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help me please step daughter with odd and getting worse as ageing not sure if i van handle it anymore what to do HELP PLEASE ↓
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| Name: Cindy Lou | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 8:22 PM |
My stepdaughter has ADHD as well. She is 16 years old. She reads and writes at a grade 2 level.
It is hard for us as stepmothers to cope with this disability. The only thing we can really do is try to be supportive and understanding and make sure our husbands know how to make sure we feel okay about everything.
Sometimes I feel like I give SOO much of myself to him and his two kids and get next to nothing in return.
What hurt the most was that they didnt even call me for Mothers Day. I know I am not their biological mother but I have been with them for four years and last year they got me a card and stuff and this year they forgot about me. Then they call me the next morning, say nothing about mothers day and ask me for money.
GGRRR....I love them to death but sometimes I feel like I give so much more than I get.....its hard. ↑ |
| Name: jennifer | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 6:53 PM |
| i know how you feel i have a 9 yr old boy with adhd and odd and i also have 2 daughters (they do not have it) my son has been dianosed only for a year yes he is on ritilan la but it bothers his sleep really bad he wont go to bed until 1 in the morning. I am at my end to i have a full time job and his father is only around when it is convenient for him. I wont give up on Timmy. even when i feel like i want to i step back and look and he is still my son. Hang in it will be ok ↑ |
| Name: girlyduds | Date: Jun 30th, 2006 4:30 PM |
| My son was just diagnosed with adhd & odd. You are right. Sometimes I feel like I am at the end of my rope. I love him so much, but when he is on a rampage I just feel like getting in the car & leaving. But we can't & won't ever do that. It's just the wanting of so badly for things to be normal. We have to realize that this is normal for them. THEY CAN'T HELP IT. They have a problem, and just like I took my wedding vows of "in sicknes & health, In times of sorrow & times of need" those vows apply to my children as well. I will not give up on him. He is a very bright child with an IQ of 132. He will turn 7 on Aug 28, & is already going into the 2nd grade. He will do great things as he gets older. I just know it. But I have to be strong for him and ride this storm out. This too shall pass. God Bless you, hope you can get through this. ↑ |
| Name: amber dallaglio | Date: Jul 1st, 2006 9:02 PM |
hi, i have twin daughters, aged four with ADHD and ODD relating back to their premature birth, they wreck the house, they fight and tell me to "get out of thier face", they frequently reduce me to tears with taunts like" your a silly cow", i know they are four and dont mean it but so many people have said it gets worse with age, im so worried, my partner left us with little warning almost a month ago and this had made the girls worse. when they are good they are perfect, but when they are bad they are wicked!
ive hired an aupair coming over from the Uk to spend six weeks with us, to help me with them and look after them while i am working. im 14 weeks pregnant with another baby but have made no final decisions regarding this yet, its to far in the future! ↑ |
| Name: Heather mother of 3 | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 5:33 AM |
| I have a son with odd/add and being active has helped him tremendously. He plays football & baseball on the off seasons he loves to help cook and do projects. These are all incentives for his behavior. ↑ |
| Name: burgelg | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 12:06 AM |
| I am sorry to hear you too are going through this. I have an 11 year old daughter and I have been dealing with both of these since she was 5. Unfortuneately I cant offer any help because I too am seeking suggestions. Sometimes it helps a little to know you are not alone. I often think that others around me must think that I am nuts and all I do is yell. ↑ |
| Name: Monarch4 | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 6:34 PM |
| I have a teen who was diagnosed with ODD. and Now recently with Bi-polar. I have tried to get help anywhere I could, it wasn't easy. THe best advice I have is get help as fast and soon as you can, counseling and learning as much as you can about the disease. She's doing OK now but as soon as she's able to move out of the house she plans on it, and she'll have a very hard lesson to learn, life isnt how she thinks it is. It's hard on any parent keep talking with her and try to be there as much as you can, show her love and don't give up. I wish I would have tried more things sooner. for her I think it's too late, she can now say she doesn't want help and not take it, and there isn't much I can do. try and keep her in line and make sure she still respects family members. ↑ |
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