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| Name: deest | Date: Mar 27th, 2006 10:32 PM |
| try i village they have alot of schudeles and stuff like that good luck and good for you working going to school and being a mom most women would just live on welfare, while they go to school or think it is to hard to betteryourself well the ones i know thanks for for being like that i was begining to think there wasnt many of us left ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 5:46 PM |
| Thanks for the reply...I will surely go there... I know many people with children that depend on Welfare.I heard a lady on the radio that had 3 kids and gave 2 to the father and 1 up to adoption because she said she didn't want to be on Welfare. I was hurt and then again happy that I am a real mom, working hard doing tech support, and getting my bacholors at Devry... It's hard but all so worth it. I am looking to buy my first home in 2 years. ↑ |
| Name: skelley | Date: Apr 5th, 2006 11:26 AM |
| I have five children and can give you alot of adivce. You need to take care of your kids, and worry about college later. Why did you decide to try and do all these things at once. Your twins and son need you now! When they are school age you can go to college or work while there at school. Put these off for just 2 more years, spend time with your family and there will be plenty of time for everthing else. When your nine year old comes home you'll be more relaxed and he'll feel less stressed. No person can do this many activities and stay stress free! You will never be able to fit all these things in! ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 6th, 2006 9:44 PM |
| Maybe you are right but thus far I am maintaining a b average in school just got a promotion at (Client Technical Analyst) and my children and I spend quite a bit of time together. I just can't get my laundry done, or baths in, dinner cooked. I go to school online so I am normally up in the middle of the night doing homework. If I stop going to school I will lose my job. My job requires a degree and making close to 40K a year, I don't want to lose that. I am just unorganized. Almost got it though! ↑ |
| Name: Diana | Date: Apr 7th, 2006 1:03 PM |
| WOW! I commend you. I have only one child, go to work and college. I have kept a 3.0+ average. I did it to better my life and my families. Hats off to you and anyone else that desides to go back to college. It is very scary. Way to go. Good luck in your degree, family adn what ever you decide to do. ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 7th, 2006 5:50 PM |
| Thanks Diana, I am a mother that loves the term success and I am trying to accomplish that in every way. But I am tired, but have to keep going... Good luck to you too! ↑ |
| Name: Holly | Date: Apr 9th, 2006 3:22 PM |
| For starters I would lay down a mandatory 8:00pm bedtime for ALL children.Give baths from 6:30-7:30. Have supper at 4:00 and kitchen cleaned by 5:30. When kids are in bed throw in laundry and start homework you should be finished with laundry and homework by 11:30 -12am.Kids can play alone while your cleaning up kitchen and your playtime with them can be on non-bath nights and the short time after baths on bath night . Then on week-ends they can stay up til 10 and you can spend more time with them. ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 9th, 2006 3:41 PM |
| Thanks Holly, I dont know how to get them to bed at 8pm. I have the dinner and playtime in order. I give them until 8:30 to stay up because we get home at 5:30p. I put them to bed and they get up. I find them up with me until midnight and then they are cranky in the morning. Yelling dont or spanking keep them laying down. ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Cheryl | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 10:32 PM |
| I make all the weeks meals on the week ends and frezz them. I also set the cloths out that they will wear the night before. It helps with the time.. I even did it for myself too. You could slowly start getting the kids to bed 1/2 hour before the normal time When they get up put them right back to bed. This will take some time but eventually they get the idea.being up untill midnight is not go for them or you. I have seen the gold star ofr the day method work if they help you and go to bed on time. You could explian that they are grupy in the morning because they are not getting the sleep they need and you need the sleep too. IMy Mom use to have us run arountd the house or she would go to a park with a big hill she would watch and we would run up and down it after a ball ...just play actively. Then after bath we went to bed exhaused. ( I would tape the show the Nanny) she has so helpful hints. I am really so impress by all you do. You should be proud of yourself too! I wish I could do more I am disabled and can not do much due to a back injury and surgery 2 yrs ago. I miss all the things I us to do. GODD LUCK & may you find a way to cope!! ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 11th, 2006 12:23 PM |
| Thanks Serina and my regards go out to you! That is good advice and yes I will start to stick to a schedule and get meals done on the weekend and laundry done as well on Fridays. Regarding bedtime yes it will take time and I get so mad when they get up. I just may start letting them go outdoors before bedtime to tire them. What if I am missing a chore in the home their is always cleaning to do. I am so tired! ↑ |
| Name: to Cherylcd forn Serina | Date: Apr 11th, 2006 12:56 PM |
| May be you could get the kids to pitch in with the house work make it fun like with music? The coulsd take turns vaccuming. the 3 year old could out toys away . I would not worry so much about having a sparkling clean home.When you get more time maybe. Aas long as it is basically clean that is all you need to do. Alittle dust and a few toys out of place is no big deal. Do not stress. A clean house is the least of your worries. ( hint - use paper plates and plastic forks they have them at most dollar stores) Saves you from doing a lot of dishes. I had an idea ... a freind of mine barters for help. Ssuch as: she will take your kids for a few hours or even over night If you will help her clean house. She alos gets her air cut by a hairdresses she barters with.She does it throgh her church... Just a thought. You could even ask any mothers at work if they would be intested in bartering. Only thing is make sure you set dates for helping each other or some one might take advantage. I am sure you are tired you do so much my just keep in mind how great your furture will be and in turn how great an example you are to you kids and all that have read your story. Hope this helps. ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Cherly | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 7:50 AM |
| I know you must be tired all the time with all you have to do. Just make sure you are taking care of youself too. Eat right & if you can't take vitamins. With all you have on your plate you can not afford to get sick. Please keep the faith that you are doing your best & that is pleanty. Ask friends\family for help. I hope you are well, ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 2:24 PM |
| It's funny that you say that I because my boss is sending me home because I am in so much pain. I have to have a colonscopy done because I don't move my bowels and I don't have time to be sick or go to the doctor. I do eat right and eat a lot of fiber but I still cannot go(bowels locked). Anyways I don't have family...My family thinks the best way of living is on Welfare or taking hands outs...I don't. Also I would post if I had family. I have a mom and wish she was able to talk to me or a least had their dad around but thats not the case... My mom acts like she is jealous the way she always say I should do more. I tell her I am doing too much now. So I haven't talked to her in a while. I just asked her to watch my kids while I have the procedure and she said I am busy call me later. Anyways, I don't buy anything with sugar nor do I give my kids junk food. ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Cherylcd | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 3:03 PM |
| Sorry, to hear you are not well. When I had that problen I was in the hospital and they gave me warm prune juice ... I know gross but It truley helped me.Now I eat 4 pruns a day that seem to help me but everyone is diffrent. I think it is great that you keep you and the kids off sugar.It is hard to do and I really commend you for it.I have a had time doing the same. I have two step kids and their mother gives them nothing but junk food. I try and do my best here. My Step son will not eat any veggies unless I blend them untill they are almost waterey and put them in to Sause or what ever we are having so he will not know. He is 14 and bipolar. My Step daughter is 12 and loves most veggies.We go out once in a while for a fat free sugar free soft ice cream cone but that is it Ido not want to have soda or sweets in this house. .BUT... My Husband is trying to keep the sodas out of the house but he has a hard time becuase he loves it.I wish I could do all the shoppong but I can not due to my back injury. So it is up to him to pick healthy food for the kids & us.He is realy trying I must say. I am sorry about your family . They should be proud of you but if they can not not be due to theier mind set, PLease be are very proud of youself!!! You are a great person and I think you are someone who should be Proud!! I hope you take care of you!! All my best ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Cheryl cd | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 7:42 PM |
| Sorry for the typos I cwas up all night from back pain. I had my step daughter all day yeaterday and today. I have been doing more than I should and realy am paying for it now. I just took her a park both days but the walking just kills me.Well what realy matters is that she haad fun adn laughted a ton. She sure is a very great kid. I could not love her more if she were my ouwn daughter. The kids had off this week and my step son ( bipolar) is not having a good week and The ex works So... My Step D would have to be alone with eher bother ... Not a good idea. He gets very violent on bad days. I offered to take her. We have fun 97% of the time she is 12 trying to be 21. Thas kids today I guess, My best ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Cheryl | Date: Apr 15th, 2006 10:03 PM |
| Hope you are feeling better!! Have not heard from you in a few days. Just checking in. All my best ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 15th, 2006 10:08 PM |
| Hi Serina, I have been stomach sick the last few days and just got home from the hospital. I am just catching up with homework and housework and dinner for Sunday and also getting ready for the new week. Hopefully I will be prepared. May I ask how old are you? ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Cheryl | Date: Apr 16th, 2006 8:59 AM |
| How did the colonscopy go? Is that why you were in the Hospital? I am so sorry you are not feling your best ! Did the kids stay with friends? I am so sorry that you have so much on your plate.I would not worry so much about the house work right now unless you do not have any clean things to wear. It can wait untill you feel better! I know that the homework can not wait unless the teachers give you an extention.( May be you could ask for one?) I have found that when I tell my age people stop taking to me because I am a good deal older than most folks on the chat rooms.I hope you do not mind but I would rather not say by how much. I really do enjoy this site and like talking to you especally! I am married 1st time for 2 years my husband has 2 kids 1 boy he is bipolar ans 1 daughter that is 12. He was my best friend for many year. When he married I was at the wedding . He was only married for a short time.( his son is actually not his he was 2 when they married.) We remained friend for years after he got the big D. Then we had not seen each other in about a year and I gave him a call and we got together for a meal. As soon as I saw him everthing was diffrent I did not see him as just my dear friend but a good looking man by the time the night was done we had pur first kiss. We were hooked after that.We have beed married for a few years I have helpped with my friends kids and scheduals and also my sisters.I have always had kids in my life and am a God mother for 5 kids now. Schdualing is my fote` I use to go in to companies and help orgainize them so I take the same concept with raising kids. It is much harder to keep it a schedual when it has to do with kids but we try. I understand if you would rather talk to some one your age but I do hHope to hear from you soon Anyway Be well and Please take care, ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Cheryl | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 9:19 AM |
| Hope you were able to get some rest and are feeling better. Happy Hoilday! God bless ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 6:17 PM |
| Hope you are ok and are feeling better. Let me know when you can. I wish you well and pray that you are gettting some rest. Please try not to get too worried over the house work as my mother always says ( It will always be there!) Just do what you can. No on ever said they wish they cleaned more , whenthey talk about their life. Welll take care of you!! ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Apr 19th, 2006 7:11 PM |
| Wow you are an powerhouse . Way too cool. Hard working chick! ↑ |
| Name: hi | Date: Apr 19th, 2006 10:17 PM |
| Slepp!!! ↑ |
| Name: Keep it up | Date: Apr 20th, 2006 9:17 PM |
| You can do it!!! ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 21st, 2006 6:10 PM |
| Thank you all for your support. I just diagnosed with a stomach disorder that comes from Extreme emotional stress. I cannot eat anything made with Flour, bread, cereal, soup, crackers or all the other things that I like. My immune system is damaged from stress... ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Cheryl cd | Date: Apr 21st, 2006 6:30 PM |
| I am so sorry to hear that you are so ill. Can you call the health food store W\a nutritionist at it. They maybe able to help you.My friend went to one and she is better now. I wish I could do something to help you. Just know that I am praying for you. May be you can take so stress releas classes when you are up to it. I hope you are well very soon! All my best to you !!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Cherly | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 9:21 PM |
| Saw this on a web page.. Hope it has some helpful info. Please feel better soon!! So how can I nurture my immune system? Perhaps the most direct action you can take is to consume a varied, balanced diet of vegetables, fruits, whole and fortified grains, and dairy products, with small amounts of fish and meat if you wish. A basic daily multivitamin/mineral supplement is usually a good idea for older people. Beware of any supplement, however, that promises to boost immunity: protein supplements, enzyme supplements, and the whole range of specific vitamins and minerals, antioxidants, and nostrums that claim to boost immunity don't strengthen it. Regular moderate exercise is associated with good health and longevity and will benefit your cardiovascular system, whether it boosts immunity or not. Getting adequate sleep is also helpful. And, of course, don't smoke. ↑ |
| Name: Another web For you | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 9:26 PM |
| http://www.e-celiacs.org/2-Gluten-F ree%20Prescription%20Diet.htm Th e Gluten-Free Prescription Diet General Basics for the Gluten-Free Diet The Prescription Gluten-Free Diet for Celiacs The following guide for interpreting the prescription gluten-free diet is based on the grains, chemicals, and natural or artificial ingredients found to be toxic for patients with the conditions of celiac disease and dermatitis herpetiformis. Allowed Flours and Starches: [for the gluten-free diet] Grains: non-enhanced rice; corn and popcorn; sorghum (milo); flax; wild rice. Roots and Tubers: tapioca; potato; arrowroot; sweet potato. Legumes: bean; fava bean; soybean; garbanzo bean; lentils; peas; peanuts. Nuts: almond; chestnut; acorn; hazelnut; walnuts, Brazil nuts, cashews, water chestnuts. Seeds: sunflower; mustard; sesame; safflower, coconut, poppy, alfalfa, Montina. Grains to Avoid: [for the gluten-free diet] wheat barley rye oats spelt semolina kamut triticale quinoa millet buckwheat amaranth tef far farro grano mir couscous Celiacs must read labels carefully when purchasing any packaged or canned products since ingredients may change from one batch to another. Ingredients marked as additives, cereals, and cereal grains, colorings, emulsifiers, excipients, derivatives of gluten, flavorings or malt, hydrolyzed plant protein (HHP), hydrolyzed vegetable protein (HVP), preservatives, starches, and modified food starches, vegetable gum, and vinegar—may be derivatives of a gluten-containing grain. Abbreviated Food Listing for the Gluten-Free Diet Foods Allowed Foods to Avoid 1. Grains Non-enhanced rice, corn, and popcorn, sorghum (milo), flax, and wild rice, Montina. Wheat, barley, rye, oats, and probably millet and buckwheat for most people. Also: spelt, semolina, kamut, triticale quinoa, amaranth, tef, far(farro) mir and couscous. Be careful of breads and rice cakes that often contain both rye and millet. Avoid wheat starch; the manufacturers say it does contain small amounts of gluten; when questioned, it is represented as 92% to 97% gluten-free. Most communion wafers may be made with wheat starch. 2. Vegetables Use fresh, frozen, dried, or canned unless they contain thickening agents. In canned products, avoid emulsifiers, preservatives, stabilizers, and food starch unless its source is known. Read INGREDIENT labels. See glossary of terms and text for ingredients to avoid. 3. Fruits Fruits are simpler. Use most fresh, frozen, dried, or canned fruits. Some few contain additives or preservatives. Read labels. Avoid thickening agents for some fruits and pie fillings. If dye sensitive, avoid fruits with “color added.” 4. Eggs and Egg Substitutes Use eggs, well-cooked. Avoid all raw and undercooked eggs. Avoid egg replacers and egg substitutes with additives and any additive of non-allowed grains or non-allowed preservatives. 5. Breads Use rice flours, white or brown, arrowroot, potato tapioca. Use soybean (soya) if tolerated; add pea, corn, milo or bean, Montina, and nut flours for variety. Avoid low-gluten flours and wheat starch. Avoid flours with wheat, barley, rye, and oats. Avoid soybean (soya) if sensitive to it. Avoid millet and buckwheat. 6. Cereals Hot cereals made from corn meal; cream of rice; hominy; rice; cold cereals such as puffed rice, Kellogg’s Sugar Pops, Post’s Fruity and Chocolate Pebbles; Van Brode’s cornflakes and crisp rice; General Mill’s Coca Puffs (unless sensitive to chocolate). Avoid cereals with wheat, barley, rye, oats, millet, and buckwheat. Avoid bran, graham, wheat germ, bulgur. Do not use the several cereals available that contain low amounts of malt unless approved by your physician. 7. Cheeses All aged hard cheeses such as cheddar, Swiss, edam, and parmesan. Check ingredient list on cottage cheese, cream cheese, and all pasteurized, processed cheese; avoid cheeses with vegetable gum and preservatives. Avoid all cheese foods, cheese spreads, and nondairy products in the dairy counter such as spreads, and the chip ‘n dip mixes. Avoid Roquefort cheese, which is based on breadcrumbs, and Ricotta, which uses grain vinegar. 8. Salad Dressings Start with the several Kraft dressings that are gluten-free or make your own. Read labels before each purchase. The ingredients may change with each batch number. Be aware of the use of grain vinegar. Choose Hellmann’s regular mayonnaise. Several commercial salad dressings contain one or more of the offending grains, preservatives, food starch, stabilizers, or dyes. Avoid the product unless contents are known. Avoid products with secondary foods added. Ex: tomato soup in some dressings – usually contains wheat flour. 9. Drinks and Juices Fresh brewed coffee other than a ground coffee with grain added. Ex: Mellow Roast. Tea, chocolate made with cocoa, fruit juices, carbonated drinks. Avoid most of the instant drinks which are processed with or have additives, stabilizers, or emulsifiers added. Ex: Hawaiian Punch. Only a few root beers allowed. Omit all instant coffees, instant tea, instant cocoa mixes, Postum, Ovaltine, Gevalia flavored, malted milk, commercial chocolate milk which may have cereal added, and ground coffees which contain grain and some root beers. Know the product, read labels, look for excipients (stuffers) and flavoring agents. 10. Flours Arrowroot starch, corn flour, cornmeal, corn starch, potato flour, potato starch, rice bran, rice flour, rice polish, soy flour, tapioca flour, tapioca starch milo (sorghum), Montina and nut flours All flours containing wheat, barley, rye, oats, millet, or buckwheat; also avoid wheat starch, triticale and amaranth. 11. Soups Homemade broth and with allowed ingredients. Most canned soups and soup mixes-- especially bouillon in powder, cubes, or canned form. 12. Fats and Oils Most celiacs do best on corn oils; most corn oils, margarines, butter, lard, cream, pure mayonnaise, peanut butters, and most hydrogenated vegetable oils are acceptable. Some margarines have flour as an additive. Start with Fleischmann’s Regular. Check out vegetable oils for additives. Read labels. Check out margarines for possible offenders before using. If 60 percent corn oil with remainder not defined—know content before using. Look for salad dressings that contain gluten-free stabilizers and canola. 13. Vinegars Use apple cider and wine vinegars. Avoid distilled white vinegar that uses a grain mash as a starting material. Check out most flavored vinegars before using. 14. Alcoholic Beverages Wine and brandies without preservatives and added dyes; most celiacs do best on white wines; potato vodka, not grain vodka, most rums and tequila are okay. Avoid all beers, ales, and anything made from grain alcohol; all whiskey, bourbons, Canadian blends; most liqueurs; corn whiskey also since it uses a grain mash. 15. Soy Sauce Use those that do not contain wheat. Most soy sauces do contain gluten – especially, Kikkoman’s. Avoid house soy sauces. 16. Crackers and Snack Foods Rice wafers; pure cornmeal chips, and tortillas; popcorn; selected Soya crackers. All others containing the non-allowed grains or coatings of selected soy sauces. Watch out for “pure corn products” which may be dried on a belt dusted with wheat flour. 17. Desserts Custard; junket; homemade puddings from cornstarch, tapioca, and rice; gelatin desserts; selected pudding mixes; ice cream and sherbet if they do not contain wheat flour or gluten stabilizers; products made with allowed flours. All products prepared with the non-allowed grains; ice cream cones and ice creams which contain gluten stabilizers; most commercially prepared mixes for cakes, cookies, and other desserts. 18. Sweets Sugar; honey; non-buttered syrup; molasses; most jellies and jams, plain hard candy; marsh-mallows; gumdrops and homemade or commercial candies made with allowed ingredients. Check for commercial candies containing the non-allowed grains and gluten stabilizers. 19. Meats or Meat Substitutes All meats, fish, poultry, and eggs prepared without the non-allowed grains; bacteria-ripened cheese and processed cheeses if they do not contain a gluten stabilizer; cottage cheese and cream cheese if the vegetable gum used does not contain a forbidden grain. Several of the luncheon meats, sausages, and frankfurters may contain a grain as an excipient or as a part of a gluten stabilizer; turkey with HVP injected as a part of basting (avoid self-basting fowl); avoid cheese products containing wheat flour and/or oat gum. Say “no” to raw eggs and all undercooked meats. 20. Potato or Pasta Starches White and sweet potatoes; yams; hominy; rice and wild rice; gluten-free and corn pastas; look for oriental rice noodles or bean noodles without preservatives and coatings. Regular noodles, spaghetti, macaroni, and most packaged rice mixes. See product ingredient listing for clarification. Watch out for wild rice that has been sprayed with insecticide. 21. Yogurt Use yogurts without milk added if lactose intolerant. Start with plain Dannen or Yoplait. Several yogurts on the market contain both milk and a thickening agent. Know the product being used. 22. Miscellaneous Salt; pepper; herbs; spices; coconut; chocolate; nuts; pure cocoa; flavorings not made with alcohol – choose imitations; (MSG) monosodium glutamate; yogurt, if made with allowed ingredients; steak sauce, except persons with hypersensitivity. Some curry powder; most white pepper; some dry seasoning mixes, some gravy mixes and extracts; some meat sauces; some catsup, mustard, and horseradish because of the vinegar; some chewing gum; most dips; flavorings made with alcohol. ↑ |
| Name: cherylcd | Date: Apr 23rd, 2006 12:12 PM |
| Thank you so much...you have been so helpful and kind... I will respond again when I am done reviewing your comments below ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Cherylcd | Date: Apr 23rd, 2006 12:38 PM |
| If you need me to look up anything on the web or reasearch anything for you Please feel free to ask. Hope you are feeling better!! God bless you and give you heath! ↑ |
| Name: Hi | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 7:19 PM |
| Hi a how ya doin ↑ |
| Name: Cherylcd | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 6:07 PM |
| Well I am stress today and I just found out that my 9 year old is depressed and I went to the Theripist and she wanted to see me more than my daughter... ↑ |
