| Name: Jess84 | Date: Feb 20th, 2008 11:00 PM |
Hi Stephanie,
I know exactly how you feel. I work a 5 day week and so does here and yes I have a desk job and he has a labour job, but I don't think it is any different. Last night we were in bed, and he was still awake - our son woke up and instead of just letting me sleep, he nudged and nudged me until I woke up and he said "Honey, the little boy is awake????" I was like well Honey get up and get him and let me go back to sleep since you were awake!!! I think men in general, people may disagree, but they just don't get it sometimes, no matter what they are always going to be worse off then us. I really don't know what to say to solve the situation as I have the same problem. It is just a male thing I think!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: Feb 21st, 2008 9:29 PM |
| So my husband has the nerve to ask me to do the laundry even though he freakin' get three days off in a row, yea THREE DAYS!!!!! and when I ask him to help me with dishes he gives me the look of DEATH. Mind you I AM THE ONE who cooks the least he can do is Wash the dishes. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR HAaaa i feel so much better now =) ↑ |
| Name: tina | Date: Feb 21st, 2008 9:52 PM |
| aren't they ALL assholes??? mine is too! ↑ |
| Name: Sue | Date: Feb 21st, 2008 11:49 PM |
| Well your not alone I cant write right now because mine is home but my husband is an ass too!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: cocoyo | Date: Feb 25th, 2008 1:57 AM |
| To all single ladies friends, I always tell them, choose the right life partner, half your life is less hectic. Choose the wrong life partner, it'll bring out the worst in you! Finding competent life partner is so important. To all unavailable ladies friends, I try motivate them (and reminding myself) PROVERBS 31. I read this book The Power of a Praying Wife (Stormie Omartian) and Streams In The Desert (L.B. Cowman Edited by James Reimann). They are my companion! ↑ |
| Name: momof1girl | Date: Feb 26th, 2008 12:31 PM |
| Hello, I'm new here. I did a search for asshole husbands through Google, and it led me to this site. I've heard all the things that have been said on here. I also work a desk job, and am told it's not as important as my husband's job!!!! He sits on his ass while I get in the door with my daughter and have to cook supper for everyone, take care of the dogs, and then also take care of my dad who has terminal cancer. My daughter had strep throat over the weekend, and we kept her home from daycare. Well, AHOLE husband knows I'm taking another day off to let her get some more rest and more medicine. She's 3 years old, and I get....you're starting a habitual habit in letting her stay home from school...you know there are attendance records in Kindergarden............URGH.........like I'm a MORON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He's the BIGGEST ASSHOLE EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There, I feel better. I'd like to blog about it, but he'd see it on my page!!!!! Thanks for listening! ↑ |
| Name: ASHLEY L | Date: Feb 26th, 2008 12:51 PM |
HEY GURL I KNO WUT U MEAN.......
MY HUSBAND B SLEEPIN MOST THE TYME WHILE I OUT MY STEP-DAUGHTER TO BED....
HE ALWAYS THINK I SHOULD COOK N CLEAN N TAKE CARE OF HIM N HIS DAUGHTER N B PREGNANT....
I SAY PUT A COLD SHOULDER ON HIM...
IGNORE HIM...
STOP DOIN THINGS FOR HIM...
TRUST ME HE WILL COME AROUND LYKE THAT ↑ |
| Name: TNT | Date: Mar 2nd, 2008 12:28 PM |
Ladies-
I keep asking my self...why do we need them??? I haven't come up with a good reason yet. If anyone has one--please let me know! ↑ |
| Name: jaclyn | Date: Mar 6th, 2008 7:14 PM |
| my husband is an asshole too. he expects me to clean the house everyday, even though i work, 7:30 am to 6 pretty much every day. and on my day off he wants me to wake up with him and steam his clothes for him. but if i ask him (even if its at 9 in the morning) to help me get our son dressed, he will say "im exhausted, cant you do it?" grrrr! and today, i was going tothe bathroom and he answered my phone and got mad when i didn't want to talk while i was going to the bathroom! he also imolies that i should clean more because i don't make enough money. ↑ |
| Name: raven | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 8:39 PM |
this feels so good to et opff my chest. my husband is such an asshole bc, he alwasy has to prove how much of a ma he is and how no one matters but him. and he thinks he knows it all but doesnt know a dame thing.
He ask for sex like i am soem kind of hooker and gets mad when i dont response. I tell you if it wasnt for wanting children i would do away with men bc they are such idiots and so stupid ...i can not stand them they are so stupid. oh my god........i can honestly say i dont even need him for sex.. ↑ |
| Name: raven | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 8:42 PM |
| i still dont know why we need them...may for money ?????????? i was wondering what was god thinking by making them first.... o wait i get it ...he realized how stupid they are and realized that they would f k up everything and then thats when we were made ↑ |
| Name: marcia | Date: Mar 12th, 2008 1:01 AM |
| my husband is such an asshole too! I know how you feel completely. He does the same dumb stuff, Arrgh! ↑ |
| Name: kate | Date: Mar 15th, 2008 1:34 AM |
| Name: linda | Date: Mar 15th, 2008 8:17 PM |
| I was working 12 hour night shifts in the ICU at a trauma hospital (I'm an RN) .. one day I said to my husband that I was tired in the afternoon and was going to take a nap ( we also had a 3 yr old son that I did most of the care for) my husband said ... why are you so tired "at work all you have to do is stay awake at night" by the way he only works 24 hours a week (yes that's 3 days a week. ↑ |
| Name: jeni | Date: Mar 23rd, 2008 12:34 PM |
| i have the same problem it has alot to do with you just simply being a women..i have a full time job 24/7 work -daycare-dinner-baths-homework-shower-bed do it again!! oh wait dont forget to suck your mans dick and yeah and then maybe you better work out so he doesnt go fuck some other bitch that doesnt have to do everything in the house and work and yeah omg and hey you all dont forget that we have kids and need to take care of them and all that goes with them ...now thank god we're women and we made that wonderful choice to get married and have kids and then have to a career!!! jus tthank god. ↑ |
| Name: Lana | Date: Apr 3rd, 2008 7:27 AM |
| Tell me about it!!! MY husband is an asshole. We have a 2yr old son and a 6 month old daughter. We BOTH work full time, but I have to get the kids ready before work I drop them off, I pick them up, I cook dinner every night, while I look after my son in the kitchen, because my husband is too lazy too look after him because he's too busy watching tv or has to go outside for a smoke. I stay up at night looking after our daughter, she is teething and can be up most of the night, my husaband never ever gets up for her, because it's a woman's job! On the weekends he sleeps in until noon or past one o'clock. I was sick last weekend and asked him to get up and look after the kids, and he said he didn't believe I was sick, I just wanted to have a sleep in. Mind you I was on antibiotics and perscription eye drops. Sometimes I want to leave him but we have a mortgage together and I dnt want to lose the house because my parents lent us the deposit. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Apr 3rd, 2008 5:59 PM |
| I've done this before to my DH. When you get home with the kids, as soon as DH walks through the door, grab your keys and say, "I'll be back at 9," or whatever time you think you'll be back. Don't make dinner, and turn your cell phone off once you are in your car. Leave right then and don't sit around to start a fight. JUST GO!! Him and your 2 yr old will survive for one night without dinner, and it will give you a chance to have some alone time. Most likely, he'll get hungry and order pizza. Sounds like you need a bit more of a back bone. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Shell | Date: Apr 6th, 2008 8:41 PM |
| OMG!! My husband does the same thing as all the rest! We have 4 kids and I am pregnant again he works 10 hour shifts so I pick up all the slack during the week but on his days off NOTHING!!!!!! He sits on his rump and watches tv or naps. I told him he never does anything with the kids. His idea is watching them play while he lays on the couch. No football with the older ones no playtime with the younger ones. Even when he is home the kids always come to me for help with everything, mom so and so did this can i do this etc. I tell them go ask your dad he is right in front of you. The problem he just ignores them. Oh and he is always soooo tired all the time. What about me Im stressed and pregnant and sleep with our 1 year old I never get sleep AAAAGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Anonymous | Date: Apr 9th, 2008 4:51 PM |
| Oh, thats not bad at all. I raise my husbands four children from a previous marriage, put up with his bitch ex-wife, go to school full time, cook, clean, do laundry, etc. He tells me all the time that I'm a worthless bitch and I can leave whenever then he begs me to take him back. Not only that only 6 months after we were married he cheated on me and got another girl pregnant. I hate him, yet I can't seem to stop loving him. I'm not a stupid woman but boy do I sound like it. My husband is such an asshole!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: jeni | Date: Apr 15th, 2008 7:22 PM |
| well after reading that last post i'm thinking geeesh fuck love leave as fast as you can !!! this is my latest onmy asshole husband-as i said before i have a full time job 3 kids and all that goes with it i come home tonight and guess what my husband says i'm going to a friends to burn cd's sounds okay right well.... here yesterday i wentand g tmy eyebrows done got home about 45 minutes later then norm my husband says wtf is for dinner well rather i calle dhim and he said via my cell anyway i'm like huh he's like well you have to pick something up its to late for you to make dinner now ...okay i get home today and the house is loud and crazy he's sittin ghis ass on here fucking off on utube the kids are watching tv **sniff*sniff* what that i DONT FUCKING smell dinner lol yup he gets to run off and i am so tireddddddd and yup i'm making dinner getting the homework done and makign sure everyone is smelling good for the next fucking day....mmmmmm grrrr thanx for letting me vent.. i 'll be looking forward towards all your comments and post i fucking love this place!!!! and yes yes my husbands and asshole. ↑ |
| Name: FED UP | Date: Apr 18th, 2008 2:31 AM |
| To "in the same boat": I've been married to my husband for 15yrs now. I did the same as you, make a list. But my list was all the things I wasn't allowed to do (be irritable, be pms-y, be opinionated, be excited, be rested, be happy, etc.). I also had another list of things he expected of me (take care of the house, our son, etc.). He told me a woman's place is in the house. I didn't work the first 3 yrs of our marriage bec he wanted me to take care of the house and our son while he continued to chop away my self-esteem. Circumstances forced me to go back to work. Doing so made me realize what a stupid woman I was to LET him "destroy" my self worth. It took me almost 5yrs to restore what he took away in the first year of our marriage. Fast forward to now. My current issue with him is that he blames me for not getting a large pay increase at my job. We fight frequently now bec our financial situation is getting worst. Well let's see...he doesn't work (he's retired military) but getting pension. But I work full-time, manage our online business, take care of the household stuff, take care of our now teenage son. And just so I can get that pay increase, I started going to online school part-time. My work is an hour commute (2hrs roundtrip) on the days I drive in (I am able to work remotely when I have to). When I arrive home he expects me to make dinner, etc. (but how's that when I have school). Today he trashed my home office bec he was annoyed that I was "always on the computer". OMG! I was working remotely (I work in a computer company) and I was also attending my online class. He trashed my home office and caused me to miss my meeting...a meeting that was critical toward getting my a promotion...THE promotion that HE wanted me to have so we can have more money...a promotion that i'm working hard only for HIM and my son. So that's the thanks I get for putting him first. Then to top it all off he said I "was just thinking of myself". Incredible! If I was thinking of myself, I would've quit my job a long time ago to take care of my health. And I do this despite my rheumatoid arthritis, a damaged left elbow and barely mobile right wrist. I'm in physical pain and swollen (from my rheumatoid arthritis and over working on the computer)...and I do this for HIM! Who's the "selfish" one? ↑ |
| Name: FED UP | Date: Apr 18th, 2008 2:47 AM |
| To Lana: I know how you feel. I too want to leave my husband. I actually set a deadline -- when our son turns 16yrs old. Our son is 14yrs old now and i'm counting the days. I know that my marriage is over. It was over the first time we ever argued (which was the first year of our marriage) and he threatened divorce. Looking back, I wish I had said "sure! let's annul this farce of a marriage". I had hoped he would change for the better as I waited for our son to grow up. He's worse now. He doesn't respect me as a person or who I am. H e trashed my home office today (see previous post for details). It was basically like slapping me in the face. In our 15yrs of marriage, I've begged him for us to go to counseling. He told me that I am the one who needs counseling not him. Life is short and I want to be happy -- for once -- before I get old. ↑ |
| Name: FED UP | Date: Apr 18th, 2008 2:58 AM |
| To cocoyo: You are right telling the singles ladies to choose wisely. There IS hope. My inspiration is my friend. She's gone through 2 previously physically abusive marriages. She had one child with each marriage. In the delivery room with her 1st child, her husband at the time was screwing with his mistress instead of taking her to the hospital and being there. She was beaten and thrown about by her then 2nd husband while pregnant. 4 months after leaving her 2nd husband, she met her present husband. 3rd time was a charm for her. Her present husband worships her and is basically her slave. He loves her 2 older kids (from her previous marriages). He takes them to their sports practices, plays sports with them, etc. And he takes care of their 3rd old daughter. ↑ |
| Name: jeni | Date: Apr 19th, 2008 3:27 PM |
| man here we go again right!!! i could vent here everydamm day ...my husband is off with his friends while once again i'm at home with the kids.. to be honest i dont mind spending time with my kids thats why i have them to enjoy and be involved in thier life he however had them because he forgot to pull out in time and damm lets try it again cause they are so fun right....well funt o make but dont ask him to help when it's a baby ....ugh i dont want to bitch anymore i believe it's time for action .............................. ↑ |
| Name: anoyhm | Date: Apr 26th, 2008 3:02 PM |
MEN,.... they are like kids really.
my husband? has just told me he wants out and wants me out in 6 weeks and can takehis 5 month old and 6 year old with me.
he has been a shit and not being nice i thought he was under stress with work and have made a big effort to be nice but he has someone else i found out yesterday. what sort of guy walks out on a 5 month old we have been together for 11 years and built a business together. itook the kids house hunting today checked the job adds and he went to join the gym and meet someone in town. think i'm going to turn lesbian. ↑ |
| Name: parker | Date: Apr 27th, 2008 6:15 AM |
| Hey girls, got an idea let's have the men switch spots for a week. they do our jobs at work during the day, then they take care of the kids , cook, clean, etc. I'm married with 2 kids, my youngest is special needs, I work full time in a factory my husband works afternoons. Let's see how the guys do in our spots. ↑ |
| Name: parker | Date: Apr 27th, 2008 6:18 AM |
| anyom, why are you looking for a house? ↑ |
| Name: JENI | Date: Apr 27th, 2008 10:48 AM |
| I'M AN INSURANCE AGENT AND I KNOW MY HUSBAND WOULD COMPLETLY DROWN IF HE TRIED TO DO MY JOB.BY THE END OF MY DAY THAT INCLUDES THE COMING HOME DAYCAR DINNER HOMEWORK BATHS TUCKING IN SING SONGS READING BOOKS I HAVE TO GET ON THE TREADMILL I THINK I HAVE A TOTAL OF 10 MINUTES BEFORE I HAVE TO GO TO BED AND START OVER HOWEVER MY HUSBAND IS SITTING ON THE COUCH DRINKING A BEER WATCHING MY LIFE HAPPEN ...YEAH THERES NO WAY HE WOUDL MAKE IT A FUCKING DAY IN THE LIFE OF HIS WIFE...... ↑ |
| Name: NadiaG | Date: May 4th, 2008 5:02 PM |
| Wow,Thats hectic babe. Sometimes men can b such assholes! I have bn married for 7years, have a daugta of 6. We said we'd hav anotha baby but somethn always came up. A few weeks ago i discoverd im pregnant. He was furious! I said it done, it happend. He said "wel we gota undo it! ↑ |
| Name: Sick of this Pr*k | Date: May 4th, 2008 8:12 PM |
Been married almost 8 years. 3 kids. Stay at home mom. So, I get to work in the same 4 walls all day -AND NIGHT- day in, day out, 7 days a week, repeat. I said to myself, f**k this, I am not doing s**t for one week. I didn't tell my husband's lazy ass this. So, I am sitting around all day, doing NOTHING. My husband of course doesn't notice. By day 3, clothes are piled up to the ceiling needing washing. Dishes overflowing in the sink. Crap all over the house. Now, today, day 7, I lost it. I was like, you have been around all day and you have done NOTHING. He says -wait for it- well you haven't done anything all day either. He is right. But, he still doesn't notice WHY I haven't done anything. So, I tell his ass, I purposely haven't done anything for a week to see if you would take the initiative to pick up the slack. He is like DUH. Then he said oh he was going to clean up, he just hadn't gotten to it yet. Don't you ladies love that excuse? Then I said, if you had any respect for the amount of work I do, or me as your wife, you would have thought, let me clean up for my wife so she doesn't have to do it yet again. No, not him. Fu****g lazy cock*****r. He then says that he vacuumed the hall. Well woopdy freaking do. I said, would you bring your boss over here with the house like this? He shut his trap then. Damn right he wouldn't. But, it's ok for his kids and wife to live in the mess. When I am on "duty" I am going from the moment I wake up til I go to sleep. He works a nine hour shift 4 days a week. At night. At a call center. And it's piss easy. He sits on his fat lazy ass, and answers a few calls an hour. He gets a break. He gets to fu*k around and play on the computer at work between calls, and talk to his friends/coworkers. I barely get to leave the house, because there is so much to clean.
I am so furious right now. Stay at home moms get no respect. We do every job under the sun, clean, cook, wash, dust, iron, take care of kids, chauffeur, etc. If I worked as a maid at a hotel, I would get more respect from my asshole husband because he would view that as work, even though I do more than just maid service at home all day. Then, I work into the night.
I hate him.
The end. ↑ |
| Name: anonymous | Date: May 10th, 2008 8:12 PM |
| It's me again. I'm the one with four step children whom I love dearly but I hate their father. We have only been married for a year and a half and together for six. He just punched me in the face and put my tooth through my lip because I didn't want to go to a party at 2 in the afternoon. I was studying for my nursing finals and he came back from a softball tournament (his true love) drunk and started calling me a boring never want to have fun cunt. I said I am going to nursing school so we will have a better life and my finals are tomorrow. He told me that it wasn't important and I was a worthless bitch so I slapped him. Then he punched me and knocked me out. The kids aren't home thank god. My tooth has gone through my face and won't stop bleeding. After I was done crying and shaking trying to decide what to do I went to find my keys(can't find them) to leave and he is passed out on the couch like nothing happened. No apology. nothing. He doesn't love me he just wants me to be his slave and god forbid I don't do what he wants me to. I have no friends anymore because of him.. I don't know what to do. Alls I know is my face hurts and I have a nursing interview on tuesday.. I guess I will tell them I got hit in the face with a softball. I just hate myself. I used to be a strong woman now I am hiding in out in our guest room dredding the moment he wakes up. I wish I was rich and could leave his dumb wife beating ass. ↑ |
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