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I have been going through the same thing that you all have. My son is 5 and has adhd and is bipolar. He drives me out of my mind. When I woke up this morning, I realized something. I was not helping my child at all. When he would throw his fits I would walk away or send him to his room. now i have been going through alot with him the last 4 years and I just got into the habbit of just walking away. I realized this morning that my son was running my life. I'm not saying that's true for everyone. But for me it is. So I have decieded that from now on it will be my way, no more running from him. I have to change just as much as I have to teach him. I just wanted to let everyone know that I have "woke up" to a new light and maybe.....help someone else. This road that we are all down is not easy at all, and I would like to thank who ever started this room and everyone who gives idea's to help others. ↓
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| Name: layne | Date: May 4th, 2006 11:36 PM |
thankful
you are absolutely correct, we are bullied by our children. It is easier to walk away. I am 42 years old and i had myself at such a state. I had a stroke for no reason 2 years ago and I believe it is because of the stress I had myself in all the time trying to fix this problem. My point being... I started walking away because i thought you wont kill me this isnt fair to my daughter or myself and husband. now i feel I havent taught him his boundries by letting him get away with bullying us. always getting his way. Theses are the worries we must all have. Picking your battles and wondering if they get away with to much and how that will affect him later in life with the people that wont or cant except them. im my weakest moments I wish it was graduation day and he is on his own. and i can live my life again. i hope i live long enouph to see that day. ↑ |
| Name: lisa | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 2:28 AM |
| my son is adhd w/ odd and agressiveness and i think he might be bipolar as well i know excatly what ur saying mine was throwing such a fit he got the cops called to the store all because i wouldnt buy him a toy gun he wanted.. i m at my wits end. need help any info would be appricated.. ↑ |
| Name: DD | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 9:15 PM |
| my daughter is 8 years old and has adhd, ebd, odd, and ied and i have a hard time dealing with her and she is driving me out of my mine as well. ↑ |
| Name: hana | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 6:36 PM |
| well my mother dosent always handle things in a rasional way and one day my brother jacob did something and she filpped, she hit him, she hit me coz i tryed to stop her (me and my brother are well close) and she basically threw him out and threw him a bag of clothes and called his father to come fetch him and he hasent been home since. this is terrible to say but i honestly think it made him 10 times worse, since he left hes smoked weed/block, lost his virginity, he drinks most nights, he destroyed a classroom and his phyciatrist will not see him because hes scared of him. its gotten worse since i left, my mother got very controllive after that and she decided she didnt like my boyfriend and i told her tough and she kicked me out so i now live 143 miles away and i was the closes one to jake. when my mam has manic depression (i was 112, jake was 8 and bex was 5) i was mum and i have been ever since, i made school luinches and i washed and cooked and cleaned and now im not there he dosent see my mother as his. so honestly be careful who you loose your rag with, because your kids will not thank you for it. explaine it, i know its sometimes easyier said than done especially when you need to staple ya kids arses to the chair to get em to sit still for 5 but honestly just try and explaine to them what theyre doing to upset you and frustrating as it may be they do things 'normal' people cant do like jake can play any sony on the piano he only has to hear it once. so find that special skill/talent and play on it. its theriputic and will give the both of you something to do together or give you both some time out, thats the best bit of info i recon youll get anywhere ↑ |
| Name: Mel | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 9:45 AM |
Hana,
I think you might be o to something here. In all of the research I've done, and reading a lot of posts from other families that deal with ADHD,there sems to be a common denominator....all of the ADHD kids excel in something. Whether it be math, recall, spelling, art, or music. Thatis really an interesting thing.
I would really like to research that idea more and see if ny studies have been done regarding this.
Thanks for telling your story.. ↑ |
| Name: Bear | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 10:15 AM |
My mother's answer used to be "Go!" She didnt care where, so long as I wasnt around her. So I went off and made trouble somewhere else. It wasnt a very good solution.
And Mel, you might be right. I hvae severe ADHD, and Im a very skilled cricket player. Its the one thing that calms me down consistently, even when I wasnt medicated. ↑ |
| Name: Anna | Date: Sep 20th, 2007 8:19 PM |
thankful
I am thankful that I found your entry today. My son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 5. He is now 8 and in 3rd grade. Last week new behaviors came out when he started a new school. His doctor feels that he is bipolar and has started him on a drug called Folian. Anyway, you made me see that I too have formed a habbit of walking away. It is easier. I hope me taking control will help things. Thank you for making me see the light! ↑ |
| Name: teresa schmidt | Date: Sep 22nd, 2007 2:27 AM |
| I have a 8 year old with adhd and mornings are a night mare and some nights too but I kind of understand what you are saying I tryed some thing diffrent tonight I ignored his bad behavior and let him throw his fit and then calmly talked to him and he seemed much calmer so if you have any more tips or ideas please share them with me I can be contacted at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Sep 22nd, 2007 1:19 PM |
I am sitting in my living room looking at my son having the (I lost count) fit of the day he is what I call spiking he is also 5 and I realize I have been doing exactly the same as you-I have been walking away-everyone told me that to treat a 'naughty child' you should ignore him when he throws a tantrum so I did........
my son has been diagnosed with ADHD and ASp Autism last week and my world it literally upside down-II feel very alone and very sad for my child as all I ever wanted for him is to have a normal life, mostly I feel so guilty that I didnt know the signs and symptoms all along and what damage I may have already done to him by walking away...how do you get over that guilt feeling? ↑ |
| Name: Peej | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 6:18 PM |
| I used to walk away from my son who has ADHD/ODD. The other day he had a major tantrum and instead of leaving him to it, I sat him on my knee and hugged him, and he calmed down immediately. When they make you angry you want to walk away ,but if you can, try hugging and talking, it worked for me. ↑ |
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