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Name: emtf71
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As a parent it really get's me mad when the school can't acomadate a child with adhd we pay taxes are children should have all the support we need we have to stand up and fight for our child normalses in public so why do are teachers want are kids med. Because the class are to big and not enough help. They don't have the help for adhd that's why they have to be med as a parent it's not are choice any more to drug are kids other wise they will be thrown out.How sick is are soicity. the school's say no to drugs but when a child has adhd they say yes. WHAT'S UP WITH THAT!
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Name: alexia | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 1:44 AM
I think the teachers don't feel like redirecting children because they don't have enough patience. 

Name: suttbo | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 6:10 AM
There is actually an Federal Law, some act, 105 or something, that states they HAVE to accomodate our children. If I find it, I will repost it. Anyway, if you go to ADHD.com it talks about it. Anyway: I agree with you a 100%, and feel the same. RIght now, my 10 year old is very close to being sent to alternative school, due to his inability to sit still all day, stay focused, and for not raising his hand. I am fustrated because all school year, we have had his meds adjusted, tweaked: it just is not working too well. To add, the school seems to have let me down by telling me that emails I had requested weekly, were becoming redundant. I do feel the school are wanting toy soldiers, or robots...because they are too lazy to accomodate and do what is right. If I am not careful, they will try to put my son in a special ed class: right now, I am working with his pschologist, his behavior therapist and lots of books to get things right....i just learned about that Federal Law that was passed in 1996...the school Failed to mention that to me.... 

Name: jessica | Date: Apr 15th, 2006 5:37 AM
I totally agree. I am currently dealing with those issues with my sons school. 

Name: gemma | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 9:09 PM
i have adhd and i am 14 and i my school is in the same state they dont hav the support

what do i do?? 

Name: Susan | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 1:44 AM
Have you ever heard of the 504 Plan through the federal system? You have to push and shove for it and stay up on their butts about it but then they HAVE to accomodate your child's needs. It is for children with disabilties including ADHD children. We had it for quite some time but schools will never mention it to you because its much more work for them. I was told when my son entered his new school that they would accomodate him anyway they needed to without the plan, so far its worked.. However, some people arent so lucky! Schools hate getting extra work added on to their workload since they feel they already have too much to do including testing... Check it out.. once you know about it and you tell them, they HAVE to take care of it. Its a law that is by far needed for our children! 

Name: Rudy's mom | Date: Apr 26th, 2006 10:31 PM
You're 1000% percent correct. Most elementary school teachers are very comfortable in their careers and want to go about their day without the need to step up from the comfort zone. Don't get me wrong they deserve their credit. But the 21st century adhd child present a challenge to the generic teaching style of the comfortable cutesy teacher. My son doesn't blend with the other stepford children in his first grade class. Academically he has done well but the traditional classroom is boring for him. AND when I finally met with the teacher she lobbied for him to be on "meds". Oh yeah, the school is in a drug-free zone. God help all of us with our special kids. Teachers need to be more accountable and accomodating for ALL types of children. Give'em a pill, pat on the head and let them be medicated so they's nobody else's problem.
WAKE up everybody. 

Name: Grace | Date: May 9th, 2006 5:56 AM
Can someone tell me what you mean by the school has to accomodate our children's needs. My son does have ADHD and he has speech problems on top of it. He is repeating Kindergarten again and he is still behind academically. I knew my son had this because his oldest brother had the same symptoms I had the schools test him over and over and they always said he didn't have ADHD. Because of my youngest son's speech problem and a new school district I was directed into the right direction and got help for my children. I don't want my youngest suffering like my oldest so the more information I can get to help him would be great. any examples of ways someone has gotten the schools to accomodate their children would be beneficial for us to know. So we know what ways and what rights we can push for. thanks, 

Name: emtf71 | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:58 PM
yes my son is on a 504 plan . But I don't think they do what they are supposed to do. I still believe they can come up with a better plan. My son also has speech. They wanted to keep him back in kindergarden but I said no. They still want to keep him back this year but I said no and it wan't because of his grades it's because of his immutared but you know something he will always be immature becuase of adhd. I know fisrt had my husband is the same way and his mother never kept him back she say's my son is exactly like his father very smart just alot of energy. Well needles to say My husband has a great job electrician for the union makes good money. I just hope the same for my son he will grow up to use his hands very well and won't have to sit still like he has to in school. 

Name: sociable snuggles | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 10:46 AM
Dear emtf71

My son has adhd and has been told by school that he shoul dbe put on retillan . What other natural remedies are you awre of?

Name: MRS. RIVERA | Date: Jun 13th, 2006 11:31 PM

Name: Layne | Date: Jun 14th, 2006 1:52 PM
I would look into a iep not the 504 plan. with a iep you have more control and say as to the needs of your child. we were having trouble in nebraska with the schools following the orders of the iep. we live in iowa now becouse of it. Our son is doing much better here. Our school is fantastic. moving was the best thing we ever did for our child.
Suttbo-How is the alternative school in your district? you might not mind it. It will take the persure off him. We had a boy in nebraska that we helped to get in alternative school he went 4 days a week and for 4 hours he could work after school. it was a requirement to work if you were in the school. The boy loved it and he graduaded a year early. It really saved that boy to get out of the reg school. where he was failing. In alternative he got good grades. It boosted his self asteem. He didnt have the pere presure he did at reg. school. My husband was a police officer for 16 years in Nebrasksa he changed profesions and we moved. It was the best thing we did for our family. Now we have support and it takes alot of stress off our family and our son he is 11 

Name: kristie | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 4:15 AM
my child is 5 and has adhd we have tryed all of it. iher doc said lets try adderall xr so we did .she was looking more like her self eating a lot more doing good in school.she has been on it for prob 7 months.one night in bed she looked at me and said she could hear people.chills ran up my body. so i ask her more about it .she said she could not under stand what they was saying to her.she said has has done it for a along time now.she did not want to tell no one she was scared someone would make fun of her .all this time i had no clue this was going on.she has a doc op coming up to find out if it is the med.a lot of people have told me that children do suffer from this when takink med with adhd.as a mom im scared for her. 

Name: likeanewmom | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 2:32 AM
My son got diagnosed today along with the suggestion of acquiring an occupational therapist and child psycologist...I was told it won't happen this year...what is up with that...how does that help a whole year away....I am in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada...is this that way everywhere?? 

Name: taybry | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 5:54 AM
Well I agree about schools needing to have resources available to kids with add/adhd. I have a daughter that has that. But I also work at her school , we have an average of 24 kids per class and just 1 or 2 disruptive kids that don't have a med issue is hard enough but to have some of those and kids that have adhd is stressful for the whole class. I know because i personally work with at least 2 to 3 challenged kids in every class I go to. The problem is that teachers are not taught how to teach adhd kids, they just tend to think they're trouble makers or in my daughters case, she is a dreamer, no focus etc. If I wasn't there everyday and the teachers didn't know me , I know they would assume I'm indifferent and don't give my kids time to sleep , or eat or enough attention or discipline. Its the school system and ignorant "educators " that need to get taught. I don't know if that will every change but at least you know you're not the only frustrate parent. 

Name: flamom | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 6:11 PM
I hear all of your concern. However, as a sub teacher and returning for a teaching career I do see a lot of adhd and other behavirol issues. It is stressful on the class (kids pick on other kids that are acting out) it in turn makes the adhd child feel very upset/low self esteem. So, often that is the reason to turn to meds. (after all other avenues have been exhausted alternatives). No teacher is "legally" allowed to suggest or say the word medication. It's a sad cycle and something needs to be done at the state level. Teachers do have a lot on their shoulders. ps. My own child is A student but has adhd and yes, just started rx. Feels happier with friends and focus is great. It does help many children. Hope no one takes this post as critical. 

Name: MonicaWillson | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 7:19 PM
In some states it's actually against the law for an educator to suggest having your child medicated or tested for ADHD. My son has a 504 and and IEP but you do have to stay on top of the school to make sure that teachers are accomodating the child. There is help out there. Dr. David Rabiner is an ADHD expert and his monthly newsletter has been a great source of information for me over the years. Check it out at www.helpforadd.com 

Name: Dirty_Dancer | Date: Oct 21st, 2006 1:50 AM
yeah my duaghter was denied her rights for her 504 

Name: top stuff | Date: Nov 7th, 2006 10:20 AM
hello i suffer with adhd and i am 20 years old, i had a hard time at school as well amd hassle with the teachers. all i can say is keeping on supporting your child, as my mum has helped me loads i am now studying at a university to become a mental health practionier! good luck 

Name: jamberrt | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 12:26 AM
likeanewmom...I'm in Winnipeg. Different but not...I belong to an adoptive parent support group and we're told by workers what our children need but we're number 900 on the waiting list. Incredibly frustrating. Therapy, OT, PT...I end up surfing the net and trying my best on my own. 

Name: billy22 | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 2:36 AM
AMEN SISTER! I have an ADD/ADHD child whom also has mild tourettes and OCD and let me tell you...it has not been easy for any of us! I took him off all his meds this summer and he has started school without them and has been doing very well(as well as a child with his issues can). This time last year he was already suspended from school for fighting and kicked off the bus for not listening and being disrespectful. So far, only a few detentions. Some of which were fro being tardy to class, only a couple for behavioral issues. I have finally decided to go forth with a Specail Ed referral so that he can get the extra help he needs in school. He's 12 and in middle school and I don't want him to feel like he can't get good grades. He gets okay grade, but we know that if he had the individualized help, he'd do a lot better and would feel more successful! So try calling your local ESD and make them go to your sons school and get him the occomidations that he deserves! They owe it to you and your child! Maybe you've already done this, but if you haven't I hope I have been a little bug in your ear:) 

Name: billy22 | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 2:38 AM
I just read further down(I apologize for missing that) I noticed you said that your son is on a 504.....those have too many loop holes! Get him on an IEP, you will get services then. 

Name: rosie_smith_2004 | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 4:46 PM
i hear ya there my son is going through the same thingthe school hes in only cares about the money 

Name: abbymaker | Date: Dec 7th, 2006 4:52 AM
Hello... there is a law that the school must make accomadations for children with special needs... a 405 plan and get you child an IEP... The school district must help you. From what I have heard... you may have to change schools in the district where the help and the special needs teachers may be located. 

Name: flare2005 | Date: Dec 7th, 2006 1:57 PM
It's a countinuous battle...here's what my childs Dr. told me...1. Get extra help...2. modify the program....3. change schools. Well I've done all that and the only thing that did some good was the behaviour management class he was in....but when he did good they moved him back to his home school and everything started all over again. I started meds...noticed no change for the good, he's actually starting to become aggressive towards his brothers and sisters at home, and I hate how if an incident happens at school they send him home and the other child stays. That's not right if they want to get the message across that they're not going to put up with things at school then both kids should be sent home...not mine cause they know I am home. They've come to me and said some things were not his fault but they didn't want him to have a bad day so they were bringing him home...what a load of crap....and also a lady from another agency told me if they send him home without some kind of notice or letter stating why then send him back cause in his school record without a notice or letter it looks like I've been taking him out myself all those years. I was shocked but thought she's right. One more year and highschool...don't know what I'm going to do then....he'll probably drop out and the funny thing about all this...now the school where he first started that kept sending him home and would center him out in front of the whole school and wouldn't get the testing done..well...the principal at that school is being charged for fraud cause she stole school funding...crazy. I've thought about going to a lawyer...maybe if things would have been handled better back then...who's to say maybe he'd have had a better chance today. 

Name: abbymaker | Date: Dec 7th, 2006 6:51 PM
I have found a website that lets people know and what to do to get a 504 plan for your child... its against the law that the schools don't help your child www.help4adhd.org under educational issues... I hope this can help someone 

Name: dionne | Date: Apr 25th, 2008 3:02 AM
i think my child has adhd i need help. we adopted him at birth from a drug addicted mother. he was always a easy going kid til 1st grade it slowly became bad. this year he is in the third grade and now it is crazy .school want to kick him out.I don't know what to do . 

Name: Nicolas Sanchez | Date: Apr 29th, 2008 7:07 PM
As a medicated child my self i realized it was'nt the fact that there was no room for children like me it was th fact that the teachers did'nt want to deal with me, and didnt want to work with my disoreder as thye say. but i realized when i as on heavy doses teachers did not seem to complain, but i didnt feel good i was'nt the healthiest as i was medicated there for i was'nt diffenately not happy 

Name: kevin | Date: May 2nd, 2008 7:28 PM

Name: gdyfjdjd | Date: Jun 8th, 2008 11:46 PM
f--- you 

Name: Sara | Date: Nov 21st, 2008 11:23 PM
I agree. However, my 11 yr. old son has been on medication since he was 6. The schools both private & public still don't give him the one on one attention that he needs. The teacher's say they're too busy, they can't even get a teacher's assistant to help out. It's always some excuse, but the schools always want money for this & that. Go figure! 

Name: rory | Date: Jun 30th, 2010 4:07 PM
wait what 

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