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I have a 7 year old daughter, she has many problems in school, I can't take this. She has no friends. She left the classroom today and didn't come back till teacher came and got her. She has in the past week started lying about things, like a trip to disneyland we never took. She never seems to listen to anyone, I say don't touch that and next thing I know she touches it. She is smart, and does well in school when she isn't getting in trouble. She was suspended 5 times in the last few years and the school is useless. I love her but my life really sucks, I can't even let her go to birthday parties for fear of what she will do. Please email me: [email protected] for advice, i really think she may be adhd, but really hate the thought of medication and yet feel if I don't I will loose her to the system. She also gets up in the middle of the night and does everything I tell her not to do, opens a can of soda.... played with matches! And the worst part is sometimes I don't hear her, few nights ago she tried to mop the kitchen floor and then went out side to thow away the swifter pad! I am scared, tired and just at the end of my rope! ↓
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| Name: jamberrt | Date: Oct 3rd, 2006 3:28 AM |
| I hated the thought of meds but my daughter was about 7 1/2 when she started and it changed everything. I can't imagine how scary it would be if she's up in the night. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa Thyr | Date: Oct 4th, 2006 3:04 AM |
| Okay take a deep breath your not alone. Alot of what you said reminds me of when I was a kid, I used to steal from my parents and lie all the time and never knew why. I guess I just thought I was one of "those bad kids" until I had my first born. He was diagnosed with ADHD in kindergarden, I know he inherited that from me. I still jump from tasks and forget stupid things but I am alot better than I was back then. My son was finally put on medication last year. The transformation has been slow and we are still trying to find the right ones for him but the inprovment has been awesome. I seriously think that you should have your daughter diagnosised, it will make you and her feel better as to why she behaves this way, because maybe she doesn't even know. Well Good Luck and if you want to talk my e-mail is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Kit | Date: Oct 18th, 2006 2:20 AM |
Please don't be afraid of medication, you wouldn't deny your child ventolin if they had asthma...my son is on Ritalin and it is like a magic pill, honestly! It has improved his concentration and his learning ability, he flaps his hands and stars out of windows in the morning before he has his Ritalin. He was blind tested and staff who cared for him reported a sudden change in behaviour and wanted him around more, they did not know he had begun Ritalin. Get advice from Dr's not the media, there is such nonesense out there about medication for ADHD and the people who say it's dangerous or addicctive are not professionals. If it helps your child, if it helps you cope, if it helps her grades and helps the teachers cope then it may change all your lives. If she doesn't need it, it won't work.
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| Name: jamberrt | Date: Oct 18th, 2006 3:20 AM |
| I agree with Kit...I saw this 20/20 episode "are you medicating your child because of behaviours YOU can't tolerate" But she excelled at school once she got on ritalin and felt like she was human. She was on it less than a week and she turned to me and said, "I just want you to know how much I love you and I'm glad you adopted me." She'd be with us about a year and a half and it had been really really REALLY tough. ↑ |
| Name: taybry | Date: Oct 18th, 2006 9:18 PM |
I have to agree with the others, Meds can be a scary thing but if adhd is the problem you will know right away. Def get her to she a psychologist and a pyschciatrist. She may have issues with bi polar, etc. You need to look at what she is eating, does she sleep well, her enviroment. Something might be happening and this may be a way of getting attention... There could be a number of things. Its always better to seek information and get help than to continue wondering. If you need to chat more just email me. I'll keep you in my prayers.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: nancyw | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 1:57 AM |
| Take your daughter to a specialist in ADHD field. It will not get any better - only worse. Sometimes medicaton can really help. Have you got her in to counseling? I think my son's conselor has been a real life-saver. ↑ |
| Name: betabee | Date: Nov 19th, 2006 11:51 PM |
| Her problems just sound too difficult not to get her evaluated. I am new in dealing with ADHD, but I am starting to believe that I did not take action soon enough as far as getting professional help for my son. At her age, she is old enough that she is not going to "outgrow" these problems. It is not fair to her (or you) to have to live this way either. If I were you, I would have someone do psychological testing on her to find out what exactly is/are the problems. It may be ADHD, but could be something else too. ↑ |
| Name: Yawmom | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 12:50 AM |
Well first off --get her tested! Once the diagnosis is done the doctor can treat her correctly.
I got so frustrated with my son prior to diagnosis, once done it was a total relief. I coudn't blame him for something that wasn't his fault, he wasn't doing these things to tick me off or that he was a rotten kid--he couldn't help himself.
New couch, I laid on it and looked down...little stab holes in the upholstry....I confronted him--I felt so bad, he coudn't catch his breath from crying. My car, took a golf club to it!! Couldn't stop himself--argh! They are very impulsive people, with meds it helps them focus, slows the hyper signals in the brain...I hated the thought of drugs, we only did it during school, no weekends no nights...unless we were going out.
You get mad at the kid, and he feels hated. It's a better life for all knowing that you love each other.
My son didn't have only one friend,and the other parents didn't want him over--he was a great kid, but too much to handle I guess. Once the meds kicked in, he behaved better kids liked him more and he was easier to get along with.
It won't stop lying. She's trying to get attention, she feels insecure...hope you get her tested so her life can change for the better! ↑ |
| Name: loujo | Date: Nov 29th, 2006 7:41 PM |
| Hi emmas mom, sounds very much like adhd to me ! I live in uk and i have a 8 yr old son who has severe adhd. He gets up about 1.30am every morning and just keeps going till 9 at night. He was suspended 9 times in the last 3 months at school and last week he was expelled permantly if you would like to e mail me feel free my e mail is: [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: flamom | Date: Nov 30th, 2006 1:37 AM |
| I feel for you. Previous posts are right, get her tested. We all get scared when they're young to add meds but it can def. help especially in school. I think I waited too long part of 4th and now 5th but never sent to office. Just rushing, talking, calling out sometimes. (I sub) and kids pick up on these behaviors. Others don't understand and they can tease, blame and just cause additional problems for you and your child. I think the main reason to start RX and behavior counseling is to save the child's self esteem. Too teach early on what is the acceptable behavior in public and school. As for home my son acts up more. If you can afford it I would invest in central alarm system. It's about $30-40 a month and I love it. I'll never let my son know the code. ha. Hope everything works out for you. Take care. ↑ |
| Name: robinjoud | Date: Dec 8th, 2006 10:50 PM |
I have a 6 year old autistic son that loves to get up in the middle of the night and cook. One morning I woke up and found flour, margarine, mayo,eggs, etc all over the kitchen-counters, floor, sink, stove and in a cake pan in the oven. It was scary and extremely messy. Thankfully he finally got past this stage after we took time to let him become involved with cooking. We let him stir ingredients in a bowl when we're cooking and add ingredients. Thank goodness this worked.
I'm not suggesting that your child is autistic at all. If that were the case you would know by now as they are so different than other kids. Your child's doctor would have referred her by now for an evaluation and the school as well.
I hope things get better for you all soon. ↑ |
| Name: mar22 | Date: Dec 10th, 2006 4:47 AM |
| my son use to get up also so i picked up these alarms at the dollar store to put on his bedroom door and when he opened it it would give a peep like a fire alarm that way i new he was up. i found this helpful. also my son was attracted to things with fire like our heating system i had to bring someone in to go over fire safety. i asked him why he did it and he replied i wanted to see what happened, he truly didnt see danger he was acting on impulse. after fire safety he hadnt tried it again. also i did as you i use to say dont touch that and he would but i since have learned from a seminar that these kids remember the last few things you say to them and if its dont touch that, i learned that they are concintrating so hard not to touch that they cant help but touch so i had to learn to say thats special to me, can you go get me a drink, as stupid as this may sounds for the most part it has worked redirecting his thoughts. i do this with my toddler now if i see she headed for trouble i ask her to go get me something than she has forgotten about what she was going to do. on a better note i too agree with the others that yes you should consult with a physician. hope i was helpful goodluck for the future it will get easeir ↑ |
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