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My son is now 1 1/2 years old and I have these thought of him being molested. I think I am just scared that someone will do that too him. I think about it al the time and can't get it out of my head. I have never been molested and I know he hasn't. Is this depression? ↓
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| Name: anonymous | Date: Aug 31st, 2005 9:10 PM |
| It may help to get to know the baby sitter a little better. then you can be a little more confident ↑ |
| Name: Aleta | Date: Dec 25th, 2005 8:01 AM |
| I fear the same as you do for my son who's also 17 months. I talk to my husband about my fears and we decide to get to know our baby sitter better, we also look out for any sign of strange behaviour from our baby. I also talk to other parents that sent their children to the same baby sitter and whether they feel anything wrong. We also check out the behaviour of the other babie under the same care whether they happy there or a seem trouble....I hope it help you.. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 5:27 PM |
Feeling fearful for no reason can be a sign of depression, as can recurring thoughts.
Go and see your doctor to get checked out. ↑ |
| Name: Serra | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 1:24 PM |
| It may be depression or it just may be normal mommy worries. I have lots of worries about my two boys too. ↑ |
| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 9:31 PM |
| I learned a lot about this recently. After having each of my kids, I had very specific worries (like you) that something might happen to them. Each child it was something different. This is normal, though, we are "wired" to have these thoughts after having kids, because we are supposed to protect them and this is our mind warning us of things that could happen. Just keep him safe and don't leave him with anyone you don't trust fully. There's a reason God gives women these "worries". ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 8:20 PM |
Sara,
Unless you are obsessing about it, and it is keeping you from allowing him and you to have a normal life, I don't think it is unusual to have such thoughts. It is actually a good safeguard. Good touch/ Bad touch education for ourselves and our children is unfortunatly simply a fact of life.
I dread the fact that I am having to tell my 3 yr old that she can't just talk to anyone, that not everybody loves her as she thinks they do. It's a harsh reality.
We were at a large gathering where children of all ages were gathered together in the basement. My daughter's trustworthy babysitter was there. Yet we discovered that a 5 yr old boy was able to 'play doctor' with our daughter. Fortunately, it was simple curiousity of a little boy wondering what a little girl looked like, and fortunately my daughter's diaper kept him from actually finding out. But it was a very important lesson to us that even in a supervised crowded room, someone can take liberties with your child behind a sofa, or in a bathroom, and it can only take an instant.
On the other hand we can be too cautious, not allowing the child to be in age appropriate situations were they can learn how to be careful themselves. There is such a thing as too much protection that does not allow our children to learn the skills necessary to protect themselves.
It is indeed a delicate balance.
So no, I don't think it is depression. I think it is just being wise and aware. ↑ |
| Name: Stace | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 3:45 PM |
| I don't think anything is wrong with you or that you have depression. I mean I'm not a doctor, but to me you are just protecting your child. I worry about this too with my boys (ages 3 & 4) I think any good parent worries about there kids. I don't know if this is something your interested in - but there are free website to find out molesters in your neiborhood or any address you put in will pop up the violators. I have a good reference if you want me to give it to you, just let me know. I take the extra step to see what's around me and background checks on those who take care of my children when I'm at work - such as my childrens preschool. When it comes to your children - nothing is more important then them being safe and happy. Let me know if you want that address - I'll check back later. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 7th, 2006 1:07 PM |
| Maybe he HAS and its your maternal instincts kicking in telling you SOMETHING IS WRONG!!!!!!! I say this because when my son was about 2-3,we lived in a trailer court and I had let him go out to play ,(it was a dead end,we were at the end) and there was a family that lived across from us that had several kids. On this particular day,I let my son go out knowing I would check on him every 5-10 minutes.I also knew the adults were gone across the street but the kids were home and they had a tent set up outside their trailer. Anyway, I was standing there doing my dishes and out of nowhere a loud voice in my head yelled (GO CHECK ON YOUR SON.......NOW!!!!!)So,I went outside feeling uneasy and he could not be seen.I yelled for him and for some reason was drawn to that tent and yelled again and sure enough he came out of the tent. The other boys were in there too. I brought my son inside and saw that his pants were all crooked and he told me that the neighbor kids were TRYING to get his pants off of him!!!!!! My son assured me that they did not get them off because I came out and was yelling for him. I was so angry at my neighbors and told their parents what their kids had attempted to do to my son. At that point we immediately began looking for a new place to live and as soon as we found something we were out of there. So,my point here is ALWAYS,ALWAYS,ALWAYS listen to your instincts where your child is concerned because if you have a bad feeling somethings going on,it probably is. ↑ |
| Name: goin insane | Date: May 11th, 2006 8:34 PM |
| my son was molested when he was 6 and it was by his uncle whom was 13 or 14 at the time. My son doesn't like to talk about it and shuts me out when I bring it up. My son is now 9 going on 10. He says he doesn't remember what happened but I know he does. What should I do?? ↑ |
| Name: motp1 | Date: May 12th, 2006 9:51 AM |
this is to "goin insane "I have some very strong advice for you but I would prefer not to type it here. Here is my e-mail address
momoftwoplus1@hotmail.com. please contact me. ↑ |
| Name: kristy | Date: May 17th, 2006 3:56 AM |
| no its defientially not depression, its a mothers natural instinct to protect her children. i was sexually assulted by my uncle for years as a young girl, so now i am very aware of the danger signs with my children, i commend u for being so aware of it, i wish my mum was back then, she could of sone soemthing about it. sadly it does happen too much more then we want to know ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: May 17th, 2006 10:19 AM |
| No i dont think that it is .you rae just realising your fears thats all! ↑ |
| Name: christine | Date: Aug 5th, 2007 6:08 PM |
| I am having these thoughts and i dont know if iam wrong, but i think my baby boy is being molested by his father. ↑ |
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