails or calls (rarely) he asks who it is and what we said. RIDICULOUS.
He says 'It's your fault because you're pretty' Whatever.
So now we're pregnant and we were so happy and excited but because I have all this resentment from the insecurity issues and the way he treated me we are seeing a counselor for MY anger issues. And I've started trying to go into another room when I'm angry so that we don't fight.
Today I did that and I was in here crying and crying and he knows not to come after me but he does anyway once I get quiet and you know what he says when I was stupid enough to answer the door? "Who are you talking to on the phone?" I wasn't on the phone!!! So I tell him so and lay down and tell him to get out and he gets all pissed off and tells me "I'm going to leave you one day!" (His new favorite line. My response? "DO ME THE FAVOR!"
The thing is, when he's sweet he's the best - does things for me that no one else would ever even imagine doing for their wife. I just don't get it.
The reason we were arguing today is because I'm starting to get a bit freaked out about money. We own a business together and work from home. He has been working less and less and kind of dropped the ball on a few projects and we just bought a car and then this baby is coming. I want to feel safe, I want to feel secure. And I tell him straight up I'm not feeling good about it. He looks at me and says 'I'm working right now' but I tell him what I need is CONVERSATION, some reassurance, some kind words and he says again 'I'm working.'
It sounds petty now that I'm writing it, but it just hurts me so much that I can literally spell out that I need some emotional support and he basically says 'No.' I point out to him that it doesn't matter how I ask for what I need, I can scream, or cry, or talk like a normal person - he basically won't give me what I ask for as long as I'm straight out asking for it.
My husband is an asshole.
Funny thing, he hates being called that name. But he is. My husband is a whiney baby prick of an asshole. ↑ |
| Name: LULU | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 4:36 PM |
| my husband is the same way. we have a 8month and 3year old. My schedule use to be up at 3am work by 6am home at 2;23PM take care of kids cook clean. Know its Up at 12pm take care of kids cook clean (really tierd cuase of change) work by 10pm home at 6am sleep by 7am. My husband yells at saying why u so tierd "i do all the work",,,,NOT..... ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: Dec 31st, 2007 9:27 PM |
| Oh yes, my husband, too, is an asshole!! I feel for every single one of us who have posted on here! Mind you, I have been married to him for 18 years, but sometimes he is such an asshole. For example, my 16 year old daughter has an 18 year old boyfriend and they are very happy. My husband doesn't like him and thinks he is a "wolf in sheep's clothing." Her boyfriend is the nicest guy and we talk all the time, so I know him pretty well (and have know him since he was 8). So every time he is over, my husband is an asshole and doesn't say anything and acts all grouchy. It pisses me off so bad! And tonight, New Year's Eve, I thought it would be fun. Well, nope, my husband started his asshole behavior when her boyfriend walked through the door. A.H. (asshole husband) says he's over too much and doesn't like me giving him rides here and there (long story, but he doesn't have the money to register his car yet). He complains about gas money, you name it, he complains about it. So anyway, he can spend the whole night by his asshole self as far as I'm concerned. ↑ |
| Name: LeeAnn | Date: Jan 1st, 2008 2:03 AM |
| My husband is a grade A asshole too. Whenever he has to watch after our son he calls it 'baby sitting' and complains that he has been 'cooped up with our 6 years old for two weeks now'. I point out to him that unless he feels I cheated on him, minding your own son is not called babysiting, it is called being a Dad! He says I don't do anything also- I have a business and it is also a desk job- he figures it is crap- so he saves the laundry, housecleaning and anything you please for me to do when I get home. Sometimes I work 10 hours and he has been home all day- the house is a pigsty, and everything is waiting for me to do- he ontop of it all expects me to go get take out - Some men are inconsiderate idiots- ↑ |
| Name: Wanna Leave | Date: Jan 1st, 2008 12:24 PM |
| My husband has no financial responsibility. I saw a check withdrawl on my bank statement and I asked, "Did you take $100 dollars out of the bank?" He stood up straight and gave me his cold power stare and yelled," No I didn't take anything out of the bank!" I just asked you, I replied. I didn't like your tone. Excuse me? I can' t even ask you a question? No you didn't ask me, you accused me. With his finger in my face. No I didn't. You fucken accused me, I don't even know where the bank is. I said "what? you do to, you've made payments there. He gave the up to my face, less than an inch from my face and said to me, You need to learn how to communicate! "I work in the communication field and you work in construction you need to learn how to communicate and stick with the conversation." Needless to say it got worse from there. This is a usual occurance in this sad home. He is a hot head and then he tries to have "relations" I can't stand it! ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Jan 1st, 2008 9:47 PM |
| My husband and I both work full time, and have two daughters age two and a half and 9 months. We leave for work at seven (thank goodness I talked him into a nanny coming to our home), and get home around five thirty to six. I feel extremely guilty when I get home. The two year old jumps into my arms, and the nine month old starts reaching for me. He tells me that I should ALWAYS take off my work clothes immediately, as the dry cleaning is expensive. And yet, with both of them grabbing for me, how can I? I usually hold them, ask pertinent questions of the nanny, start dinner, and around eight have time to change. Sure as can be, there is something on my clothes (spit up or dinner). After cleaning up the dishes, he informs me that he has done half of the work, and it is "my turn" to put the kids to bed. As I work more weekends, he "bears the brunt" of watching them, and therefore I shouldn't get to EVER go out with my girlfriends. He seriously needs to see what i do, but I don't think he ever will. What do I do? ↑ |
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