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Name: kyasia | Date: Nov 21st, 2010 5:40 AM

Name: maverick | Date: Nov 28th, 2010 4:16 PM
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Name: chelsea | Date: Nov 30th, 2010 3:32 PM
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Name: momof3 | Date: Dec 2nd, 2010 5:40 PM
Oh, do I know where you guys are at. Probably the best advice I have gotten from anybody was to take MY emotions out of the picture. My son feels everything to the extreme. So, when he's losing control, my losing it fuels the fire. Stay calm, stay calm, stay calm. We rearranged our storage to make a walk in closet the time out closet that locks from the outside. If Derick can't stop himself, I drag him there and let him deal with it in a safe place where he can't hurt anyone, can't break anything, and can't monopolize my attention from my other 2 kids. Our new psychologist has also given us another amazing tool to use. We call them Job Cards. Each card has a task and all the steps necessary to complete the task. Derick is grounded from everything except meals, school, homework and sleep until the Job Card is complete. There's no questions on what cleaner to use, should he do this or that. It's all on the card. There is no interaction with him until it's done. Talk about taking the arguments and rationalizations out of the picture! He spews a bunch of hate at me because he doesn't want to go to school this morning, I fan the job cards out face down, and if he doesn't pick one, I do. It goes on the fridge for when he's ready to do it. No fighting, no arguing, just walk away. It has been amazingly effective. Just using rewards was useless and random restrictions and taking toys away did little more. Keeping my cool, a siplified reward system and the job cards have made life managable in our household for the past 2 months. We'll see if it lasts. 

Name: nautica | Date: Dec 9th, 2010 10:10 PM
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Name: mounir | Date: Dec 12th, 2010 2:33 PM
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Name: nina | Date: Dec 22nd, 2010 12:16 PM
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Name: Adam | Date: Jan 16th, 2011 12:04 PM

Name: Serena | Date: Jan 22nd, 2011 11:54 PM
Hi Heather, I dont have an answer to your problem but I am letting you know you are not alone for you and I got so much in common. I also have an 8yrs old that is so much like yours. And I also have a 3 and 2 year old boys expecting another in March. My first baby girl. And he says the same thing to me like he does to you about loving the babies more. Right now he is in a crisis center because I dont know what to do either. I love him very much and I wish he can see that but he dont. My brother think I turned the wrong way, but he is thousands of miles away and doesnt know how he really is. He has a stepfather that he thinks his brother is taking attention away from him and so he act up even more and this all started since my 3 year old was born. I to need answers and dont know who to turn to. My 8 year old is on Concerta and Ritalin. So I to need help. I may not have much for you but Im here to support you and hope you can do the same and maybe we can help each other get through this. If you want u can text me on facebook. My real name is Sury Vinn. 

Name: ruth | Date: Feb 25th, 2011 10:26 AM
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Name: kirsty read | Date: Mar 5th, 2011 6:43 PM
i what a boy frend how can love me more and rver and i need a 8 yeas old boy frend 

Name: Rhys | Date: Mar 27th, 2011 2:08 AM
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Name: arah | Date: Mar 28th, 2011 6:02 PM
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Name: sheri | Date: Mar 31st, 2011 1:29 AM
I understand what you are going through. I have an eight year old boy who is the youngest and we knew when he was four and got kicked out of the first daycare there was an issue. He is the most loving child and wants to please but you can look into his eyes sometimes and tell he really cant control himself. I work 50 hours a week and am also exhausted. We have tried several different medicines and now I think we have one that works. Before this medicine he spent at least four out of five days in the office instead of class. He would have meltdowns at home with me as well as his brother. I feel as if Im going to lose it sometimes as well but I just take a deep breath and try to remember he cant help what he is doing. I have found that having structure and a routine for everything for him helps. I have also found that I needed for him to understand that adhd was not the cause of "bad behavior" and there were consequences for his actions. I have to be very consistent with him even though sometimes I just want to scream and go hide under the covers! There are times when he has nothing except books to read because I feel he needs to learn how to cope with adhd and learn some self control and good decision making. I continue to see improvements as well as setbacks. I just feel I'm in it for the long haul and I am learning as I go along. My son is on Vyvanse and it is the only thing that has worked so far! 

Name: coachdfreedom | Date: Mar 31st, 2011 6:50 PM
Im not sure where you live but it seems that your school is not helping you. I would go to the school and ask for help, they always have therapists or someone on staff that should have some information for you!

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Name: daniel | Date: Apr 3rd, 2011 9:16 PM
do your parents ever listen to you 

Name: tami43 | Date: Apr 7th, 2011 6:02 PM
My son is 6yrs old and has adhd, we often go to the ymca, he loves to swim and shot hoops. Also we go for long walks in the wods and play I spy, it's not easy, however find something he likes besides tv and video games. It's worth the time. Sports or a hobby. 

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Name: keeke | Date: Apr 23rd, 2011 3:35 PM
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Name: ammma | Date: Apr 23rd, 2011 3:35 PM
me 2 

Name: mackenzy | Date: Apr 27th, 2011 9:12 PM
i hope i like this 

Name: Yvette | Date: Apr 28th, 2011 9:09 AM
I have a son that will be seven soon and can very much relate. 

Name: Jan | Date: Apr 28th, 2011 3:49 PM
Hang in there. Forget about the house and the other things right now. Work on him only. Get the proper medication and get it under control. I would spend all of my time trying to get him on the proper meds with the best doctors I could find, keep changing until you find the right doctor for you and him. 

Name: Jean Adams | Date: Apr 29th, 2011 10:42 PM
Sorry about your difficulties. I had twins, both had it, but are adults now. But I did have a husband to help but only did a little. I felt all the problems son had were mine alone to deal with. Son also had severe dyslexia as well and a few other inherited problems as well. I know the feeling up "give up, discouraged, and very overwhelmed. There are some great organizations out there who I suggest you get in touch with, join them if you can. I do not know the meds and sideeffects he may have. I have heard from others allowing your son to help complete homework to let him listen to music of his choosing blocks out all the other distractions, so he can concentrate on one piece of homework at a time. Make a chart of what he has to do, so he can begin to take pricde in his homework. Mine also fought me about doing homework which I believe was constantly a battle. I suspect your child also has allergies/asthma or some other kind of immune problem, as it seems to coexist. I have much more to suggest to you, so hope to hear form you. [email protected] 

Name: Tracey | Date: May 17th, 2011 2:10 PM
My son is 8 years old and was also diagnosed with ADHD. I am a single mother and know the feeling of hopelessness that you feel constantly. I have tried Concerta, with which he delivered involuntary muscle spasms (that is heartbreaking to watch), and was told that it may become permanent. I stopped the medication immediately. He has been on Stratera 40mg capsule once a day for over a year now and everything has improved. I also supplement him with EYE-Q (Omega 3) capsules daily, which helps stimulate the brain and concentration naturally. His teacher has nothing but praise for him now, and he has settled down a lot. Granted we still have the odd difficult day where he refuses to do anything I ask, but for the most part he is an absolute pleasure!

Have you tried looking at Stratera? It is a non-stimulant that does not work with all cases, but it does not have half of the weird side effects that the others do... At the end of the day it requires lots of love and patience.

I wish you luck. 

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