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Name: chicadedee
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I would like to know if there is any legal thing we can do to the school, they know my grandson has adhd but they are not willing to help. When he gets bad in school they send him home on an emergency removel. They sent my daughter a letter that she could pick another school for him and they will pay for it...I'm sure u all know how bad i hurt for him. He is going to be 7
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Name: aktopsnax | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 8:33 PM
it sounds to me they are trying to get him out before you realise your rights it all boils down to special needs funds in the school and their understanding of adhd youd be surprised at the amount of people who still think its is an invented condition my advice is keep pushing you could find the same situation if he were to change schools.

Name: yveeb29 | Date: Apr 18th, 2007 12:48 AM
What state are you in? No child can be denied an education. that goes against free and appropriate public education. Is your grandson on medication? I am a special education teacher and I work with many children with ADHD. 

Name: daisy56 | Date: Apr 22nd, 2007 8:59 PM
Iknow what you are going throw i got a 13yr son who had the same problem you what to try and put him in special needs 

Name: docmom | Date: Apr 25th, 2007 5:28 AM
I do not know where you are but I had a similar problem. I can give you this info
They helped us tremedously. If your are in another state, they can probably give you info for your state. I wish you the best of luck. 

Name: LuckyBre | Date: May 6th, 2007 10:38 PM
You absolutely have rights. There are laws that protect children like your grandson - and my daughter. However, if the school district is willing to pay for private school, try looking at it as a possible blessing. My daughter, who was diagnosed as "off the charts" ADHD, started Kindergarten in public school. Her ADHD was not yet diagnosed or treated. She was constantly in trouble - and it wasn't because she wasn't trying. It didn't take long for this to start to have a big impact on her self-esteem. I felt terrible for her. One night, after yet another bad day, when I was tucking her in bed, she looked at me and said, "Mommy, I just don't fit. I'm not like the other kids. I don't feel normal". You can imagine the pain in my heart, it was all I could not to cry. However, at that moment I decided that, despite the fact that I couldn't even come CLOSE to being able to afford it, I had to transfer her to different class setting. I found a private Kindergarten with a MUCH smaller class size and a teacher who was willing and able to really stay on top of my daughter. The difference has been like day and night. She has been given new life - she's thriving. I only wish the school district would have offered to pay for it. I had to withdraw money from my 401k, we ate a lot of pasta and mac-n-cheese and I had to deal with being a brunette (as opposed to my preferred "very blonde" that I had been for the past 20+ years) to find a way to pay for the tuition for just the rest of her Kindergarten year. I am really concerned about having to put her back in public school next year for 1st grade - but I don't have the ability to pay for private school on a permanent basis.
If your school district is willing to pay tuition for your grandson's education...... please take the time to see whether this could be a opportunity for him to benefit from a private school education, including smaller class size - which is a huge benefit for ADHD children.
Good luck. I wish you and your family all the best. 

Name: grandmadiana | Date: May 7th, 2007 3:09 AM
Hi Chicadedee
First off, I am so very sorry that ANY school has put your child through this!! This is absolutely uncalled for. Your grandson has to be devestated not to mention your family. Just hearing this really makes me upset!
Now what to do. If I were you and your family, I would be at the front door in the morning waiting on them. As others have said in their responses, all children have the RIGHT to an education. If the school cannot provide an education they MUST find a way to do so. This is your childs right as a student. Where is it that you live? My grandson is going through the same situation right now. I have gone to the IEP meeting with the family. I wanted proof that they had to move him to another school. My thoughts are this; the teachers in a public school setting are not taught on behavior issues. They are only taught how to teach. I can say this as I went through a year of special education in college. The teachers are only taught how to teach the learning disabled. Very little is taught about behavior management. Oh sure they have a cutsie little plan set up. However, that plan is NOT meant for all students because NOT all students are alike. They are going to move my grandson to another school. This school has teachers who are able to handle behavior problems. My grandson has been dx with ADD ADHD PDD Anxiety Disorder Dyslexia and OCD. Put all of that together and you will have behavior problems. The move will hopefully benefit him.
You have a lot of choices...if your child does not have an IEP..demand one is prepared for him. If they cannot teach him in that school..they MUST provide a school within reasonable distance to your home and provide the transportation. If I were you I would also consult with your childs doctor as they can also stand up for the child.
I wish you much luck sweetie. You need a lot of support so try PRO PARENTS or an advocacy group near you. Please keep in touch with this group. I have found much positive support here. 

Name: stresseddad | Date: May 7th, 2007 3:42 AM
I would be in touch with a lawyer as soon as possible. We have been through somthing similar but once our lawyer got involved things got better as far as the school helping. Our lawyer told us it was a type of discrimination. Once the teacher realized that our daughter was not going to be moved her attitude changed and she was willing to help her. I hope you can have the same results we did. Good luck. 

Name: meliss | Date: Dec 12th, 2009 9:35 AM
how do i deal with a school that makes my adhd child feel like dirt they havent done a iep or a test for dyslexia like i asked nor gave me the papers to file for it but they blam him for things and punish him for things that are unfounded i have been in the room and seen the way they talk about him to his face and about him it has me to the point of blowing up and i dont know what i can do to make it so my son can do better in school without them treating him so poorly 

Name: Knan57 | Date: Oct 29th, 2011 6:35 AM
I want to take my grand son out of the school system.He is in a room with the other kids but his teacher is so worn out and budget cuts don't allow her a second teacher to help. There is one but she is there for all the kids oart time and shared with other classes so far as I can tell. I volunteered for a field trip and my grandson is placed with the group stratigically where he has more room for figiting feet and hands. Unfortunately these places are also not choice to see the boards etc.as it is for most the other kids to see. He, like most ADHD kids are, he is very bright and continues to test as such but is not learning directly but as always, abstractly. He can hear the discussion at the door as well as the conversations going on around the room.
These kids are way stronger than any of us!
God bless them all! 

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