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Name: Laura
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I have 7 children and my oldest who is 4 has been diagnosised with adhd but the doctors wont do anything. They just keep passing him around to see other doctors. He can't sit still, listen, and recently he has become mean to his younger sister. He is the only boy. Me and my husband take shifts at night to sit up and watch the house to make sure he doesn't get into things and my husband has had to start working 2 jobs to make ends meet in this wonderful economy so i have been up for a couple of nights in a row. I get approximately 2 to 3 hours of sleep a night when my husband is working. We lock everything we could think of up and he still finds something to get into. This morning while i got my 2 hours of sleep he got a chair and climbed in a cabinet and played with the diaper rash cream and pepto. Im so scared he is going to get hurt. Yesterday he climbed on the gas stove. Nobody wants to watch him cause he won't listen and hits them so we usually have to take him wherever me and my husband go. We finally had a good doctor and he passed away the same week my son seen him. So the new doc just pushed him to another doc after seeing him for a week. I just wish that the doc that took him off the meds and decided he shouldn't have anything had to walk a day in my shoes. I don't think he fully understands and then he just gives me and my husband a look like we should be doing better. It is just so fustrating... does anyone know any tricks that I could possibly try to get him to maybe stay in bed and just get some rest?
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Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Aug 2nd, 2011 4:20 PM
Have you tried or heard of 1-2-3 magic?my son who is 8 has adhd diagnosis plus hearing aids and poss asd.he is on meds but we also went on this behavioral course and its helped lots.i don't know how good it would be on its own without meds but gotta be worth a go?even if it only helps a little.google it! think u can also get a dvd about it.really sympathise with u though we only have two kids and I was at breaking point till we got diagnosis and meds..dont give up,keep hassling the docs.u need help its as simple as that,we had to hide knves,he was hitting and threatening us,throwing stuff at us etc.it is exhausting and no one has a clue what your life is like,they dont understand at all..good luck and take care x 

Name: laura | Date: Aug 3rd, 2011 1:38 AM
Thank you so much. My husband has had to come home a few times from work just to help me. I had to quit my job cause our babysitters just kept quitting us. So now my husband is working 2 we don't get to see one another and when we do its us trying to keep an eye on him. My husband sits up at night and then I get up at 6 usually to feed the baby and keep an eye out for him. I just feel bad cause my girls aren't much attention and they are now starting to act out as well. I know with school coming up and the problems I had with his teacher last year we are pretty much willing to try anything. 

Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 7:52 PM
really feel for you as our life was just as crazy until very recently, and i too felt and still do to a degree that my other son doesn't get enough attention because of all the time and effort that goes into dealing with our youngest. u need to get to a doctor and lay in on really thick that you all need help or that your family unit will breakdown and that your marriage is suffering-if they have diagnosed him they have to do something to help,not just leave you to try and deal with it.i cant believe it,can u get referred to another paediatrician?why did they take him off meds?u must be exhausted.my marriage and family where under a huge strain and you can only do it for so long or you will be ill yourself. i broke down at one appointment, i didn't mean to i was just desperate and shattered.did you have a look for 123 magic? also "understanding adhd" by christopher green is a good book to look at,written in small chunks-as with an adhd kid there is no chance of ever reading and finishing a book!!! as i am sure u know lol! and probably with 7 kids pretty hard too! its just helpful and makes you understand some of the behaviour.keep smiling.take care! 

Name: Laura | Date: Aug 10th, 2011 3:56 AM
My son saw a psychologist and she diagnosed him with adhd, but said since he was 4 they wouldn't do anything. I called childrens mercy there was a 6 month wait plus they didn't know if they could take him. They referred me to yet another doc, who wouldn't take him. We finally found a doc who would take him and did put him on meds but passed away the same week. So his replacement was just a ped doc who didn't listen to us at all. He reduced his ritilain and wouldn't give him the clodinine anymore. So when we ran out of the clodinine my son just started to act out. He became aggressive and just very mean to his sisters. I would have to stand in front of them to protect them from him. So he started to get aggressive with me, kicking and pulling hair. I called the doc again and he said that he wanted him off the meds and that he felt he should see another doc, and referred him to childrens mercy. So i called them again and they said that they couldn't see him and referred me to yet another doc. I called them and they couldn't take his insurance. So i spoke with his ped where we live and he has put him on some meds, but we are having trouble getting them due to the insurance. They don't want to pay for them, and at this point we are willing to pay out of pocket. Every day its something new. We have locked just about everything up and yet he still finds something. He ate an onion this morning just to be eating. We feed the boy like 6 times a day cause he is always so hungry. It is like he doesn't care what he gets into as long as he is into something. I worry and stress he is going to get hurt. I called the doc and have told them and even been where im going to breakdown but try not to. I usually just breakdown in front of my husband. I don't know what i'm doing wrong for my kids. I feel like it's my fault he is like this, like i haven't done something right. My husband feels the same way that i do but he has a little easier time hiding his emotions, probably cause i'm so emotional, especially since i just had a baby. My husband picked up a couple of books but it's been pretty hard to get anything done lately. I am behind on laundry cause I can't go to the basement without him, from the fear of him getting into something. Lately my husband and myself are getting into petty fights and we never fight. The fatigue is more than enough without the extra stress from our daily lives. Thank you for the support and i'm glad as bad as it sounds just to know that we aren't the only ones that have or are going though this. I try to keep a smile on my face which is very hard, but i try to keep my head up. I have learned to walk away when i get to upset. For the most part when I can, sometimes its just walking into the babies room and seeing them smile with their pretty blue eyes, or a hug from my 3 year olds. We have tried to explain to the girls that they way their bother is acting is not the way they should be acting. We understand they are doing everything to get a little bit of our attention. I just wish we could give more, cause right now is the time that they need it. 

Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Aug 22nd, 2011 10:46 AM
Hi, U really are having a rough time bless you.it took me ages to get anywhere with my son as we had other probs with the hearing loss and everyone telling us behavior was cos of that and when he got hearing aids would all be ok..but of course it wasnt!but in fairness I dont think my battle was hard as yours,you have had so much bad luck too.DONT think its your fault!!or your husband!I went through all that self blame too and it is not your fault,it is how they are,they cant help it!it takes the patience of a saint to deal with our kids,you have so much on your plate I am not surprised you are emotional!! I would be going crazy too, I am on anti depressants myself, i didnt want too but everything just got on top of me. we just had a holiday which was nice and better than the last one we had due to his meds..still full on but not as aggressive and doesnt kick off as much.bed time still long winded but at least calmer.did u get a chance to google 123?. I dont know how it works were you are,are u in USA? with doctors,peds insurance & stuff.it sounds like you are banging your head against a wall everywhere you turn.do you have any support groups for ADHD locally or anywhere? thats one of the things that helped me loads..like you say, knowing its not just you and your child. We had to hide stuff too, knives,anything he could use to be aggressive,although he never did anything with knives-just constantly threatened it, i couldnt take the risk. my son was a nightmare at four and they try to blame it on everything else.it drives you mad. keep trying,am thinking of you and wish i could do something to help.you are doing an amazing job and i take my hat off to you!be proud of yourself!!no one knows how tough it is until they live with it. hopefully school will pick up on behavior and then surely something will have to be done. hang in there! take care 

Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Aug 22nd, 2011 10:53 AM
p.s. meant to say that my boy is also constantly eating and wanting food...drives you mad but this must be part of it too..although, he is funny about what he eats..he goes on at me all the time he as home..wants something to eat..think maybe all the energy thy use burns it all off!! take care :-) 


Name: laura | Date: Sep 14th, 2011 2:19 AM
My son has finally been put on some new meds to help him, but we have run into a problem with them. He isn't wanting to sleep of a night and then he wants to sleep at school. He gets up and just keeps playing a game with his dad. He will walk in the living room and then he runs to his room. We give him 2 clonidine and 6 mg of melatonin. But he still gets up. He will until about 4 am and will wake up the 2 older girls which in turn wake up the 3 babies upstairs and the new baby is woke up with all the ruckus. My son doesn't care what he gets into and eats anymore. He is eating my carmax and even my roll on perfume. He has even went to school and told the teacher that mommy no feed me. So the teacher at least calls me and asks if what he has said is true and its not but he just doesn't seem to care. He is eating out of the trash so we have locked up the trash. We just keep trying all kinds of different things and it just never seem to be enough.

We don't have any support groups in our area, at least not that we know of. But we are still looking. At this rate we need to start one if it keeps going like this. 

Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Sep 19th, 2011 9:15 AM
hi.cant believe the school think you don't feed your son?? We had big problems getting medication right,at first it seemed to work in the day and then from say 4pm till midnight it was pure hell,he was just going crazy all the time,but medication has been adjusted and things calmed down,although still feel he is on the edge alot of the time. we go again 4 oct so will see how we get on.keep going..u will get there in the end-can you ring the ped and discuss it without an appointment ?? take care 

Name: Karsten | Date: Jan 21st, 2012 9:37 PM
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Name: Amber | Date: Mar 12th, 2012 12:01 AM
My 9 yr old son has adhd and other problems he is on meds for and just two weeks ago thing got worse then ever he found out in ways i didnt want him to knw tht his father attempted suicide and things were bad before but now he is very aggressive and hits and making threatening comments tht now child should ever say he says things like he wants to die and tells other he wants to kill them he has attended to hit another child with a 2 by4 and now i am faced with the chose to admit him for a evlaution or just hope tht it will all work out but if i admit him will he hate me and to wht hospital will be best i am so lost idk wht to do 

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