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Name: teresa
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I have a 9 year old daughter who is ADHD and she is obsessed with the human body. She is always trying to be sexy and hot which I think is so not right for a 9 yr. old. She is always talking abouts breast and usually has her hand in her pants. When I kiss her goodnight, she tries to kiss me like I'm her boyfriend and I'm always having to push her back and explain why this is not appropriate. Is this a normal thing for ADHD kids or is mine just not right? Any adivce would be helpful.
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Name: taybry | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 12:36 AM
I don't know about every adhd child , but I have a 9 year old girl and she doesn't have the slightest interest in that at all, if anything she doesn't even like to be touched or kissed. I would definitely check into this with a therapist before it gets worse for her. 

Name: distracted at home | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 3:30 PM
Have you considered that someone in her life might be acting inappropriately with her? Sometimes when children exhibit overtly sexual behaviour they are reenacting personal experiences. The again, it could be that she has been exposed to television or movies which are inappropriate, possibly without your knowledge? If there is someone in her life who is showing her inappropriate material and she hasn't yet been abused, they might be grooming her (preparing her to be abused, seeing is she is willing or if she will tell) I would look very closely at this behaviour as if there is something going on that isn't right, she might be showing you rather than telling you. Good luck and please keep us posted 

Name: billy22 | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 11:42 PM
teresa~I hate to say this, but I think you should have her see someone and find out what might be going on. ADD/ADHD doesn't cause a child to become sexual. Although, there are a lot of inappropriate things on tv and if there are older kids at her school, she may have witnessed some inappropriate behavior. My son came home from shcool one day to tell me about seeing a boy and a girl kissing on the bus with their tongues...you just can't control all of the bad stuff out there when she's not with you. 

Name: teresa | Date: Dec 8th, 2006 2:21 PM
Thanks for all the advice. I do have her in counseling and this is one thing that we are working on. After the counselor ask her a million questions about this, we have come to the conclusion that she has not been abused. I am very strict in what she watches on tv, however, victoria secret commercials are quite explicit. The only time she is away from me is when she is at school. She doesn't have any friends so its not like she goes anywhere. We are trying to determine where this obsession is coming from. I do have a 15 yr old neighbor who hangs out of every piece of clothing she wears and of course she sees her all the time. I keep talking to her about all of this and hopefully with the counselor in on it now, something will change. 

Name: Yawmom | Date: Dec 10th, 2006 2:51 AM
Well it sure sounds as if someone has abused her. My children went to a sitters house and one of the boys there would act out like you mentioned, well the sitter reported it to the police becasue she was afraid she would be accused.
Come to find out the couple was divorced and it seemed to happen more when he returned from his fathers house.
I noticed it because my son was coming home and doing things that the boy did.
I know you said your counselor asked alot of questions, but at 9 maybe she thinks she would get in trouble, classic symptom. I would be very concerned if I were you, this is not normal for any child if they had ADD or not 

Name: Johanna | Date: Dec 15th, 2006 5:43 PM
Hi, my son acts like this also, and I have raised it as a concern and teachers etc have asked me to look into it, but I see it as being part of his whole package, he is not only ADHD, but also Aspergers, all of these things seem to run into each other. I am almost 100% sure that nothing has ever happened to him, and have spoken to parents of autistic children who say their children are very sensitive to their sexuallity also. As a lot of you have mentioned, this kind of behaviour is very easily accsessed on t.v., even pg films have a lot of toilet humour in them. I don't think you should worry to much, just find ways of councelling her out of it, before it does get her into trouble. As somebody else might take advantage. 

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