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Name: diva_di
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Help! My daughter was diagnosed about 2 years ago with mild ADHD/ODD. While I have no issues with her at school or playdates I have difficulties at home: excessive arguing, intentionally annoying us, not listening, irritation with her friends about nothing, etc. I am worn out and have 2 very sick parents as well and an un-supportive, detached husband (troubled, unloving marriage). I decided not to medicate her but not sure what to do. I am feeling extremely stressed and not sure how much more i can take before I break.
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Name: TammyE | Date: Jan 5th, 2013 7:16 PM
Hi Diva, I so understand not wanting to medicate a child. It's such a hard choice as a parent. But maybe it's time you have her reevaluated. Could there be some alternates that you could use that people who specialize in this field could offer you? Modern medicine is an always changing field from the drugs they use, to how they use them for treatment. It is also very, very important that you take care of yourself so you can deal. You have a lot of stress in your life it looks like. Take some deep breaths, go have coffee or something take some me time, and maybe go back over where you were two years ago verses now. 

Name: azzizz43 | Date: Jan 13th, 2013 5:28 PM
I came here looking for answers myself. Today I resigned myself to the fact that I need to find medical help for my child from a more in-tuned group rather than just the pediatrician we've been seeing. I too am at my wits end. I don't have a non-loving marriage, however my son's father suffers too from similar issues as our boy so it makes things somewhat more difficult. It's as if I'm living with two 8 year olds. It's terribly difficult to watch a grown man deal with the issues of an 8 year old as an 8 year old himself. So although our situations differ somewhat, the fact that we find ourselves here on this site looking for help brings some us together. I was very much against medicating my son, however I felt like it was the only thing to help with getting him through the school day and really learning how to read, write, add and basically take in anything being taught. I hate this medication and what it does to him, but it's better than others we've tried. We don't give it to him on the weekends and although he's more "normal", we still suffer through his inability to sit still and all the other ADHD symptoms. I agree with TammyE, you MUST take care of yourself in order to take care of your child, it's the only way things will work out well. You cannot be unwell and try to make another human "well". So, having said all that, I suggest you too look into finding a more in-tuned group. I have been online looking for pediatricians in my area that specialize in children. As much as I hate to admit this, I am going to really work on changing his diet. I too suggest you look into what foods will help. There are all kinds of alternatives to medication, search, search and then search some more. Talk to people, get as much information as possible and start making phone calls and appointments. It's not my business, I know, but also consider your mental health. I soon will be looking for a therapist to help me figure this all out. I need somebody who'll relate to me as a mother, a partner and a woman dealing with my personal issues and maybe offer some help in the direction I need to go. I wish you well Diva... 

Name: azzizz43 | Date: Jan 13th, 2013 5:32 PM
Correction to previous post. I'm looking for a pediatrician in my area who specialize in children with ADD & ADHD. By the way, have you looked into the book: HEALING ADD by Daniel G. Amen? I just got it in the mail and for the first time, I don't feel so alone. 

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