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Name: Nara | Date: Jan 29th, 2011 5:14 AM
I am on the same boat as you and other posters. My son is 12, has ADHD, ODD, and takes meds for these disorders, although it has not worked. He has been this way since birth. There seems to be a trend with ODD kids: Usually very smart, easily angered, skilled manipulator, argues incessantly, needs to be in control...My son has become so difficult, that any interaction with him leaves me exhausted and depressed. I've felt like suiciding many times. He tells me he hates me, that I'm a bad person, basically, everything I do is wrong. This is by far, the most painful situation I've experienced.
I wish all of you the best of luck 

Name: lynn | Date: Mar 11th, 2011 3:53 AM
Wow as I read both Lisa and Nora's post tears fell down my face because like lisa my child has not been diagnosed and I 2 have tried taking all toys and fun activities away and it does not work and some times I can go one or two weeks were it is bad almost every day also and 2 be honest today is the first time I think I know what is wrong with my child I no longer feel alone n wow Nora explained my situation perfectly starting at the traits down to the feelings with the exception of when she said any interaction has her exhausted because I do have very good days with her but yes that is how I feel on bad days but most of the time she is very sweet,helpful, funny and a pure joy to be around but these outburst r awful and only happen at home nobody with the exception of one person has heard her during an episode and 99percent of the time it's school /homework related any how like I just am coming to terms that my daughter may very well be ADHD or ODD so I will be making an appointment for her in the mean time please any advise from anyone who is dealing with this and has any tips advise or anything please help :) 

Name: Carolina in Costa Rica | Date: Mar 30th, 2011 4:02 PM
I sympathize completely. While we have not had the benefit of an official diagnosis, our seven-year-old son exemplifies all the symptoms of ODD. He is seeing a psychologist, and I am silently praying for a call for medicatiion. Homework is a nightmare, and he is blisteringly disrespectful despite of my husband and I doing the best that we know how to correct these misbehaviors. If you get an answer, let me know. 

Name: Bea | Date: Jun 10th, 2011 7:56 AM
my 4 year old 

Name: lynn | Date: Jun 30th, 2011 4:45 AM
my son is 1o years old they say he has ocdd and add he's ritalin we have fits like that at age 10 years old throwing thing , yelling cusing the whole things what ever you try taking things away ground him nothing works i don'y know what does work i need help to i need a good dr to help 

Name: Tina | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 5:16 AM
OMG this sounds just like My Daughter Kylie. she is 5 and one minute she can be sweet as a button and the second she hears 1 negative thing or is told no its almost like hell on earth. She always has to get the last word she tries telling e what to do like shes My mother and she tries telling Me what I can and cant do she beat the crap out of her father one day at McDonalds. and out of the clear blue I was at the park with her pushing her on the swing and she kicked me I am glad I was paying attention cause I would have gotten kicked right in the face. Instead I moved and got kicked in the chest. also she tries to push My buttons every chance she gets ill ask her to go throw something in the garbage and she will put in on the counter or on the floor right outside of the garbage can. I have always thought it was ADHD because she shows many of the signs.. not sitting still, not listening, zoning out, acts like she has cotton in her ears and only hears half of what we say. its horrible cause ill tell her while we are in a store like what seems a million times not to touch anything and not to walk away from me and she does it ALOT I mean when I say dont touch anything and she was touching a candle on a store shelf she will go touch a diff color candle or something next to the candle. She will also find many ways of "moving away from me when I tell her to stay put dont go no where, she will walk away then when she gets a lecture about that she will tip toe, next will be run then hop I mean no matter what situation we are in she finds a way to defy everyone I'm going crazy here and the Drs are making it seem that Im just trying to get her medicated so that I dont have to "deal with her" but neighbors and family and her friends all ask "what is wrong with her?" and for the life of Me I cant answer that question. this kid will seriously disobey everything I tell or ask her to do, 1 time I caught her dumping a whole bottle of water on the front room floor (on carpet) I told her water does not belong in the front room and definitely not on my floor so then she tried the next hour on My dining room floor (still has a rug) then when I asked her why she did that she said well you said not in your front room well the dining room is not the front room its the dining room! the Nerve!!! so then I said well you know my rule anyways that NO drinks or food is to come off of the dining room table untill you are done and when your done it goes in the fridge or garbage. her response to me is I will put it where I want to if you dont like it then you clean it up! nothing I do works! HELP! 


Name: Tina | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 6:53 AM
I just made a comment like a few minutes ago and 1 thing I forgot to mention is that at the doctors and I mean any kind of doctors she is a sweet little angel "because she seen a show a medical show where a person went crazy and threw things and broke things, yelled, screamed etc... and this person got a shot which calmed him down" So I figured out that's why she behaves at the doctors is because she don't like shots and she don't want to act up there cause she don't want to receive the shot. And shes super nice at school she has manners helps out kids and everything!! but the second she comes home she is a holy terror I mean literally My step dad calls her a "terrorist" My Mom calls her the "twisted sisters tornado" (because the place that shes at looks like a tornado went threw it by the time she was done with her fit) and twisted sisters tornado is supposed to be like 3 tornado's in a very close proximity of each other. My kid has had these problems shortly after she turned 2 she always has to be in control she is never wrong (heaven forbid) and I have to tell her tons of times to do something in order for it to get done and that's IF she does it and when she does do it its only half done right. And I asked her 1 day well why don't you act like this at school? she said cause I don't want the kids to laugh at me I want to have friends.

But at home or the park or stores or anywhere besides the doctors and the school her real "true colors show" there have been times I locked myself in the room and cried for hours and times shes been in her room for hours on her bad days I cant even take her outside because she is that bad. I spend My whole day finding ways to keep her occupied even bought a bounce house, a swing set bikes and toys galore to get rid of that unnatural amount of energy she has and just praying that it wore her out enough to wanna take a nap that's like the only quiet time I get. She refuses to go to bed on time sometimes I don't get her down till like after midnight and she wakes up before 6:30 am. I have no more energy no more patience I'm worn out and seriously thinking of admitting her to a hospital for a week or more for evaluations nothing else I have tried works! 

Name: Pam | Date: Feb 20th, 2012 9:01 PM
I have an 11-year old stepson who,when he comes home from school,always looks like he's mad and fuming. I don't know why he always looks angry at the world and anything will set him off,like a little piece of fat on meat or I didn't make enough supper for seconds. I'm always walking on eggshells and don't enjoy this feeling in my own home. 

Name: Leila | Date: Mar 19th, 2012 6:13 PM
Hello Lisa. I am going through the same thing with my 6yo daughter. She really does not do that so much at home, but she does it all at school. I feel that the teachers think i have some crazy kid. I am at my wits end also. They try to talk to her, they gave her in and out of school suspension. We have also taken things away from her. She has gone to a therapist in october 2011 and he told us that she has ODD ( Oppositional Defiant Disorder) along with ADHD. He wrote us a rx and sent us on our way. I am not one to just give my kids medicine, so I did not start giving it to her until this last week when she was screaming at the top of her lungs at school and pinching the asst. principal. She has been on the medicine for a week and a half now and I do not see any difference in her behavior. i am not sure if it takes a while to work, but i am skeptical. I have been reading that the parents need to go to support groups to learn how to parent this behavior and it is suppose to help. I'm gonna try it. Look up Erikson's stages of psychosocial development at this website copy and paste this en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erikson's_s
tages_of_psychosocial_development
 

Name: suzanne | Date: Jul 12th, 2012 11:46 PM
hi I also have a draughter with odd now a adult of 22yrs. We had lots of help as she was growing up but nothing seemed to work. now she is a mother herself with a 15month old son. my grandson is now used as a pawn between us. We have tried to have her live with us but it always brakes down. I am at the end of my rope. she has no true friends and we cannot seem to break through to her. I worry about her son. at the moment she is holding him over our heads. what do i do. 

Name: Erin | Date: Aug 4th, 2012 2:16 AM
My 9 year old son has put everyone in his life through life hell since he was about 3 years old. He was diagnosed with mood disorder and ODD when he was 6. I always suspected it, but nobody ever believed me. They just thought he was acting out. Well no s h I t! He has a 2 year old brother who is absolutely terrified of him. He has been to countless psychiatric hospitals for his behavior. Things have since gotten worse. Even having every resource in place isn't doing much good. Therapy in home and out of the home, day treatment summer school, meds, you name it, we've got it. Just this week my son has thrown a twin size mattress on me just because I asked him to take a shower, punched me in the back for telling him to stop being mean to his brother, slapping me in the stomach, threatening to kill me and his little brother for not letting him do what he wants. I can't keep a job due to his violence. Not even the most well trained daycare provider will tolerate him. They are supposed to be certified to handle kids like him. What the......? ! Omg, I can't do this anymore. 

Name: amber | Date: Mar 22nd, 2013 8:19 PM
my 8 yr old daughter and 7 yrs old son has not yet been diagnose with ODD, they are at times happy and calm and the next yelling at the top of the lungs for no apparent reason. they fight with each other over little things and use foul language. they refuse to follow the rules i have set and always argue when told different. they want what they want and nothing else matters. i am on my wits end and need advice..plz help..thank you 

Name: MOM | Date: Mar 29th, 2013 11:33 PM
My son has ODD and I feel like i cant do this anymore...........I think it is BIPOLAR but the docs wont say yes or no,.....this has been going on for 6 years...... 

Name: ndhlpplse | Date: Apr 17th, 2014 2:41 PM
Hi.im new here.Sorry if this question seems out of line.Any advise on literature for raising a child with ODD and coparenting with his PPD father? 

Name: ndhlpplse | Date: Apr 17th, 2014 2:50 PM
Hi.im new here.Sorry if this question seems out of line .Anyone have suggestions on literature for coparenting a child withO.D.D. when his father has PPD? 

Name: ndhlpplse | Date: Apr 17th, 2014 2:55 PM
Hi.im new here.Any advise on literature for coparenting a child with ODD when the father has PPD? 

Name: Jay | Date: Oct 8th, 2014 2:46 AM
I recommend 123 Magic. If he acts like this again you simply say "That's 1". You pause for 5 seconds and if he is still acting out, just continue to count him. It doesn't matter if he has company over or not. If he gets to 3 he receives a punishment. It could be a timeout or something else. IT really works if you are consistent with it. 

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