Hello, guest
|
Name: Deb
[ Original Post ]
Hi working moms- I'm currently working 30 hours a week between 2 part time jobs. I had to return after being a SAHM for 4 years. Financially we were just too strained. So now we are doing the "juggle" to try to not put our kids in daycare. My husband is lucky enough to have a position that he can go in whenever he wants as long as he puts in his 8 hours per day (at least). We've been managing to keep our kids out of daycare (not that its a bad thing to put them in daycare- just cheaper if you don't have to) however I need some advice.

How do you keep your marriage healthy if you never see eachother except maybe on the weekend? (and I've heard how you go out on "dates"- but right now with christmas coming we are spending every last penny on the kids so its not doable- you have to pay for a sitter and then pay to go out)

How do you get your husband to help around the house more? It seems as if he thinks that my workload should remain the same around the house even though I'm working too?

Whats the trick? Whats the motivational button that you push to keep everyone happy? Right now I feel like I'm running ragged!
Your Name


captcha

Your Reply here


 
Name: Amanda | Date: Jan 21st, 2006 7:45 PM
in my relationship i'm the one who never took care of my baby and my boyfriend and nanny did it all. now my kid is one years old, but she's all grown up .No i'm not lying! 

Name: Stephanie | Date: Jan 31st, 2006 10:55 PM
Hi there! I work from 7:30 am till 5 pm monday through friday. My husband works from 2:30 pm - 11:30 pm monday through friday. We only see each other on the weekends and it IS HARD! I'm the same way with the work load around the house and he does help! I just spend every last minute with my husband on the weekends and we do everyhting together. I dont really know what else to say 

Name: Nikki | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 8:46 AM
Hello,

I am expecting and my husband and I both work full time. While kids aren't in the mix (yet) I feel like we might have a bit of a similiar situation.

My husband used to think that housework was just something that *got done* and wouldn't do much. He's a well meaning guy, so I'm not trying to badmouth him. I think that some men just grew up that way, and expect it to be that way...

What helped was sitting him down and having a heart to heart. Explain that housework = time + work. When he saw that I was working 2 full time jobs and he 1; I got a lot more help.

I have to remind him and ask him to help me, but since I had a calm, rational talk with him it helped so much. I hope this works for you; good luck! 

Copyright 2024© babycrowd.com. All rights reserved.
Contact Us | About Us | Browse Journals | Forums | Advertise With Us