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I find myself arguing with my five year old twin boys with adhd. How i do i stop myself or dose anyone elese have this problem? help
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Name: nemrac | Date: Jul 26th, 2005 11:21 PM
My ADHD son is 10. I still argue with him at times, but the best thing I've done for this is read a book called 1,2,3 Magic! It gives you a very structured way to shut down the arguing.
Good luck! 

Name: skilark | Date: Jul 27th, 2005 5:46 AM
GOOD LUCK!!!! My son is 11 years old and I still argue with him. It's seems to me it is an on going battle. 

Name: Tanya | Date: Aug 3rd, 2005 1:33 AM
My son is five I think he has ADHD. I'm still getting him tested,but no word yet.I was reading about ADHD and it said to stop arguing, That we need to see that it is disorder.But, to get them to do easy tasks tell them one thing at a time.Becouse, ADHD children tend to forget after the first thing their being told to do.There is also eye contact when telling them to do something.I hope this helped, I they have worked for me. 

Name: cheri | Date: Aug 4th, 2005 3:18 AM
its me again boy do i ever, i do it with my twins 7 yrs old (boys) i still cant believe i am reading about someone else that goes threw what i do every day. i always felt so alone... i will tell you this is the hardest jod ever, 

Name: Lynn | Date: Aug 5th, 2005 4:46 AM
The only think that works for me with arguing is tell my 11 year old ADHD son that the discussion is over, I'm not arguing, and walk away. Couldn't tell you how many times I've locked myself in the bathroom to get away from him, but eventually, he gets the picture and backs off. If you aren't already seeing a counselor, I would highly recommend it. You may have to switch many times before you find the one that works, but you have to keep trying....there's someone out there for all of us...bad thing is that it's our job to find them. 

Name: wendy | Date: Aug 14th, 2005 10:46 AM
SOMETING EVIL TAKES OVER MY SON! (7) My son will start over the most ignorant thing, and then "it is ON" and he will fight to the death. It happens out of the blue and we see it, he will not back down, we can take away his most prized possesions or an upcoming favorite event, he "DOESNT CARE". It almost seems as though it needs to come to a final head and if we "quit" arguing with him he gets ugly will do whatever to get our attention, break something physically shove or push us, it doesn't matter he will do whatever. After it comes to a head he cries and flips out in his room and 10 minutes later will come downstairs and be the sweetest most loving and appologetic child ever! HELP 


Name: Michelle | Date: Aug 22nd, 2005 6:16 AM
I know exactly what you mean i have an 9 yr old daughter who has ADHD i argue with her all the time, its so frustrating, Im left feeling awful for shouting at her then 10 mins later shes being a terror again your not alone 

Name: Jody | Date: Aug 30th, 2005 4:03 AM
Wendy,
I know what you mean when your child is being aggressive and nothing you threaten works. Our 5 year old ADHD daughter is the same way. The only time I got her attention was when she through a fit and I sent her to her room (I had told her several times not to throw thing etc.) She went to her room and starting throwing pictures at the door, I went in and removed everything from her room except her mattress. I put everthing else in storage and she had to earn it back. She hasn't done it since. Good luck! 

Name: tracy | Date: Aug 30th, 2005 3:30 PM
my son is ten and he loves to argue, in fact he finds things to argure about even if they make no sense. I found the best thing to do is tell them how it is don't give him achoice and walk away. 

Name: boogie | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 9:04 AM
Give them seperate identities. They may be twins but they are 2 people and crave different attentions. Most twins are oppisite personalities and need the help to recognize the difference. Don't wait until they are older and they grow apart by clashing personalities. Email me [email protected] 

Name: Ruth | Date: Sep 13th, 2005 4:06 PM
Wendy
My 14 old son is the same way, but we have found out that giving him small rewards for doing good has worked wonders, like if he can go a whold week in school without getting into trouble he can have anything for supper he whats with in reason, or somrthing like that, the other week he was good so went to the zoo. That seems to work, i tryed talking things away from him when he missed behave and had the same trouble as you. If you would like to talk more you can email me at [email protected] 

Name: KathyK | Date: Feb 8th, 2007 6:12 PM
I have a 5 year old son with adhd and odd and I feel like all we ever do is argue with him. It is very discouraging and sometimes just depressing. I know he has a condition and he can't help it but I just wish that things would get better. He is on meds and when he was having tss counselors and mobile therapists it was helping him. He will get mad at the littlest thing and if he doesn't get his way watch out. I have put him in "time out"and made him sit in a quite place to calm down (sometimes works, sometimes doesn't work)and I have taken things away from him and made him earn it back. I also feel like a horrible mother and feel like I failed him, even though I know there is nothing I could have done to prevent this. As mother's we tend to blame ourselves. I sometimes get so frustrated that I do walk away just to stop from yelling and screaming at him which we know doesn't work. I understand what you are going through. 

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